Would you let a 3 month old nap upstairs with baby monitor?

[Gettingonabitnow]

Hi

No haters thanks.

So no nursery now for my 3 year old, like most people. But DC2 will only really nap when it is reasonably quiet, and when DC1 is around screaming and just being a toddler, she really struggles to nap and gets fraught and upset.

I’m contemplating putting her upstairs when she needs a nap nap with the baby monitor on, checking her every 15 mins or so. What do you think? I want to do it for my own sanity, and also so that DC2 can get a proper nap in bless her.

Thanks x

Either the sleep space is in one area of the open plan baby area, or if they have a separate sleep room then one member of staff is in there, usually doing their observations paperwork whilst minding them.

Unless there is one person staring permanently at each sleeping baby how can absolute safety be guaranteed? Just having somebody in the same room can’t do this. How is somebody doing paperwork in the room guaranteed to see if a baby stops breathing?

Same situation here. A three year old and a 3 month old and older one not at nursery. I have no qualms putting younger one down for a nap (or bed time) with monitor on. As someone said above, how practical is it to constantly watch a sleeping baby... I wouldn’t worry Op

I currently put my three month old to nap with a monitor.

Unless there is one person staring permanently at each sleeping baby how can absolute safety be guaranteed?
No parent stares at their baby 24/7. For a start most of us sleep at night for a period of time, so I don't see your point.
Just having somebody in the same room can’t do this. How is somebody doing paperwork in the room guaranteed to see if a baby stops breathing?
Safer sleep guidance says babies should sleep in the same room as the adult even during the day.

Either you're genuinely expecting nurseries to have a sleep standard substantially higher than the safer sleep guidance given to parents, or you're trying to suggest that because nurseries don't stand over and have 1-1 supervision of each baby for the duration of their nap that it's totally fine to ignore safer sleep guidance because there's no higher risk by ignoring it.

Nether make any sense.

I agree @Napqueen1234 I was so over the top with Dd, if I ever have another child I will definitely relax a little - within reason obviously.

Oh Jesus you're fine
Unless you actually have a hotline to Jesus, you can't possibly tell her that her baby will be fine.

I don't understand the question! Surely that is the whole purpose of baby monitors? What would you use them for otherwise?

Either you're genuinely expecting nurseries to have a sleep standard substantially higher than the safer sleep guidance given to parents, or you're trying to suggest that because nurseries don't stand over and have 1-1 supervision of each baby for the duration of their nap that it's totally fine to ignore safer sleep guidance because there's no higher risk by ignoring it.

LolaSmiles. Perhaps re-read my post. I’m not expecting anything of nurseries. It’s of no consequence to me what they do as I don’t have a baby/child in nursery. I’m querying other people’s statements.

lazylinguist
Safer sleep guidance says babies under 6 months should sleep in a room with an adult, then after that they can be in a different room with a baby monitor.

Alexa they were my statements and both involve the nurseries following safer sleep guidance which is babies under 6 months should be in a room with an adult when sleeping.

If parents choose not to follow safe sleep guidance then that's up to them, but it is riskier than following it.

If your babies are like mine you can also hear their breathing over the monitor so if worried you could have quiet time and go up if you hear a change in breathing.

What, like if it stops you mean?

dental
At the end of the day it's up to each parent how closely they choose to follow the guidelines.

What's I'm more concerned about is the approach of some on here that seems to say "I do it so can't see what harm it will do" whilst not acknowledging that the relevant guidance says otherwise.

I think the SIDS advice is because they copy your breathing but I’m guessing you could tell if they were breathing nicely or not by listening.

I did. Have a paediatrician in the family and she agreed the benefits outweighed the risks for us.

I did this with all of mine, so yes I would

I did but mine were born donkeys ago and the advice was different.

My son only ever slept upstairs in his crib. We always had a video monitor and we checked on him regularly. I hate Moses baskets and would never ever put my baby in one. Also I don't agree with them needing to sleep downstairs at all. During the day when you are awake I don't think they need to be in the same room.
My mum done the same with all 3 of us.

My babies always slept in their own rooms from when I brought them home. So it's a yes from me. In fact the popular guru of the time advocated total blackout room for all naps (and that's when you got your other household tasks done).

Yes I did - both mine slept really well in a quiet, dark room & would do solid 2 hours. We had a monitor. Lots of people will say no way.

I had my children before this was the guidance and Id be very interested to know if SIDS deaths have reduced in the past 10 years. The risk for babies with no extra factors was tiny then, has it changed?

I can't imagine how people manage nowadays.

According to The Lullaby Trust SIDS deaths have been on the decline over the last decade with a smaller spike recently.

I did with my daughter. I won't with 4 month old DS, he has respiratory issues and has been very sick, I'm slightly neurotic about him and just hold him for every nap

Could you try a sling for baby? Appreciate it's a bit more restrictive than being able to put baby down upstairs but both mine slept much more soundly in the sling and were less disturbed by loud noises.

I did.