Am I lazy ??

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So basically DH has told me tonight I'm lazy and that I take him for granted he says he loves me but wants to change a few things in the relationship , its come as a bit of a shock to be honest but these are basically his issues

• I am at home on maternity leave with 7 month old , I dont really make his tea for when he finishes mainly because I find it difficult with the little one , he thinks meals should be ready for his return , he has asked that I start to do this

• night feeds- these are rarely now needed as little one is a good sleeper like her mum. Problem is I genuinely cant wake up in the night as I'm so tired so husband feeds little one despite being up for work at 6:30am. he has advised that he feels this is unfair. To be honest I never really give it much thought

Says I never make him a brew , also I wont change the bed and get him to do it as it hurts my arms changing the duvet

I do all the shopping, feed and look after baby in the day , put clothes in washing machine and also buy all the birthday cards we need for the year ,I sometimes go off to bed for an hour at night ( can often turn into 3 hours ) as I feel tired all the time * was bad anemic after the pregnancy)
Iv been crying all night about this and hubby now feels bad he says
Who is right ? Should I do more ??
I entertain our child all day and buy all her clothes , take her baby groups act

I'm not joking about the cup.of tea everybody says I make it wrong and a family member once said 'it tastes like Gnatts piss ' I dont know what a Gnatt is

You sound really immature. I think your husband is gently asking you to step up your game and I think this will become a much larger problem if you continue on the way you are now. Saying your arms hurt so you don't want to change the duvet is something my 9 year old would say

Night feeds. Ido thomkif you're on mat leave and he works you do them Sun-Thurs and he does them Fri and Sat.

Dinner, I'm mixed on. What actually happens? He gets in, you cook
late dinner and then you're all starving, or you feed yourself but not him or he cooks?

Bedding, do you strip and wash but just can't put it on? Or does he do it all? Can't see why it's an issue either way but don't see it would hurt you to get it washed in the say and he can remake it at bedtime?

Cups of tea, well if he calls it Gnats Piss then surely he doesn't want actually want it. Do you sit and ask him to make them all/ always wait for him to offer? Again I think it's a share job.

Does he have DC by himself much? He might not realise how draining it is, so def make sure he does his share weekends and holidays esp.

Get to the docs. If you're this tired when she sleeps all night and naps 3 hours in tbe day, you're really going to struggle if she hits a sleep regression and potentially when you return to work deo on your job

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gnat
Google is your friend 🙄
Thinking this is a piss take not the cuppas.

How can you not know what a Gnat is??

www.google.com/search?q=gnat&oq=gnat&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l3.2349j0j7&client=ms-android-huawei-rev1&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8

I consider myself to be spectacularly lazy but you outdo even me!

Buying birthday cards and baby clothes....hardly worth mentioning!

I agree with your DH. You are bloody lazy.

Thanks for the link for the Gnatt , god knows why my family members know what its piss tastes like. That's another thread I think
I'm gonna go back to the GP thanks for all your comments and suggestions it's being really helpful

Since you have the spelling pretty close, could you not have googled gnat?

Thanks weary with teens you seem to understand

Sorry duck I dinnt think to google it , seems a very strange insect to me iv never seen one

Do you want everyone to spoon feed you in life? If I was obsessed about a phrase I Would google it. Rather than repeat it on a forum, with faux surprise about responses.

The arms thing and tired makes me think anaemia still. One of my symptoms was drying my hair - I couldn't hold my arms up long enough to do it

I don’t know if I have seen one either. I believe they are quite small. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Duck90 I didnt think they was real.
Regardless apparently my cups of tea taste like their piss
I dont know why my arms hurts changing the bed I told my GP and he didnt have an answer for me , they wouldn't give me an arm scan

I think unless there is a health issue you can’t just expect to toddle off and have lots of sleep and leave him to do the feeds. IMO aa you’re currently at home and he has the stresses of work you should be doing more.
Do you have a slow cooker, you can just throw everything in, in the morning and it’s all done for tea time?

Is this post real? Something is off..

If this is real, then yes, you are lazy or possible I'll?

Also, you sound very immature. Can I ask what age you are?

God yes your bloody lazy!! I'd have been too embarrassed to write that post!

Its the "Good sleeper like her mum for me" ...

But yes its lazy.

Everybody who had been kind thanks so much I'm off to bed now
Hubby and me are happy with our little baby and we all love each other that's all that counts

I don't necessarily think you're lazy, but I do think you should be making the evening meal and getting up in the night with the baby, at the least.

Honestly though, I was getting a bit like this at 7 months which is partly why I went back to work at 8 months. I was bored, it was making me complacent. I am much more productive when I'm busy.

Love on it's own won't keep your marriage together.

You could be either:

A - suffering from post-natal depression,

B - have an underlying medical condition such as anaemia which is making you tired all the time,

or C - bone idle lazy.

Or possibly a combination of the above.

So once you are both back ta work, will the fairies make your dinner? Bad to get into the habit of you doing it all, but could do 50% Or pass the baby to him when he gets in and go nad make it then.
I was crazy tired after first baby and found i had a very underactive thyroid, worth getting tested.