Our kids are about to break up for a weeks school holidays. Me personally I can't wait to spend some proper time with my child. I'm lost when he is at school. Regardless of how well he is behaving I never wish he was back at school.
But what annoys me is the amount of posts on social media lately about how parents are dreading the school holidays, that they can't wait for them to go back etc.
These are your kids, not the teachers, yours, they spend 6 hours a day at school, as it is. But then you begrudge them having a little time to let off steam at home. Personally I had my child because I love kids and although I know school is important for him, I love the holidays and love to spend time with him. Because during school term time I only see him for two hours each night before he is asleep, we don't get much time to do anything and when we do it's normally homework related. Weekends are super busy as it is because it's the only time DS gets to see his grandparents so again we are limited to the time we get to spend together just as a small family. So when school holidays come I'm over the moon, I get to spend quality time with my child. But then I hear parents whine about how there should be less school holidays or that they wish they were back at school, it makes me pity their kids. These are children who have spent every day for weeks on end away from their families, and so what if they are exited and a bit playful because its the holidays. Make the most of it
My mum had 7 of us and still made room for more through the holidays. We always had friends round, cousins stopping etc. Not once did my mum ever complain, she always made sure to spend time with us during school holidays even if it was just over a bit of gardening or playing board games.
Instead of whining about looking after their own children, some parents need to rwalise they brought that child into the world maybe they need to spend some time with them. Don't just leave your child to entertain themselves and then wonder why they fight and squabble or scream and whine. Plan something to do with the that's fun. Enjoy the time with them. They will be back at school before you know it.
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Abu to be sick of hearing parents whine about school holidays
Bekstar · 25/05/2018 09:38
@hazeyjane nail on head there!! I am nothing but a glorified referee for most of the school hols!!
Sounds as though OP doesn’t have holiday childcare to source/fund, plenty of annual leave, if working at all, and only one child.
I think I’d quite enjoy the holidays in her position 
for most of us it’s a little more complicated than buggering off on a jolly everyday.
That said, I obviously adore my children too, and always look forward to some down time with them. I just can’t abide with the #making memories #missmybabies crew, it’s not really real life is it?
I also love spending time with my children. I try not to spend a single second away from my beloved loin fruit. That's why I took all the doors off all the rooms so I can follow them everywhere and see their darling faces whenever I want. There's no way I could bear to outsource any part of their care by sending them to school though, how can you stand it op? Just 2 hours spent with him a day? That poor little angel of yours. Does he even remember you're his mum 
. Each to his own though. I'm sure you're doing your best....
I like the holidays when I can be home for them and am always sad when DS goes back to school. I love not having to get up super early to get DS up for school and the fact that time is less tight, that DS seems happier etc BUT
- DS is an only child so we don't have squabbling - This is often a major problem for families with more than one child and I am sure it would drive me bananas too
- DH and I work and we share the childcare so it is not all my responsibility. I do still find juggling leave/childcare a bit stressful sometimes. For instance - during most half terms DH and I juggle a few half and full days off each and DS does to some sort of club for one day. This ends up being quite quite stressful workwise so sometimes I am relieved to go back to my normal work routine when school holidays finish as I am sometimes a bit behind with work by then
- DS has ASD and although he does actually cope well with school and he is doing very well at the moment, we have had some behavioural issues there in the past ( in the distant past we had a lot!) At home we don't have this so it often much more relaxing and when he goes back to school I get a bit anxious about what may happen or what we might have to deal with before the end of the term. This used to be more of a problem when his behaviour at school was much worse but the feeling is still there.
So although on the whole while I personally am usually sad to see the end of the school break, our situation is the reason for this (i.e only child who generally behaves much better at home than at school in a family with two working parents who share the childcare)
I can completely understand why parents in other situations might feel diferently - eg squabling siblings, FT working/lone parents who struggle with childcare or SAH parents who struggle to entertain DC/stop them fighting etc.
So overallI think YABU
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