We want to holiday alone FOR ONCE

[Jackandjane]

We recently booked our first holiday abroad. We want to go just me, my son (who has a progressive disease) and my partner. Every holiday we have been on in uk my parents have booked it, even though they have been like Haven type things that they hate anyway.

Anyway, everything was getting too much, them being domineering, trying to control how we bring up our boy (i am 33 and my partner 41) and we tried to talk to them, it ended up in a argument but the dust has settled. My dad is a heavy drinker and that causes problems too. They said they would back off a bit in the end.

We have booked allicante, said can you feed our cat when you are passing for these specific dates. They said ok. Then I have gone to their house today and they said sorry we can't feed the cat we are on holiday that week. I said ok ...the neighbour will do it.

They have booked the same flights, same resort! I told them we specifically wanted to go on holidsy just us three as we have had such an awful year with my son being so ill in the past and everything is better at the moment. I am so angry they have done this after telling them not to do that.

Can you change your holiday? Or at least a different resort?

That's awful. Can you change yours without telling them? Some operators can make changes before the holiday date.

Stop telling them stuff!

See if you can change your dates or the resort.

I can see why you are annoyed!! I would try to change resort if poss.

That. Is. Batshit.

Change resort. Don’t tell them. And then maybe in future don’t tell them your holiday plans... they sound insane.

Are they worried about something happening to your son while you are away without them? Do they think you wouldn't be able to cope? Do you usually rely on them a lot? If it comes from a nice place you need to talk to them. Alternatively....change resort and don't tell them.

Im going to call their bluff. Pretend we have booked elsewhere. Hopefully they will change their flights, hitel etc. Because we cant :-( i already asked my partner.

That sounds a good plan OP if you can't change yours.

If not your just going to have to ignore them for a week. Don't plan things with them. Table for 3 at breakfast.

@user1474894224 well considering i had to stop them looking after my son due to my dads alcoholism, we are certainly more responsible than them. So im not sure why they are would be worried lol x

How bizarre. Why did you tell them your flight and resort details, though??

I mean, I wouldn't be that specific with anyone

I don't understand who tells people their flight details especially when they have form. Is this a wind up

Well theres only a couple of flights the day we fly and my brother said i should be honest with them because they would be hurt if i didnt tell them. But i thought being honest and saying it's very important to us that we go alone would be fine for most reasonable people. Also with a big argument last week about backing off, and they agreed then that was it. I didn't know they were this f***g crazy.

Never tell them your plans again,just go and make other arrangements for the cat.

You should've just put your cat in the cattery. Why cant you change your holiday? That seems unlikely. You will be charged but you should be able to do it. If you call their bluff they might just stay with their original holiday anyway.

They used to look at my calender that is round the corner in the kitchen. I used to wonder how they knew what i was doing all the time. I thought i must of mentioned something and forgot. Then i found my calendar plan wrotten on their calander. So now i have to hide my calendar :-|

@kenandbarbie we have booked the flights directly so we cant change them and wpuld loose the money. And yeah i guess i could change the hotel but its pointless because we are flying to that area anyway. And the cat is an inside cat and would hate a cattery.

Or i suppose they could be potentially bluffing me. To upset me. Because i never outright told them thats where we were going i just said thats where we probably would go (even though we had booked it by that point anyway )

I would be tempted to change the hotel even if it seems pointless as it does make a point and at least you won’t be bumping into them at breakfast. But don’t tell them, write it down anywhere or tell your brother!

You can at least change resort, right?

And lesson learned (again)!

Is the hotel you booked a chain? They are usually very good Spanish chains at switching you to a different hotel in their range.

At least then you can be in a different resort.

And switch off your phone when you're there!

@youarenotkiddingme it sounds gpod in theory but they would never forgive me if i dont givevthe daily updates on my son x

Did you ask why the hell they had booked your holiday when you had told them you didn't want them there?
Weird and spiteful behaviour.

@whatsnewpussyhat no because they started off with "unfortunately we can only go on holiday this exact week". They are retired. So that's lies. So whats the point in arguing with people like that. Ive learned alot about my parents thos past few weeks. They are just annoyed because i stopped them looking after my son. Which by the way was because my dad is an alcholic.

You sound thoroughly enmeshed with them, OP. So what if they don't get daily updates? Will the sky fall in? Let them complain.

I second talking to the hotel chain and making changes, if at all possible. And limit information in the future, including stuff to your brother.