Proud to have breast fed

[Keepdlingwhatyourgutsays]

I will start off by saying I don't care if you bf or ff. I see so many posts where women say they ff but none on bf. they get taken down or people straight away think it's a dig. Honestly what ever you chose to do you do.

However after so many negative and nasty comments when I was breastfeeding I can say I did it. I didn't give in to the people who were nasty I didn't let them bully me into stopping. I was a younger mum not young young but I was young and I was still very insecure about a lot of things and I did not feel supportive.
I do remember once the first time I breastfed on the bus I did that thing where I assumed everyone would be staring and one elder gentlemen was and he just grinned a very kind grin and that kept me going through some of the nasty comments.
If you are breast feeding and getting comments from family or friends please ignore it because looking back they were just insecure (not everyone but the ones I New) or they are just plain nasty. Anyone who makes a nasty comment about that isn't nice nor needed.
But remember wether you breastfeed or bottle it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. Online people get so angry about it but it really doesn't matter guys

I am not upset or offended at that I struggled and couldn't breastfeed and someone else can.
I would never brag or bang on about the fact i ff, I don't think you can win either way...I knew whilst still in hospital and how badly treated by staff about me struggling to bf and being told in no way should I ff my child,that both sides get a bad wrap

All I care about is that all children get fed regardless of being breastfed or formula fed...to me, that's all that matters

It's the mothers choice and I don't feel anybody should be saying "keep at it,you can do it" "stick at it"

Aslong as your child is getting what they need, that's what matters

You say you don't understand why women are proud of having a C-section

"O god I'm petrified of the though of a c section. I don't u derstand why women are proud"

Yet earlier you said

*"Women who slate others for c sections are just rude women"

?

That would have been a mis print I don't understand how women bitch slate then I'm terrified of the thought. I think they are incredible for doing it. Maybe read the whole thing I'm sure yourll see.

I am proud too. It started really really bad with TT and other issues but we finally got it to work and ended up BFing for 3 years!

I do not understand some of the comments in this thread - it seems that you can be proud of
running a marathon
getting a degree
losing weight

but not BFing?

Sparklymagpie I stead of allowing women to talk you try and find faults and cause problems. I have no time for you good bye 🤗 Post all you will I do not care.
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I have read the whole thread thank you

@iamAporcupine well here you can be. Like minded people who can be and it's ok to be. Especially when a lot of us have been faced with negativity

O god I'm petrified of the though of a c section. I don't u derstand why women are proud. The thought of having that done in an emergency then having good to get through the first months healing with a new born. Far more scary

For any one who read this I meant to say I don't understand why women aren't proud then went on to say why they should be. Very clearly a mistake. Thanks for understanding

Three years is amazing I wish I'd done it longer now

I bf both of mine. The first through lots of problems; rehospitalisation and NG tube feeding of formula (no milk until day 6) midwife didn't sign us off for several months and my second to 5 months.

With hindsight I honestly wish I hadn't bothered. I put myself mentally and physically through hell as I was coerced into thinking it was the right thing to do. I really wish I'd been presented with more balanced options.

I'm glad you have a sense of achievement OP. I really can't muster one myself.

There's another thread about a mum who regretted it to you may find that a good read 😀

I must say my experience of breastfeeding 2 children has been nothing but positive. I've never once had a nasty comment, only the odd few people telling me how nice it is to see a baby being breastfed.

TUcking. That's great. I unfortunatly had a few far more than necessary but which is probably why I feel how I do and other mums do to. It's funny because the ones who were nasty about it are no longer people I talk to. I guess if your nasty and will say something it shows your just nasty

I think the stigma behind talking about how fantastically proud of yourself you are for breastfeeding comes from the amount of women who wanted to, tried desperately to, but couldn't. It's just a kick in the teeth really. Be proud if you want but don't come onto a parenting forum to essentially brag about it.

Saying "well done for FF" doesn't exactly cut the mustard either because anyone can FF.

Well done OP. I bow down in reverence to your superior breasts

This is just typical of life these days. You're allowed to condemn people for breast feeding but not people bottle feeding. You're allowed to talk about someone being too skinny but not too fat. You're allowed to take the piss out of rich people but not poor people - the list goes on. People hate others to be succeeding at something these can't. It's so tiresome.

@Whenthereshope I don't think anyone is 'condemning' OP for breastfeeding - but what good is it doing declaring how proud of yourself you are? on a parenting forum? Surely there are FB groups or real life groups for that?

There are hundreds of women on here who would have tried desperately to breastfeed, but were unable to. It's really hard dealing with the fact you can't breastfeed and it doesn't work. It was the biggest contributing reason to my PND and to come on here and read how proud someone is that they managed something I couldn't, it's a bit shit.

Totally agreed @Whenthereshope

@Whenthereshope it's so tedious isn't it? Especially people going on and on about the hate and abuse they get for bottle feeding when I've never ever seen anything but encouragement for it. It's like a conspiracy for attention- everyone talks about it but it doesn't really happen. Poor me poor me poor me. Who gives a fuck. It's very few people that can't breastfeed and it IS the best thing for your child and it IS hard so yes- be fucking proud.

@gladisandherpug Its the social stigma attached to bottle feeding.

You know, like when people come on public forums and saying things like it's a very few amount of women who can't breastfeed, making bottle feeding women feel in the minority, and that breastfeeding is the BEST thing for your child.

I breast feed and I'm so proud.

I really struggled up to eight weeks and then finally it got easier.

No reflection on ff mummies I never really compare myself to others about anything else ( career, exercise, weight etc) but I am proud when i achieve something I've wanted.

The thing about other people being proud “causing” or worsening those who are down because they couldn’t BF...isn’t that going to be the case for a lot of things discussed here?

Pregnancy announcements will devastate those struggling with infertility.

Mothers/Father’s Day posts could upset those who have lost parents.

People celebrating a weight loss achievement could depress those who have eating problems and are obese or medical issues that make losing weight difficult or even impossible.

People moaning about jobs depress the Unemployed.

People moaning about partners upset the single people.

Do I really need to go on? People are grown up here and can click on a thread or choose not to.

It’s bloody hard work breastfeeding. It’s your job alone to feed your child. If you’re not pumping or you’re only BFing not mixed then it is all down to you. So why not be proud when you achieve it? When you alone have grown your baby from a teeny 6/7/8/9lb scrap to a bouncing chubby 6 month old...why NOT be proud? When you feed beyond that time and manage teething, returning to work, sleepless nights, illnesses etc and you’re the main comforter then why NOT be proud?

Being proud does not mean other people need feel shame or “less than”...

Threads like this just encourage debates over feeding that really shouldn't be happening.

During pregnancy you should be given information about breast and formula feeding, left to make your own decision and that be it. Instead people are constantly making comments about what they did and what they think is best, it's ridiculous. Just let people do what they want!

You see it all over daytime tv programmes, people going on and judging others on how they parent their child WHY? Parenting is hard enough without having people judging you for the tiniest thing and it irritates me that seeing things like this on tv just promotes parental judgment and makes everybody think it's normal to question other people's choices.

Its the social stigma attached to bottle feeding.You know, like when people come on public forums and saying things like it's a very few amount of women who can't breastfeed, making bottle feeding women feel in the minority, and that breastfeeding is the BEST thing for your child.