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GET YOUR CHILDREN OFF TIK TOK *content warning for disturbing imagery added by MNHQ at request of OP*

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ChickenwingChickenwing · 07/09/2020 18:00

Shamelessly posting for traffic.

I have wondered all day whether to post this or not but ultimately it might help save one person from viewing something they shouldn't.

For every single one of you who allows your young child to use TikTok please be aware that there is a video circulating today of a man committing suicide. Yes, he did it in a live stream and the video is all over the place now. TikTok is that one social that you cannot prevent you children from seeing ANY content. If you allow them the app you allow them the content.

Get your child off the app now unless you wanted them traumatised for life after watching someone shoot their brains quite literally out.

OP posts:
SquirtleSquad · 08/09/2020 15:04

We've had an email from school about it now

Floralbean · 08/09/2020 15:11

I thought given the reactions of so many that maybe the thread was wrong sad

The thread wasn't wrong, unfortunately a lot of people are either head in the sand, or would just rather not know than impliment actual control over what their children can see on social media, which will take work.

ChristmasSnowball · 08/09/2020 16:07

It is awful and people have hidden it, so videos start as normal, a child dancing, a cute cat etc, Then all of a sudden it goes to the video and you see the man hold the gun to his head and pull the trigger

Its been uploaded thousands of times, So isn't just one video. It's lots of people that downloaded it, saved it and uploaded it again

netflixismysidehustle · 08/09/2020 16:39

Please stop using the word "trigger". Very inappropriate considering the subject matter.

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ChickenwingChickenwing · 08/09/2020 16:44

@netflixismysidehustle

Please stop using the word "trigger". Very inappropriate considering the subject matter.
Nobody has done this since 11:30am. Perhaps people HAVE stopped using it.
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WeAllHaveWings · 08/09/2020 16:50

We got an email from school today too. I had warned ds(16) about it circulating last night and told him some things you can't unsee etc.

One of the boys in school forwarded it to their snap chat group today at school 😡. He guessed what it was when it started and looked away, looking back when he thought it was finished to catch a glimpse of the aftermath for just a split second. Says it wasn't very nice but he didn't see much, he seems Ok. Really glad we had that chat last night or he wouldn't have had a clue what was coming.

thewalkers · 08/09/2020 20:07

I was too late to warn my 14 year old, he says most of his school have seen it today.
It was sent to him on snap chat and he said it was horrific and didn't think it was real at first.

MarshaBradyo · 08/09/2020 20:10

Dc not on Snapchat or tik tok but we did get the school email. Spoke about it anyway.

Chicchicchicchiclana · 08/09/2020 20:15

This just makes me immensely sad and I am really sorry you have HAD ANY SORT OF GRIEF AT ALL OP for trying to alert parents. It's a hugely serious issue in every respect and the nit-picking about the finer details of how you made your thread is just fucking nuts. Good on you for making the effort. I am so glad my kids are past TikTok demographic but of course there is also the chance they have seen this hideous video on their other platforms. What a horrific example of the depths that the internet has to offer.

PegasusReturns · 08/09/2020 20:33

OP I’m astonished at some of the responses you have received and it speaks to the enormous naivety of so many posters: you can’t educate DC on this issue re tiktok.

They’re not searching for this material on tiktok, they are receiving it in an entirely unsolicited manner.

The video was by all accounts horrific, children have been traumatised it. The advice the OP has provided was time sensitive so totally understand the stress of trying to ensure that she was heard.

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 09/09/2020 19:59

OP I'm with you 100% and since you started this thread it's clear you're referring to young kids, not teens or pre-teens.

Those posters who are happy to stick with the "kids will access this stuff somehow/you can't police their screens all the time" line of cool parenting ... yes this is true t a degree but as a responsible parent you work with them to risk assess or do it for them. Give them some access to some sites you feel are either pretty safe with controls on or view with them. I'm not on TT myself but know enough about it to not let DD 12 near it. Sure, she could see some disturbing stuff from it on a friends phone and there's little I can do to prevent that.

