How to handle this delicate issue re friend's DD?

[vannah]

So confused and unsure how to handle this. My DS (nearly 2) and I, and also my husband for that matter, all find it very alarming when our friends DD (same age) screams. Which she does every 30 seconds. Its astoundingly loud. And the mum, (my good friend) is very liberal and doesnt really say anything to the child. Ive noticed other people noticing it too. Worst of all, my DS absolutely HATES her, and attacks her every minute that we are together. Im pregnant and finding this very hard to deal with.

I dont think I have the courage to say anything to my friend. She is very sensitive and is often falling out with other mums and I dont want to lose her friendship, she is such a lovely person.

My husband says I should just avoid her, but Im sick of making excuses and would actually like to be with her. I just think my DS (who has a tendency to be aggressive with other children) is exceptionally aggravated by this child and the mother's refusal to deal with it is frustrating. I spend all my time scolding my DS whilst she does nothing to stop her dd from screeching.

Once again, its VERY loud.

thankyou for any advice

No I don't understand. Please share the secret Jeremy, I'd like to know what I'm missing out on.

There is much to be understood in the universe, dissle, Hector, and vannah.

Laalaalaaalaaa.

Anyone seen Fio around today?

She seems to have gone missing.

wtf does that mean?

meet her at night without the children if you want to stay friends

oh is it one of those 'gang up' threads again.

because a poster you don't recognise posts about an understandable, and recognisable, problem that they would like advice on.

Noise and aggressiveness both natural phases of toddlerdom

Lack of parental barriers also a standard bug-bear amongst parents.

What made you all take offence?

There is no secret.

Personally think this is a wind up, if not then the OP has a very strange view of the situation.

Hi nailpolish (tis Donbean) how are you hun, hows work?

That won't work, naily. Pubs can be dead screecy. Full of bams and that .

god is that you donbean, hello you (Twig here)

and Jeremy I read the OP too .. it seemed totally understandable to me

i ddnt take offence
i think it s one of these situations where you just cannot birng it up with the other parent becuase its so clear the opinions are opposing iyswim

again, i suggest staying friends in the meantime means meeting without the children

the poor woman probably needs a break by the sonds of it

It struck me as a wind up, too, Jeremy.

It seems to be going on here a lot.

omg donbean, ive missed you!

work is fine, just doing bank just now, nightshift, its what suits, you know? what are you up to these days?

Where is the OP then?

I don't know, Jeremy. Probably with Fio. I don't know where Fio's got to.

Fio you say?

Rings a bell, a very distant bell........

well if it was a real problem by a newish poster she's probably been scared off by being jumped on

and if it is a troll she's probably sitting back larfing

Am of the opinion that this is a wind-up too.

But if it's for real then you need to get a grip.

Two year olds scream - fact of life. You can't do anything about it, and the best way to deal with it is to ignore it. Which your friend is doing.

Your child, on the other hand, is aggressive and attacks other children - this is something you can do something about, before it gets to the stage where no-one else wants to play with your son because of his aggressive tendencies.

Maybe you'd like to consider that the other child screams every thirty seconds because she's being attacked by yours "every minute that [they] are together"?

hehe!
im now in a teaching post, medical devices 3 days a week and i love it. no nights, no weekends and best of all...NO POO!!

Hiya Twig, glad you are here on this thread, thought i would be on my own with this, i hope that the op is a troll, because the reaction is enough to send you jumping off a building!

And what WWB said.

oooh what kind of devices?

everyone is moving to better things, im stuck here wiping arses on nightshift

No poo is a good thing.

Poo makes me sccccrrreeecccchhh.

My ex h's best mate had a pet cockatiel.

Want to talk screeching? That thing could peel paint with his screech.

two year olds scream that's quite true

but they do not screech loudly every 30 seconds .. that IMHO needs as much attention (through diversional tactics / removing child) as a child demonstrating aggressive tendencies

oops forgot to say well done and all that