'Sleep when the baby sleeps'. Annoying things people say.

[TheWeatherGirl1]

It's an annoying thing to be told.

If the baby ever deigns to nap then I'm cleaning or doing laundry or emptying the litter tray or sterilising bottles or trying to make food (toast) for myself.

I also don't want to be told to 'just let the housework go'.
I do not wish to live in a slum or have to deal with a mountain of crap in the future.

Thank you for listening.

Dh reporting how exhausting it was bwing at home full time looking after ds and doing the housework.

At this point DS WAS FIVE YEARS OLD AND AT SCHOOL ALL DAY.

I forgive (sort of) but I don't forget.

Schwan that's not just annoying that's downright cruel. I'm sorry

Schaun that is downright cruel! You poor thing. Horrible way to treat you

Just remembered my mil would be passive aggressive and talk directly to baby saying 'is your mammy not feeding you', 'you will have to come and stay in grannies'

This was in the first few weeks and made me feel like she was trying to take over

'You should be zooming around to show everyone the baby; they're so transportable at this age'. From childless SIL after asking us why we weren't thinking of travelling abroad to see friends in a month. DS was 4 days old at this point.

Why is he always crying?

If I fucking knew don't you think I would fix it. Do you think I like listening to my son scream. I

I'll second the weight gain with breast feeding; I've always been slim and has no issues with weight gain and yet from eating all the time because I'm starving I'm back to my full term pregnancy weight (read a solid couple of stone above my normal weight) despite breast feeding.

People saying "Ohh, you'll get there and get back to your normal size soon!" when I haven't asked their opinion or mentioned my weight...

''It gets easier''. My twins are nearly 10. I think it just gets different.

When I mentioned being tired to the MW she said I should just be grateful he came home as some neonatal babies don't.

I lost a 24 weeker at a day old two years ago, she's aware are she was my MW back then as well.

I am grateful but it doesn't mean I'm not bloody knackered.

This thread makes me happy

Schwanengesang Why do you even allow these people into your house? They sound fucking vile

God yes, I gained loads of weight initially when b/fing. I was starving so would just cram food into my mouth and drink syrupy starbucks coffees when out walking. I took biscuits to bed to eat during the night! After about 4 months I just had to stop and ignore the hunger. Because I weighed more than I did just after giving birth . I hated anyone with b/fing weightloss advice.

I had a horrible labour but people kept insisting that it 'didn't matter' because I had a healthy baby.

Of course I feel incredibly lucky to have a healthy baby but my awful labour did (and does) matter very much to me.

YES. So patronising. Grrr.

@FartnissEverbeans I always think of this image of an apple when people say that to me. “at least you have a healthy baby” fuck off. People don’t seem to want to hear the truth of my childbirth that was so horrific my mind shut down but are quite happy to give me useless platitudes.

And don’t even get me started on the colleague who told me she was exhausted today too...cos her cat woke her up it’s not really the same as having 3 years of such broken sleep it could be considered a war crime under the geneva convention!

And oh yeah 'aren't they transportable at this age' said by a childless friend when I refused to do an at least 7+ hour drive to visit her friends in next state with my 4 mth old newborn. I'd also only just moved 3000 miles few weeks before so forgive me if I want to unpack and settle my DC in to new home!
Portable my arse 2 hourly feedings that take over an hour with a non sleeping baby (20 min nap was a joyous occasion) sure lets do a road trip yep

I love it when people offer reams of advice but never actually offer to fucking babysit..

Why don't you just get to fuck.

Have you tried ginger?

That was good one whilst pregnant.

Yes, I have. It's shit.

Here's another one I've had twice in a week;

'Ooh if you think you're tired now then just wait til he starts walking'.

Super helpful. Thanks so much.

'Have you made it to any toddler groups yet? It's important DC1 gets some social time rather than staying at home all the time.'

Said by HV when DC2 was about 10 days old and I couldn't drive due to EMCS. DH had no paternity leave due to just starting a new job so I was totally alone.

Oh and the same woman also said I looked tired. Cheers pal. I thought I was supposed to be tired?

Mine are now 8 and 11. I have decided that all I do (or will ever) say to parents of babies is either: "This is the toughest bit" or "Can I get you some more gin from the shop?"

There is no place is hell deep enough for people who insist the whole thing is magical.

Hey I love my enforced thrice-daily naps just as much as DS does! (he fights naps and needs feeding to sleep during the daytime - luckily he falls asleep on his own at night).

As soon as I gave up on the idea of getting anything done during his micro-naps, I was much happier. DH can do it all when he gets home from work. Or he can take DS so I can do stuff, I don’t much mind. But looking after a baby is a full time job.