He's 12. I realise I'm actually starting to hate him. Its long and complicated and I haven't got the energy to type it all out. We've had support for a few years, been on parenting courses, have family support, he's had childrens mental health assessment, blah blah blah. None of it changes the fact that he' a horrible little shit (and no I don't say that to him) . I've decided today I'm just going to give up trying with him anymore, 12 years of loving, caring parenting (by me and DP) has got us nowhere. So I've decided he can f*ck off today. Roll on his 18th birthday so I can get rid of him.