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Is six children too many ?

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mozhe · 21/05/2007 17:09

Someone,( a colleague..but I do not know them well ), just stopped me in the corridor at work...noticing I was pregnant they asked me if it was my first, when I told them ,' no, it's my 6th '...they said,' six is too many ', and strod off....Is six too many ?

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mozhe · 23/05/2007 22:42

Kitty...I work fulltime and always have, I also do private work in my own time...so yes both DH and I are well paid.We justify mat nurse ££s as this year we won't be going on a big summer hol, so will use money on baby's arrival instead...makes sense imo..

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juuule · 23/05/2007 22:44

Kitty - you have 3 hours of help, too? I think I've gone wrong somewhere here - no extra help for us at all....
Mozhe - hope that's during the day I think I'd be a bit annoyed if it was the middle of the night. Having said that - for how long after giving birth do you normally take to your bed during the day? Just curious.

Cammelia · 23/05/2007 22:44

Am v surprised by not meaning to be offensive

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juuule · 23/05/2007 22:45

Nope - the more I think about it the more a mat. nurse would get in my way. I think I'd prefer a cleaner and a cook.

LoveAngel · 23/05/2007 22:45

mozhe I struggle to believe you are a real person and not a character in a particularly bad 'chicklit' story. If you ARE real, you are fucking funny!

mozhe · 23/05/2007 22:46

She is not a slave otter ! We do pay her very well,( worth every penny imo..), and she must think we are ok to work for as this is her 5th time around the block with us....and she did twins for us last time !

..but do you know WHAT she was implying mamazon ? V.odd...

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Otter · 23/05/2007 22:46

i did not see anything offensive camm!]

i would love night nurse but not sure it would feel right

LoveAngel · 23/05/2007 22:47

she 'did' twins....pmsl

mozhe · 23/05/2007 22:49

Nice, Loveangel....we move in different circles obviously, as I know lots of mothers who have similar lifestyles.If you work in a demanding job and want to get back to it AND have a large family,( and, sadly, are getting old...44 ), then youneed lots of help...

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Cammelia · 23/05/2007 22:50

Oh don't be silly mozhe, yiou do know how babies are made don't you.

caterpiller · 23/05/2007 22:50

We have 5 and are now trying to decide whether or not to have a 6th and final, so 6 could be a good number...

Don't get the MN concept though. I wouldn't want someone else so closely involved...

mozhe · 23/05/2007 22:51

I'm beginning to have my suspicions about what's causing it Cammelia...

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LoveAngel · 23/05/2007 22:51

You're right of course, mozhe.

Say 'hi' to the Parker-Bowles for me, won't you?

mozhe · 23/05/2007 22:53

eh ?

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Cammelia · 23/05/2007 22:54

lol

mozhe · 23/05/2007 22:56

I suppose it is a bit offensive...but funny all the same

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PartyClown · 23/05/2007 23:17

I have 5 ranging in age from 13 to 3. I don't have outside help, but am a SAHM during the week. I work week-ends, when dh is at home with the children. It's bloody hard work, between ferrying them to 3 different schools, taking them to music, cubs, football, gaelic (football), doing all the housework, making dinner, and so on. But the MOST difficult thing, is trying to give each of them the attention they need.

It's relatively easy when they are younger, but once they get to 6/7 years, they need more than you playing playdough, or baking or reading stories. They need help with schoolwork, and music. They need for you to know who's not talking to who at school and why. They want to go to town shopping with you on their own (and I don't mean the food shopping!), they want to have their say without 4 other voices interupting.

I agree with Katy, you don't have time to obsess about the small stuff, and they all have to pitch in which is good for them. They have more freedom because I can't be looking over their shoulders every minute of the day. BUT I wish I had more time to give each of them individually.

I don't think 6 is too many for Mozhe. Not yet at least( wait til they get older.) Or anybody if they are willing to put in the work that goes with them.

By the way, Katy am very at your hour to yourself every day.

Cammelia · 23/05/2007 23:20

Partyclown that is such a cool post

PartyClown · 23/05/2007 23:22

Thanks, normally I just lurk.

Cammelia · 23/05/2007 23:24

Stop lurking girl. With that level of rationality m/net needs you.

Sakura · 24/05/2007 00:59

THat maternity nurse set up sounds amazing! PErsonally, Id do the pacing up and down part myself, but who wouldn say no to general pampering on that level after having a baby? It should be on the NHS. I bet levels of PND would drop dramatically. All they are doing is basically looking after the needs of the new mother. All I got was my EMIL. I read the first page of the website, but the nurse sleeping in the babys nursery wouldnt be for me, though. I co-sleep with DD, but even if she had a nursery, I donT think I could handle another woman tending to her needs and sleeping next to her. I was far too possesive of my baby.

ScottishThistle · 24/05/2007 06:02

All very interesting!

Yes, believe it or not ladies there are lots of Women who do enjoy having a MN around especially if they're a first time Mum or have little ones too.

If you can afford it, then why not as the first few weeks can be very tiring (for me also & that's without the breast feeding etc!)

Once upon a time people used to ask me why on earth people need a Nanny & now I get asked so what do you actually do when your Maternity Nursing!?!

LynetteScavo · 24/05/2007 07:52

I've been thinking about this. To be honest, If someone told me they had 6 children, I'd think, what a lovely big family they must be. But if they told me they had 7 or 8 children I'd think, whoa!

Idreamofdaleks · 24/05/2007 08:04

It's an individual decision. Is six too many for you? It is only about your thoughts on the matter.

Others will pass judgement on the number of children you have however many that will be, from zero to 20. Everyone and their circumstances differs so I don't know what is to be gained by asking other people.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

kittyhas6 · 24/05/2007 09:54

I actually find toddlers and preschoolers very difficult. I don't like them much. I much prefer them once they get to 5 .

Thanks for the info Mozhe, must say I'm slightly at the level of help you have. i would like that AND sahm, but I'm greedy

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