Neighbour letting children play in the driveway near naked?

[yonnie2011]

We have a neighbour who lets her 3 children play in the driveway with just a pair of knickers on. Her youngest son and daughter are about 3 years old max so it is expected at that age but her other daughter is probably at least 9/10 years old (she is much bigger and taller than my 8 year old DD who is considered tall). Is it just me or is that way too old to be in outside with no top and just a pair of knickers?
I would understand if it was just their garden but they play on scooters etc in the driveway (we live in a cul-de-sac) all the time. Today I went out with DS18 and DD8 and as we walked past them we tried not to look and my son was obviously very embarassed.
I would ask the parents to encourage the older girl to cover up a bit more but they moved in just before the outbreak from abroad so they don't speak English (I think they are east European). Should I put a note in their letterbox so they could translate it maybe?
Sorry for the long post but I just want to make sure I am not being unreasonable before putting something through the letterbox.

I think it's odd a child's body offends you... sorry i think yabu

What exactly is your issue?

It's you, why was your son embarrassed?

No issue, don't body shame a child.

Nothing wrong with it. What's so weird about it? Why was your son embarrassed? That's the issue I'd be looking at. Weird.

It is just that our neighbour lets her 9/10 year old play outside in full view of the other neighbours in just a pair of knickers and nothing else

As long as they have a decent sun cream on it wouldn't bother me. Your son's embarrassment is your son's problem.

Oh my god!!!

What?!?!?!? Why are you offended? You want body Shane a child? Shame on you.

I'm with you OP. That's far too old to be outdoors in a pair of knickers only. Even moreso as a parent I'd be very very worried about all the creepy sickos out there. Sadly there are so many child predators everywhere now that I'd never allow such. Sorry that's a side note but yeh from your perspective I totally get it.

I don’t like it either OP.

Why would you want to give your son the idea that girls should alter their appearance to make him feel better?

When your neighbours give you advice on how to dress your DD, then you can advise them on what their child should wear. Until then, mind your own business.

I think its inappropriate for safeguarding purposes, we're potty training my 2 1/2year old at the moment so she often runs around the house in pants and a top but never in sight of anyone else

Why was your son embarrassed? Because you've forced your weird views on him?

The issue here is you, not them.

They're children having fun, view it as that

I meant they play outside in the driveway in full view of everyone. If it was their garden the of course it is none of my business.
Also I expect the toddlers to dress like that but not a preteen...

I meant they play outside in the driveway in full view of everyone. If it was their garden the of course it is none of my business.
Also I expect the toddlers to dress like that but not a preteen...

I think its odd too, I'd put them in swimsuits, or shorts and t-shirt.

I probably wouldn't have my 10yo DD outside in just undercrackers, but I definitely wouldn't say anything to a parent and your son needs to look the other way.

One of my closest friends is German and she is way more relaxed about nudity than me. I think as long as the children are appropriately supervised etc don't ruin their fun.

I don’t see an issue to be honest.

It wouldn’t bother me, each to their own! I dress my boys every morning and by lunchtime they are pretty much naked 🙄

@Sunshinesweet123 At 1-2 years it is fine but at 9-10 years I find it a bit inappropriate, especially outside

@Hyerin name change fail? If she's prepubescent i don't see your problem. I'd have a chat with your son, his reaction is pretty weird.

It's completely standard for most of Europe for girls to go topless until they start growing breasts. I am half Italian and grew up spending summers in Italy and that was always the case. Even now, when we lived in London we went to Italy every summer and the custom is still common.

It might be worth doing some research and talking to your son about customs in other countries.

Would you prefer that the child wears the sexualized bathing suits and clothing that many kids that age wear.

I’d be far more worried about your son being embarrassed as that’s odd. Is he embarrassed at swimming pools around children in bikinis.

Why is it your business OP?