I sure as hell will not be the parent who enables this. Some shit cannot be unseen or viewed "safely ". This is a hill we should be prepared to die on folks.

MarshaBradyo · 09/09/2020 20:02

OP I'm with you 100% and since you started this thread it's clear you're referring to young kids, not teens or pre-teens

But you wouldn’t want teens or pre-teens seeing it anyway. So the op shouldn’t feel she needs to say young dc only.

Secondary school sent a warning fir teens here.

ThatDamnScientist · 09/09/2020 20:05

@AbbieFB

I’ve just googled the restricted mode and it does try to filter content. Not ideal but if children are going to use it then it’s probably wise to have it switched on.
The problem is this video is being tagged with things like cute animals, fortnite etc by some sick fuckers so that it is seen by people searching these things.
tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 09/09/2020 20:07

Hi Marsha yes you're right, I was wanting to remind those who are defending what older kids view as that's not the audience OP meant, if that makes sense?

But yes absolutely, no one should see this and OP has nothing to apologise for.

Chicchicchicchiclana · 09/09/2020 20:18

OP has nothing to apologise for, completely agree. It's an urgent thing that deserves a headline grabbing thread title.

jillandhersprite · 09/09/2020 20:53

We had the text from DD's primary school today. I'm glad they and the OP are warning about it... I think the people that attacked the OP for bringing it up in the first place need to reflect a bit more deeply on their own behaviour.
Thankyou OP

CandyLeBonBon · 09/09/2020 21:29

Just so you know OP, TikTok users are also up in arms. I'm a big TikTok user and I know that this is not being accepted passively without concern. I've seen a lot on there today about this and effectively vilifying the platform for not dealing with this more effectively.

Janus · 09/09/2020 23:04

Oh god, I’ve just found my 12 year old has seen it in a small screen, ie it was someone’s profile picture. We’ve had an in depth chat about it, she didn’t see it in close up but is obviously upset. I cannot take it away, I feel an utter fool for thinking parental controls and only having it on private would be enough. We’ve taken tiktok off her phone but it’s too late, the damage is done.
I don’t know where to go from here?? Do I keep bringing it up to talk about it? Do I tell her school? What do I do?

TheLastStarfighter · 10/09/2020 01:32

@Janus I think just let her know that you’re available and willing to talk about it if she wants to. If she is upset and has a pastoral teacher at school maybe bring it up with them.

Janus · 10/09/2020 04:33

Thank you @TheLastStarfighter, I will make sure she keeps talking to me. I didn’t think about the pastor care and will reach out to them if she wants to, good idea.

gamerchick · 10/09/2020 08:35

If anything really upsets my kid I let the school know privately anyway so they can keep an eye out. It helps the school if a kid behaves out of sorts and they why they're upset.

Janus · 10/09/2020 08:41

Thank you. She’s at a large secondary school, walks herself so not sure who I’d talk to to start with, maybe reception? I’ll see how she is the next few days as she is staggered start and not in today.

CPW91 · 21/04/2023 14:27

Please can someone help me im trying to delete my daughters tiktok accounts because of the vile trends she is picking up on and also the perverted messages in her inbox but I cant delete the account without the old number which we dont have anymore tiktok is obviously paying people to start trends for kids to pick up on the vile stuff I have seen on there suicidal videos, drug misuse, self harm. sexual cartoons like Gacha I dont dare give my daughter her phone until the account is gone because i fear her logging back in with me unaware tiktok makes it so easy for multiple accounts to be made with fake numbers but theres no way to delete them this is a war against our children its sick please how do I delete it without a number it wont let me send the verification to the email I tried everything I just keep posting videos on there telling tiktok to delete them and why I dont know what else to do

Bimbom · 21/04/2023 14:49

@CPW91 set up family link on your phones, you can just block the app from yours and she won't be able to access it at all.

CPW91 · 21/04/2023 14:59

Thank you appreciate it. Then there is also safari they can log in on the web do you know how to do that?

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