When did you first leave your baby?...

[FirstMumToBe]

And for how long?
Curious x

First baby was 4 weeks for an overnight, second baby was 6 days for a weekend.

Ten months for 1 night on our wedding night!!

It was a long time ago. Baby was a week old left her with her dad for the evening to celebrate a family birthday. I may ve the exception to the rule.

Ds was 10 months when I left him for a couple of hours at nursery. He was 2 before I had a night away from him.

Dd was 7 weeks old when I left her for a couple of hours for an appointment. I'll probably have a night away when she's about 7 months, all being well!

I left my LO at nursery (full days) from 9 months, but never over night yet 1.5 years now

I think he was a couple of weeks old, he stayed with his DGP and we went for breakfast, it was about an hour.

Wasn't really my choice, earlier in the week DP said "my dads going to take DS for a walk on Sat morning" He followed it up with if that's okay when he saw my face but he had already told his dad it would be okay so I just kind of went with it. I never had that instant rush of love and it took a long time to bond so maybe that was why I didn't fight back about it. Needless to say everything was okay.

Number one was 12 months when I went back to work and left him during the day, save for the odd hour with his dad or my parents. Left him at night for the first time when his brother was born just before his second birthday. Same with all subsequent children. Two year age gap between them all.

What do you mean when you say leave them? For an hour? A day? Overnight? Are you counting leaving them with their father?
There’s quite the spectrum

DS is two tomorrow and I’ve still not been away from him overnight. In fact, DP has only just done his first bedtime, last week

cole

It’s not awful to leave my children with their capable father, thank you.

You have no idea what the situation was coleworld, so maybe subdue your disdain.. No one asked for your judgement on the actions of other posters.

Baby 1 overnight at about 12 weeks
Baby 2 is 16 weeks and I can't leave him as he's ebf

Cole keep your negativity to yourself!

DC was a week old, left her for a couple of hours to go to the hairdressers, which DH had arranged for me. I was long overdue a cut and colour and after a traumatic birth and 3 nights in hospital he thought I deserved a pamper!

He's also as capable of looking after the baby as I am, he enjoyed the time with her.

Cole I think you should apologise for the unnecessary and judgemental post

I remember I went to get my hair cut maybe at 8 weeks? First time leaving him with XP (we did live together at the time). 4 months the first time we went out in the evening with a babysitter. 2 years first overnight.

I think this time I'll be quicker to let DH take him out - I can't imagine doing it all on my own even though I did last time - strange how things change.

Technically ds2 at birth. But he was premature and went straight to intensive care and stayed there for a loooong time. And you can’t sleep at night in the ICU. When he came home I went off with DS1 for a common hobby when he was just over a year old and was away for one night.
With ds1 I went away overnight when he was nearly 2 for a conference.

We have no family nearby (closest family is 10 hours away by flight) so overnight with the grandparents is not an option.

When you say leave them - do you mean with a non family person? I can’t remember with my DT’s. They were in special care for a couple of weeks without us and when we got them home, I imagine I went out without them and they were with DH (or my DM or DMil who both came to stay when DT’s were very tiny).

3 weeks, for a few hours. DP and I went to the cinema while his aunt (my sister) looked after him.

First overnight, I think he was probably about 6 months

How is leaving dc with dad any different than dad leaving dc with mum when he goes back to work (usually after 2 weeks, if not sooner)?

Nothing worse than people who think they are a fuking hero because they've never left their baby with another capable adult. Coleworld I hope you don't fall off the pedestal you've put yourself on.

theanonymum1 - why has your DH not done bedtime/nights from birth?

About 3 weeks, for a couple of hours. I had an abscessed tooth which needed draining. Because I was BFing I didn't want any anaesthetics ... heck, compared with childbirth the pain was nowt, I nearly fell asleep in the dentists chair.

Move on waiting.

Lorelai maternal bonding, fourth trimester, hormones and all that jazz
Have to admit I’m a little bit surprised that a mother would want to leave their less than a week old baby for a whole weekend too