6 year old causing havoc with neighbours

[Amiemac]

I’m literally at my wits end! We live in a street I grew up in as a child. It was a great neighbour hood, now since my kids have been in it the neighbours are so easily annoyed. Don’t get me wrong my 6 year old is no angel but I seem to be getting knocks at my door constantly over him. It just puts my anxiety levels up and makes me feel really low. A few months ago he threw a few stones into one of their gardens and the man came up and was extremely rude about it and approached me in a horrible manner, fast forward to yesterday my next door neighbour came out complaining about a football that hit her window. I’ve spoke to my son about this and have even went as far as to ground him for the week, I just feel as though either I’m doing a bad job parenting or my neighbours hate me. I’ve had a rough year with a miscarriage and mental health issues and my neighbours are very aware of this, I just don’t know what to do.

Stones in a garden? That is a trivial event how is that trivial? My children play in the garden. I spend time in the garden. My dog is often in the garden. If anyone threw stones into my garden which could potentially have hit one of us, I would go round and have a word with the parent too. OP you say you’re looking for advice but posters are giving advice and you’re just getting defensive. The fact is that if your son is causing these problems, then he can’t play in the garden unless you are out there directly supervising him. Not sure what anyone else can say?

@iamagreyhoundhearmeroar I was born in this street and I’m 35 years old and actually if the neighbours rue the day I moved in then that’s a pretty long time!! God love me you mean having to listen to your insults! Away on to another thread and torture someone else

@soydora that’s pretty sound advice to me, the reason for being defensive is if you read the comments some of them are down right nasty!! I can take some criticism or tough talk! I can’t tho tolerate ABUSE

Footballs really should be saved for the park. How about relocating to the back garden and giving him stuff to build a den? There's plenty a kid can do in the garden without the danger of damaging other people's property (or other people!). I'm afraid you're the one being unreasonable here @OP.

Abuse? Like having things thrown into your garden or at your house? Or being advised to start stepping up and parenting your child?

Stop feeding your own drama on this thread then.

@rhiannon13 in what way am I being unreasonable??

You asked for advice and you got it. Sorry you don’t like it but there you go. You stated that your neighbours were constantly knackered cling n your door about your 6 year old. That says to me there is more of a problem. That’s why you have been told to supervise your child. No child is perfect, no parent is perfect but fro. Your responses on here you come across as very defensive and sound like one of those parents who whilst they say their child is no angel, think that they really are and everyone else is wrong.

My 7 year old would act the same way. It's typical infant school boy behaviour.

For this reason I have to watch him like a hawk. I wouldn't let him play out in the front garden unless I was out there with him (which is annoying when the weather gets colder).

He has soft balls to chuck about in the privacy of his own room and I take him to the park or football club most evenings to wear him out.

In what way have you been abused?

Where is the abuse? People are just responding to what you have said.

How do you think people should respond to having balls kicked at their window/stones thrown?

Your responses are very unreasonable, but I think you know that.

@wolfiefan are you for real there was two things in a period of months! There’s like over a 100 comments here in the last hour of total ABUSE

If it's easy to hit a window then maybe a football isn't the toy to play with? Get him a trampoline or a sandpit or something not likely to go through someone's window.

Throwing stones is not on. He could have hit someone or a pet.

@cheesefield would you like someone to call your child a dick??

So, this has gone the same way as many other similar threads recently... 🙄

Abuse? No. You posted saying you were having “constant” complaints. So you were advised not to leave him unsupervised by a responsible adult. Then you suddenly say it was twice and go all defensive complaining you’re being attacked. Either your OP was a lie or you’re minimising.

So by your own admission the tone and language of your opening few posts has been exaggerated yet you then get upset when people pick up on it and the contradiction that causes!

As has been pointed out to you several times, the op did not call your child a dick, they said behaved like a dick. I’m amazed you don’t know the difference. And and can you point us to the other abuse you have received, I will report it for you on your behalf

1 person out of 115 comments said your child had behaved like a dick.

No one else did. The rest of it is not abuse, it's just peoples responses to the facts you have given.

@thanossavedme I’m being defensive of myself on this thread not my child’s behaviour

Pp not op

I get that amiemac but where have you received any abuse?

wow I really wonder what the problem is here. it's a total mystery to me. I guess we'll just never know.

Let him play in the back garden instead - problem solved.

If this has only happened twice why does he need to be grounded for a whole week,why can't you just tell him not to do it again.