When did you first leave your baby?...

[FirstMumToBe]

And for how long?
Curious x

Cole thank you for your last post. It puts all your other (mean) posts into context as now it’s obvious you are bonkers.

If you trust your mum then give it a go. You might hate every minute but equally you might enjoy the break.

Cole that last comment. You are vile. There are a million reasons someone might have to leave their newborn baby and none of them are any of your business.

Overnights under 6 to 9 months would have been very difficult due to breastfeeding, just wouldn't have been possible or pleasant really.

For me I couldn't have left mine for 2 days/nights at 8 weeks. If it's upsetting you, can you just take him with you? Or postpone the trip?

@coleworld work? Because you’re an adult with friends and family and often have the support of other people to help you maintain normal adult life? Because other people in your life need you (illness/injury/bereavement) and its unsuitable for a baby to be with you? Because you want to do something for yourself like a haircut like many have said? It’s not difficult to think of a few reasons beyond death’s door!

3 weeks and I went for a birthday meal with foams left her with my parents

4 months we went for a weekend away, 7 months too

She now regularly (about every three weeks) stays the night at my parents, or here and dps mum looks after her and we have an overnight somewhere. She's 9 months.

Shes spoilt with affection with the grandparents, I'm sure she has a better time than with me!

With baby one it was an overnight at six weeks. With baby two it was when I went back to work at five weeks, but I didn’t do an overnight away from that one until about 10 months.

Looking forward to Cole’s answer to what difference there is between newborn being “left” with Dad rather than Mum. I just want to see it there, in black and white... Winder if she tells her own kids how much she’s sacrificed for them!!

Left hospital and dropped DS with grandparents whilst me and DW went to watch the football! I make that around 15 hours! Good for grandparents to bond with their grandson! Unfortunately, we lost the match!

First DC I can't remember.

Second DC - 6 weeks old overnight with my mum (less than 12 hours). We were meant to be going out for a meal but went home to sleep instead.

I haven't sacrificed anything. I chose to have a child. They are only small once.

Yes it is different for dads, you were pregnant, went through labour, are breastfeeding etc.

OP maybe I'm way off the mark but I get the impression that you are being talked into this by others, or feel like you need to go so as to not disappointment? If you are not happy leaving them, then just don't. Change the date, or take them with you. You are their mum and you get to decide!

First 16 months for overnight, 20 months for being awake.
Second is 20 months and had to be away for 2 and a half months of overnights while she was in nicu and some points since where DP has been in hospital with her to give me time with DD, but not at all optionally yet.
Feel a lot more clingy with her as shes been very unwell lots of times so even though shes more relaxed than my first and wouldn't care if I left her I wouldn't enjoy being away from her yet.

If you’re not comfortable leaving them OP then don’t do it. You won’t enjoy the trip otherwise and the anxiety will be awful.

I've never left mine overnight. They're 5 and 2.

@coleworld They don't double in size after a night away. They'll still be 'small' when you get back

cole the only thing my husband can’t do for my kids that I can is breastfeed. Which I didn’t do anyway.

Teaandtoast I am talking about the 'sacrifice' comment someone mentioned above.

I left him at one year overnight because I was admitted to hospital for hyperemesis. I wouldn't have left him if I'd had a choice in the matter.

Whatever you're comfortable with is fine. I know some people can't wait to go out and let the grandparents babysit. I don't want to leave him with anyone but DH still and he's now 19 months, I probably won't be happy until he can easily communicate really.

I should add that the 2 year old is still breastfed, and the 5 year old breastfed until 32 months. This means that they woke/wake quite a lot at night, and needed me rather than DH.

About 4 months for a couple hours whilst we had a meal down the road

Dd was 6 months when I left her with her Dad to go shopping with my mum for the afternoon. I've never left her overnight, partly because she won't settle for anyone else!

5 months for the afternoon to get hair and nails etc done was the first time I wasn't with her. Then when she was 10 months I went away for a 40th birthday or 3 nights. She's 2 now and averages an overnight with grandparents/godparents every 6 weeks or so. She's turning into quite an independent little girl who's happy to go off with everyone so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Week old for a couple of hours to go the hairdressers, a couple of days a week from week 10 when I started back at work, no plans for overnight yet and don't feel ready for that

Ds is 11 months and I haven't yet. Well apart for surgery straight after birth but I don't think that counts.

We don't have a support network of such where we are so I can't see it happening in the near future either.

It's horses for courses really. As long as you are comfortable and secure with the person left in charge. I used to be a nanny and was left babies who were days old for 12 hours or more. Sometimes options are limited and sometimes parents need a break.