Abu to be sick of hearing parents whine about school holidays

[Bekstar]

Our kids are about to break up for a weeks school holidays. Me personally I can't wait to spend some proper time with my child. I'm lost when he is at school. Regardless of how well he is behaving I never wish he was back at school.
But what annoys me is the amount of posts on social media lately about how parents are dreading the school holidays, that they can't wait for them to go back etc.
These are your kids, not the teachers, yours, they spend 6 hours a day at school, as it is. But then you begrudge them having a little time to let off steam at home. Personally I had my child because I love kids and although I know school is important for him, I love the holidays and love to spend time with him. Because during school term time I only see him for two hours each night before he is asleep, we don't get much time to do anything and when we do it's normally homework related. Weekends are super busy as it is because it's the only time DS gets to see his grandparents so again we are limited to the time we get to spend together just as a small family. So when school holidays come I'm over the moon, I get to spend quality time with my child. But then I hear parents whine about how there should be less school holidays or that they wish they were back at school, it makes me pity their kids. These are children who have spent every day for weeks on end away from their families, and so what if they are exited and a bit playful because its the holidays. Make the most of it
My mum had 7 of us and still made room for more through the holidays. We always had friends round, cousins stopping etc. Not once did my mum ever complain, she always made sure to spend time with us during school holidays even if it was just over a bit of gardening or playing board games.
Instead of whining about looking after their own children, some parents need to rwalise they brought that child into the world maybe they need to spend some time with them. Don't just leave your child to entertain themselves and then wonder why they fight and squabble or scream and whine. Plan something to do with the that's fun. Enjoy the time with them. They will be back at school before you know it.

[missmouse101]

Still unreasonable post OP. Still difficult to read without PARAGRAPHS. I can't waste my time on this any more, I have children to look after.

[omione]

Yes holidays aren't the easiest of times but why do some Mums make it hard for themselves ? STOP asking your kids what they want to do and START telling them what they are going to do, if you ask more than one child what they want to do today you will get different answers,what do you expect when they start arguing about it then 1 sulks because they are not getting their own way ?
As for the cost its a bit like Christmas, you know its going to happen so save for it after all that is what the
child benefit is for. Get your Children to draw up a wish list now of 3 things they would like to do in the holidays then consider with them if it is possible.
Before you know they will be adults, and the days they will remember are the ones where the had your time and attention the "stuff" that you buy them is not important in the long run they just want your attention and before you say you dont have the time answer this how much time do you spend with your phone clamped to your hand updating facebook or mumsnet ?
Will the children remember your face clearly or your face with a phone in front of it ? Be honest with yourself

[freezerfoodyum]

omione in return for all that helpful and not remotely patronising advice, I'd be more than happy to give you advice on how to use paragraphs.

[NataliaOsipova]

I love the school holidays. Look forward to them. Get that “back to school” feeling I used to get myself as a child. BUT....

a) I’m a SAHM, so no childcare worries
b) No money worries, so we have loads of fantastic days out
c) My two kids are best pals

What I fully understand, though, is that if any of the three things above were different, then I might feel differently about it....!

I think this is the cause of so much unnecessary angst on here on all topics -people fail to realise that other people’s lives and experiences aren’t exactly the same as their own. Once you understand that, it doesn’t surprise you at all that their choices and opinions are different from yours. It’s easy to say that you value time over money, for example, if you have a lot of money and much more difficult if you don’t.

[omione]

FreezerFoodYum: Not patronising at all just the truth. Message was typed using paragraphs but appeared on screen without. I did manage to learn sumfink at school and Uni

[Fireballfriends]

Holidays with one school aged child must be bliss.

10 days with 3 under 5s (who have very different needs except for one - me) IS enjoyable and I do feel #^^soblessed but it's bloody hard work, draining and can be expensive. I need eyes in the back of my head from the minute I wake up until they go to bed and I need about 8 extra hands. Which I don't have.

Can't imagine how much harder it must be for those with SEN issues.

Yes - shock horror, different families have different experiences....

[SweetheartNeckline]

I am a SAHM with enough money to go on days out and access to a car. We also live somewhere well populated with lots of friends nearby. Of course I enjoy the school holidays full of lazy mornings (not rushing off to holiday club / work), days out and ice creams (costs money, but easily accessible for me with the car) and catching up with friends.

Not everyone's situation is the same. School isn't childcare but it forms the backbone of most people's arrangements, and changing those arrangements is costly and a faff.

[NotEnoughTime]

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[TheDrinksAreOnMe]

That’s cute OP

I work all hours gods sends as does my husband, we have to drop hours in order to look after the kids. That doesn’t pay the bills.

Bless you for having the liberty to spend so much time with your children.

You have a brass neck

[DavetheCat2001]

I'm fed up with Half Term already.

Weather is shit.

I have tried to do something with the kids every day so far for a few hours, but have to work too (luckily at home), but there have been a LOT of films watched...and yes I do feel guilty.

[SoyDora]

I’m 9 weeks pregnant with severe morning sickness, DH is away with work for the week, it hasn’t stopped raining and most of my friends with children are away. I’m struggling with this half term.

[SoyDora]

And mine aren’t even at school yet!