How to handle this delicate issue re friend's DD?

[vannah]

So confused and unsure how to handle this. My DS (nearly 2) and I, and also my husband for that matter, all find it very alarming when our friends DD (same age) screams. Which she does every 30 seconds. Its astoundingly loud. And the mum, (my good friend) is very liberal and doesnt really say anything to the child. Ive noticed other people noticing it too. Worst of all, my DS absolutely HATES her, and attacks her every minute that we are together. Im pregnant and finding this very hard to deal with.

I dont think I have the courage to say anything to my friend. She is very sensitive and is often falling out with other mums and I dont want to lose her friendship, she is such a lovely person.

My husband says I should just avoid her, but Im sick of making excuses and would actually like to be with her. I just think my DS (who has a tendency to be aggressive with other children) is exceptionally aggravated by this child and the mother's refusal to deal with it is frustrating. I spend all my time scolding my DS whilst she does nothing to stop her dd from screeching.

Once again, its VERY loud.

thankyou for any advice

You're more worried that this little girl screeches than about your own child attacking her?

How odd.

I'd screech, too, if I were a child and another child with a 'tendency to be aggressive' were permitted to attack me ever minute I was with him. In fact, if I were a child, I'd probably start screeching the second I saw him.

I wouldn't worry about it too much.

I would imagine she is frantically trying to find excuses to avoid you and you 'aggressive' child

Honestly, if you cant stop your own child being aggressive and constantly attacking another child, why do you expect that she should be stopping her child from screeching - which may well be annoying but is not actually hurting anyone.

"the mother's refusal to deal with it is frustrating. I spend all my time scolding my DS whilst she does nothing to stop her dd from screeching."

Oh ffs.. are you for real???

What do you expect the mother to deal with?? The fact that your aggresive little boy hates her dd and attacks her evey time they see each other?

I'm so slow today - this is such a blatant wind up.

vannah, does your friends child screech when with other children/in other situations?

What does your friend say about it?

There are a lot of them about, Jeremy.

A lot of harridan newbies, too, firing in with all guns blazing.

well either meet in a park so that the screech isn't as loud

or if in your house tell the child to stop yourself

some children screech and squeal

sorry you've been jumped on unecessarily here. I thought it was patently clear you were dealing with your own child's aggressive tendencies which are normal for a 2 year old and just pissed off that she doesn't deal with the inappropriate noise - I get that

Maybe stop your son from attacking her and maybe she'll stop screaming

It sounds too much like Vonda.

a child who screeches every 30 seconds is a PITA

a mother who is controlling her child's aggressive tendencies to the best of her abilities is not at fault

wth is this jump on people thing?

Socialise with each other without your children being there.

Trip trap.

Boy, it's all coming out of the woodwork today.

has vanna been scared off now?
She isnt posting,

I would like to know what I'm missing expat and jeremy et al. Why are you jumping on the OP? have I missed a thread somewhere?

Quick, everyone ignore Fio!

I know, dont understand the venom?

Id like to know more please?

You are not missing anything.

You simply do not understand

is the op a notorious troll or some thing? Seems genuine to me...

Think theres a mouse in here............