When did you first leave your baby?...

[FirstMumToBe]

And for how long?
Curious x

For all you know cole the OP could’ve posted this because she has no choice but to leave a newborn for whatever reason and is feeling immense guilt. Which you’ve just added too. Well done you.

I don't remember when I first left DS1 with DH. He was about 5 months old when we went out fit a few hours together. I didn't spend the night away from him until he was 3.5 and I was in hospital having DS2.
DS2 is 13 weeks old and I went to Tesco for an hour a couple of weeks ago leaving him with DH.

What do you mean by "leave"? DS1 I was separated from just moments after he was born, and I didn't see him for more than a day after that as I was too unwell. Obviously not my choice.

Other than that, if you mean leave overnight, not until his brother was born 4 years later. Again, not through choice. But we had gone out lots with baby sitters for evenings, from about 10 months old or so. Just not ever for an overnight stay with anyone else.

About 6 weeks for an hour or two to get my hair cut, overnight at 5 months, with my mother, but only because she lives 15 mins away and had seen DS nearly every day since birth. He’s 15 months now and although he goes to nursery a few days a week, I can’t see me leaving him with anyone else except DH or my mum in a hurry.

Depends what you mean by 'left'?

We left Dd with my parents for a couple of hours when she was about two weeks old to go for a meal in a pub about 5 mins away from them. I had a lovely big glass of wine, chicken liver pâté to start and a rare steak. I remember the wonderful feeling of the freedom of not being pregnant well.

Then DD started to care if I wasnt there and it became much harder to leave her

I first left her overnight at 4.5 months with very capable DP to go on a hen do where I was bridesmaid. We've never left her overnight with anyone else yet and she's 15mo, but if the opportunity presented itself we probably would.

Not talking about popping to the shops for half an hour, but overnight or the weekend?

How do you know OP isn’t in deaths door?

How do you know I wasn’t hospitalised?

Dd1 was about 6 weeks when I left her for the first time and 12 weeks first overnight.
DS was about 2 and was left overnight night at 41/2 when dd2 was born.
Dd2 was about 9 months old first she went out without me and she has never spent a night away. She's now 2.

Well I don't but I was asking what are some good reasons to leave a 6 day old?

No you bulldozed in straight away saying how awful it was.

Maybe engage your mind before your mouth next time.

With our first, we went to lunch at the pub about 30 seconds from our house when she was 6 weeks old (my mum stayed at our house with her). We went out for the evening (for a wedding) when she was 7 months. But we didn’t leave her overnight until maybe 2.5 as we bedshared. Our 2nd is 11 weeks and he doesn’t take a bottle, so I’ve not so much as left him with my dh yet.

Cole - do you realise that the pp you are criticising left her babies with their father?

I just meant in general, me and the oh have had a 2 night stay planned from before baby was planned! He’ll be 8 weeks old and struggling with the thought of leaving him, he’ll be with my mum and she’s more than capable, and my lo is very easy going so I know he’ll be fine!

Ah ok just saw your last post. You are clearly bonkers.

About 8 weeks, for an afternoon.

10-11 months, to go out for lunch with the husband. Baby screamed the entire time. Fun times.

cole my vag was fine thanks hun.

My eldest was about 6 months when I left her for a couple of hours in the day and she was 2.5 overnight.

My 13 month old was left with his dad for a few hours here and there from a couple of months old (gradually getting longer as he was going longer between feeds). I have never left him overnight.

(that was to Cole btw)

FirstMumToBe you know your baby so I’m sure you’re right and it will all be fine. It will probably be a much needed break as caring for an eight week old is hard work!

If you are breastfeeding it will be more effort than it is worth at that age. Why can't you take baby too?

I left DS1 when I went back to work at 5 mo, with his dad. Had a night away when he was around 20 months. DC2 is following a similar timeframe.

At birth (baby went to nicu for three weeks). That was hard but I hadn't really let myself bond during pregnancy as we weren't sure she would make it so it was this weird limbo period where I knew I had a baby but didn't feel like I had a baby.

After she was home I left her for a few hours to do an assessment centre for a job I had applied for when I was pregnant when she was 8 weeks. That was ok although managing my boobs was tough! She stayed with her dad and was fine.

I first left her overnight at six months when I had to stay overnight to do the induction for the new job. That was tough. She was fine with her dad but I found being apart from her really hard.

He was about two weeks when he stayed overnight at my mums. I don't think it matters as long as you're ready and the person you leave them with is capable whether that be 1 week or one year. We all need a break from time to time