What are your thoughts on guests turning up unexpected... all the time?
When me and my partner had moved out together his mum had got herself and the rest of the family keys cut while we where away without asking. (Yes probably being helpful... good to have spares)
But I came home from work one time early afternoon because I felt really unwell so I stripped off and got straight into bed to have a sleep. The buzzer went but I wasn’t expecting anyone or any deliveries so I just ignored it next thing I could hear my boyfriends mum outside the apartment door putting the key in so I jumped up and shouted “I need to get dressed”... I open the door and his dad, mum and their friend Elaine are standing there to come look at our new tiles. My partner didn’t think anything was weird about it and thought I was strange for being in bed at that time.
Now we have a baby she constantly turns up but whilst my partner is at work and she’ll bring his nephew along sometimes too. I don’t know about you mums but if I’m spending the whole day trying to clean sometimes I’m still in pjs until 5pm.
Yesterday she didn’t even ring the outside buzzer you let herself in the first door and knocked on the apartment door. It makes me feel uncomfortable because if I was in the bath or even on the toilet and couldn’t hear the door would she of just let herself in?
I don’t know if I’m just super anti social where I find this annoying or it is weird for someone to not call before they show up? and how would you address the situation to mil?
It’s not that I don’t want to see his mum but I could be doing anything at the time or the baby might be due a nap so if she’d let me know I could plan around it and maybe have a tidier apartment when she turns up.
(This is also the mil who started weening my baby on rusks before I had started weening her myself)