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DD doesn't call me Daddy :-(

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Manc1993 · 05/04/2019 13:30

My 2 year old daughter calls me by my first name instead of Daddy. I gently tell her to call me daddy but nothing has changed and still calls me by my name. This is concerning me and I need your advice. My daughter always calls my partner mum or mummy, so is there something I am doing wrong or is it just a phase that she will eventually grow out of. I give my daughter all the love and attention I can give and feel a little aggrieved and upset that she doesn't call me daddy or dad. I need your help

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Manc1993 · 09/04/2019 07:13

DD has start calling me daddy but still calls me by my name sometimes. At least progress is being made but a I wish my name was never mentioned Infront of her in the first place because that's how it started. Started to really hate my name and want to change it by deed pole.

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Manc1993 · 09/04/2019 07:16

Calling your parents by there title was a big thing in my family no one ever called their parents by their first name

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fluorescentorange · 09/04/2019 07:17

It is just a phase, don’t make an issue of it and it will soon stop. She is just copying what others call you, my son called me by my first name from 2-3 then reverted to mummy.

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Chilledout11 · 09/04/2019 07:33

I have a 4 and 5 year old who both called me by my first name for a long time at around age 2. Now they call me Mummy and I didn't do anything- I used to find it funny.

TheLastPharl · 09/04/2019 08:42

In the nicest possible way op you need to calm down. It’s just a phase and you’re going to make your dd very confused if you keep going on about it.

Saying you want to change your name by deed poll is way over the top! She’s a tiny tot. Names mean nothing to her yet!

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 09/04/2019 08:58

So you've had progress in only four days!
You need to chill a bit, you are beginning to sound a bit bonkers to be frank.
You are going to be dealing with a whole heap of parenting issues bigger than this, get some perspective mate.

Shelbybear · 09/04/2019 18:44

That's such a shame. I would correct her too. Longer it goes on harder it is to change. Don't take it personally.

My nephews call their grandads by first name but not the grans. I think that's because they weren't told off for it or told no that's ur grandpa etc and they r grown up now and still use first names.

My girl does call my dh and me by our names sometimes for a reaction and laughs, usually after one of us or someone else had just called us by it. She's almost 2.

Wowzel · 09/04/2019 18:48

My 2 year old sometimes calls me by my first name, she knows it is naughty though and does it with a glint in her eye!

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Manc1993 · 09/04/2019 23:42

I am getting results her new word for me is now daddytrevor 😀❤️ I think I have been overacting to the situation but I needed help and advice from you all. Your advice has been brilliant and made me feel better knowing I am not alone in this. I am letting her learn in her own time but I will continue to get my DW to refer to me as daddy Infront of her xx

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Manc1993 · 09/04/2019 23:45

I apologise for overacting suppose I expect results too soon it's my first child and I am still learning about the whole parenting thing

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Goldmandra · 10/04/2019 14:24

I apologise for overacting suppose I expect results too soon smile it's my first child and I am still learning about the whole parenting thing

You're in good company on MN

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Manc1993 · 12/04/2019 07:49

I understand it's not her choice to call me by my name she is very young and doesn't understand that to her I'm daddy she has heard other people around her calling me by my name so she picked it up and knows Trevor refers to me. It's just a phase and she will grow out of it. She always repeats my name when she wakes up from a nap and a sleep no idea why lol but she calls me babbytrevor throughout the day.

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Manc1993 · 12/04/2019 07:53

Just hoping she doesn't keep refering to me as Trevor when she's older. If she does I will gently tell her "It's Daddy to you not Trevor" or "You will get what you want if you say the magic word Daddy" what do you guys think?

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bluejelly · 12/04/2019 07:57

Seriously try not to worry. The less fuss you make of it the quicker it will pass. This applies to lots of annoying phases children go through!

Boxerbinky · 12/04/2019 08:16

Our 2 year old ds calls us both more by the dogs name than anything else It's definitely the name we most say in the house so I suppose it makes sense 🙈

Newmumma83 · 12/04/2019 08:19

I was and as an adult am a complete daddy’s girl ... but I recall Going through a stage of calling my dad By his given name ... I just remember finding it hilarious.. I don’t think it’s a reflection on how she feels about you x x

highstresslevels · 12/04/2019 08:40

My child is nearly 2, and calls me dadad (I am her mum)

TheRumor · 12/04/2019 10:12

My DD is 3, but about 6 months ago she went through a phase of calling both me and her dad by our first names.

We have always referred to ourselves as mummy and daddy, but she became fascinated that other people would use our names and thought she was ever so grown up using them.

It fizzled our after a while. Just continue to refer to one another by mummy and daddy and she will start using it too. Even so, if she doesn't but still associates you with all the things that daddies and mummies do it doesn't really matter so much in the long run. But I see why you would prefer it!

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Manc1993 · 12/04/2019 10:50

I am a very patient and an understanding parent but at times it can be frustrating because I would rather be called Daddy not Trevor. Our DD always calls her mother (my partner) mummy without fail and always refers to me as Trevor. At first, I thought it was because she had more of a bond with her mother but realised that my name stuck with her due to my name being mentioned all the time.

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Manc1993 · 12/04/2019 10:52

I just wish everyone around her referred to me as daddy in front of our DD from day one. Now I am in a constant battle to teach her to say Daddy

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Newmumma83 · 12/04/2019 10:53

Get her mum to call you daddy ... maybe that will help?

SickOfThePig · 12/04/2019 10:56

My husband is referred to as Daddy Pig by our Peppa obsessed daughter so it could be worse.

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Manc1993 · 12/04/2019 10:59

My DW told me that she says Daddy and Where's Daddy whenever I am out and not at home but when I am at home she calls me Trevor most of the time. Its infuriating but I love her :-)

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HumpHumpWhale · 12/04/2019 11:01

I agree with everyone else's advice, but just to give a different perspective, I call my dad by his first name and always have. It doesn't say anything about how I feel about him, I was a total daddy's girl growing up, and love him very much. It's just the label I have for him. I actually find it a bit weird meeting people with the same first name as him, I feel like I'm calling them dad. For your DD, the name Trevor means daddy. She doesn't know about the cultural connotations of the word Daddy. To her she has a mummy and a Trevor. It isn't a sign of anything. It's just what she calls you.

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Manc1993 · 12/04/2019 11:02

The worst thing I have to face early in the mornings is our DD calling Trevor Trevor Trevor Trevor until I get up and get her changed and her breakfast on

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