How many of you have a 3 year old who sleeps through the night and stays in their own bed?

[Summerdays2014]

Hi,

I have a 3 year old and he has not slept through the night in his own bed since July.
We have tried several things several times but after a few days we give in as we are so tired and it’s easier to let him in. It’s now got to the stage where I can’t take anymore and am sick of being woken up, kicked and not sharing a bed with my husband.

My husband thinks that most 3 years don’t sleep through and it’s not uncommon for them to sleep in their parents bed. Is he right?

Thanks in advance.

Both of mine slept through the night in their own beds always
But from memory i think they were unusual..

My 2.8 year old sleeps through, but is still in a cot so slightly skewers it. I'm dreading getting a bed to be fair!

Yes mine slept through since they were babies and always in their own beds. They've never slept in our bed. We all need our sleep! I dont want to sleep with a toddler.

Mine both did, but we worked really hard at it. We were very strict with them.

Mine has never slept in our bed. He stays in his bed all night and comes through when the sun comes up on his gro clock in the morning at 7.15. We have always been super strict about staying in bed once in bed until the morning (bar illness/need for a wee) from when he was a baby. However, I suspect luck also plays a huge part.

All of mine, by 3.
There are still quite a lot of kids who are up at night at this age, but the majority aren't.

At this age, unless there are other circumstances like additional needs or major upheaval nor trauma in their life, I don't see why any child should be up in the night.
It's a totally valid choice to cosleep - we just haven't as we've had younger babies in with me - but if you don't want to, then you don't have to.
I'm not a big fan of sticker charts but they work really well for this kind of thing at this age, along with 'rapid return' (you can Google it).

My son is four in June, he sleeps through fairly well, but if he does wake up he is allowed to come and get in bed with me if it’s light in his room.

My DD who is 3.5 has only just started sleeping in her own bed all night she’s been in our bed since 6 months old. Always started off in her own bed but came into us always between 11-2am.
I don’t know many kids with good sleeping habits these days, they all get there though. I found as she’s got older it’s been easier to reason with her more.

Huge sympathies. My 3 year old has just started sleeping through (8-5.30/6) probably 1 night in 3 and never 2 nights in a row, just to keep me on his toes. Think that maybe because he's dropped his daytime nap but is fighting sleep from about 5 o'clock. It's exhausting isn't it. Currently trying to get him to sleep and he's already asking if he can sleep in my bed. His cousin was the same too. Don't think it's that unusual talking to some of the other parents at pre-school.

Ds slept right through at 9 months in his cot. To a bed was zero change. He asked to go to bed once he could talk.
At 3 he was more than happy to go, one story, kiss and straight to sleep.
He is 4.5 and loves his bed.
Less fuss at bedtime is the key ime.

My eldest two always slept in their own beds and my DD is 3 now and sleeps in her own bed and doesn't get out of it. She waits until I go in in the morning to get her up before leaving her bed unless she needs the toilet.

Mine did, never slept in our bed (but we were strict, followed a GF routine), he self settled and never got up at night, yes, we were very lucky.

First three did and then we got a gamechanger and now 4 yo and 6 yo are up every night ( 4 yo never really slept at night, 6 yo started at 4) most people I know with 3 yo's seem to be up nightly

I have a 6 month old who does. And a 5yo who was the same. I think a decent chunk of it is down to genetics (I was also a good sleeper, as was my sibling) but we did do controlled crying with our eldest when she started to not want to go to bed / be left and we will do the same with number two when the time comes. I like sleep too much and I think it's a 'cruel to be kind' scenario.

I do.

The others didn't though, so it is pure luck. The eldest is still a bad sleeper aged 11.

Don't compare ot talk to others, just survive it. Good luck.

My eldest was mostly sleeping through and almost always in his own bed. Youngest mostly sleeps through. When he wakes he sometimes refuses to go back to his own bed/climbs into ours without us noticing. I will admit that we’ve been lazy with him.

Mine does now, but only recently! She's 3 (4 in 2 months).
Coslept for 18 months because she just wouldn't sleep otherwise. then put her in her own room in a bed and I ended up going in with her most nights until about feb this year when I bought her a new bed and let her help redecorate her room. Now she mostly sleeps through with the odd night where she wakes crying or comes into bed with me. Letting her decorate and pick things for a 'big girl bedroom' definitely helped (and rewards from the House fairy for sleeping through saved my life!)

It's a bit mixed with the other kids I know though, some sleep and have done since a few weeks old and others still wake at 3/4/5.

I feel for you op, it's really hard to have it every night. Could you try reward charts/bribes?

I knew my husband was wrong!

My son is at my parents for a couple of days so we can sleep and when he gets back I have decided we are going to sort it out. We have tried sticker charts, gro clocks, putting him back to bed without talking every time. In desperation I contacted a sleep consultant but the charge is huge!

Developmental they are not supposed to consistently not need you at night until they are 7 years old. DD is just 3 and we have mixed nights, weeks of being fine but then illness, a trip away or a run of nightmares and she wakes up.

1 out of 3 did.
One non sleeper slept in own bed but woke multiple times a night.
The other wouldn't even go to sleep in own bed at age 3 and instead went to sleep in the sofa and was carried up and then at some point would come through and climb in with us. Still goes to sleep in my bed at age 7 and is carried through to their own but tends to stay in it now!

Unless there are additional needs it's perfectly reasonable and achievable for a three year old to sleep through the night in their own bed.

You just need to be consistent. Every time you give in you make it harder to enforce the next time.

Put a stair gate on his bedroom door. Watch the 'in the night garden' episodes where upsy daisy gets cross when other characters get in her bed, focus on everyone sleeps in their own bed. Sticker in morning if stays in own bed etc.

My 3 year old is about 50.50 for sleeping through but he also wakes early. My 6 year old wakes at least twice a week and the 9 year old occasionally has nightmares. Its exhausting.

All 5 of mine did. They were bottle feed after the first few weeks and we never co slept though. We had sleepless nights of course, due to teething, illness etc but by 3 on a normal night they all slept through.

6 year old woke at least once a night until he was 4. Now sleeps regularly through on own bed. Almost 3 year old wakes twice ish a night. He either comes in to us or I go into his large bed with him