Witnessed my friend smack her 2.5 year old - very upset

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Okay so I know this is a sensitive subject and people have different opinions but my friend is very strict with her child and in my opinion a bit too strict and regimented but her child her parenting I guess.
She often does time out and makes her apologies which fair enough but this afternoon we went over for a play day and I witnessed her smacking her child on the bum quite hard.
For simple reasons like not sharing which in my opinion all kids do it and she is only 2.5 years old! I came home and burst into tears, it has really upset me seeing her do it and the child grabbing her bum in pain and crying 😢
I like my friend but I don’t agree with this at all and I don’t know how to feel

I would have had to say to her that I thought she went too far and she shouldn't smack her 2.5year old. I too would have been mortified and extremely upset, the child grabbing their bum and crying in pain.
She's a fucking disgrace (and I don't swear)

Anyone saying it ok is also a disgrace, how can you purposefully hurt a 2.5 year old, you're own baby at that !!! Some people shouldn't have children, 1st sign of that, hitting your child.......boils my blood

I saw a man and a woman separately smack their child in a restaurant . Firstly the man smacked the child ( prom about 5 ) right across the face at the dinner table . He hit the child so hard I was so shocked and my blood ran cold .

I later went down to the toilets and saw the woman smacking her child whilst dragging the child down the corridor . She stopped when she saw me .

I was so horrified I froze and didn’t do anything . I was young and I regret that .

I still remember this vividly to this date because they were these GROWN adults who creaky couldn’t cope with the antics of a 5 year old child .

I’ve seen other parents TAP their child , on the wrist or bum , which is clearly not very hard or overly aggressive and intended to shock the child rather than hurt them . You see the child recoil but not crying with pain , but not remembered that in lots of detail

That doesn’t seem as memorable as those where you see something which seems disproportionately violent or aggressive on a young child it can be very distressing

OP , only you know what you saw and if it feels uncomfortable it probably was .

My dc are 12 and 15 and in all the years of them growing up I have never seen any of my friends hitting their kids, and I have never hit mine. There is no excuse for it, ever. There are ways of raising children to be polite, well behaved citizens without resorting to violence.

To be honest I think it’s the end of the friendship which I guess would happen thank you for all your support guys and input I appreciate it.
I’m gutted Iv lost a friend but I’m happy that Iv spoke up and said what I thought, too many people let things like this go

,itsnotallrainbows Well done for letting her know how you feel, it cant have been easy for you but I think you did the right thing.

@Nonnymum it was so hard and it’s basically been turned around on me and how I am in the wrong which I guessed was going to happen!

Of course you are not in the wrong. You spoke out about something you were concerned about. I understand how hard that can be. I am sorry if it has meant your friendship is over. But I think maybe it would have been hard for you and your child to continue to spend time with her anyway as your parenting styles are so different.
I hope things work out for you.