Under the sea or clouds and rainbows???

[MummyMiddleton]

Or baby boy is due on November 10th. We have a room for him but we don't want to buy and furniture or decor until we know what theme we are choosing. We are stuck between under the sea and clouds and rainbows. Both are equally cute.
We would paint the walls dark turquoise/aqua for under the sea and pale blue for clouds and rainbows. My mum has an art degree and will be painting the decor on top of the base colour (sea creatures and plants or clouds connected by rainbows).

If you had to choose, what would you go for?

Pringles

Sorry, it was anchor9 who said that, im losing track

Because sometimes tv just keeps them in one place and quiet for enough time for you to just sit down !

Parker

True. If Daniel threw a toy at someone though, it would be straight to the naughty step for his age in minutes

OP, you are the most dangerous type of stupid person: the stupid person who is so stupid they have no idea how stupid they are!

and your comment about GCSEs, hilarious in its own right, only proves once again the attitude you have displayed throughout this thread; all you need to do is read and regurgitate a manual and you are sorted. there is a lot more to having a child, a lot. there is also a lot more to intelligence! i do hope you are humble enough to see that when the time comes, for your child's sake.

anchor9

I suppose you are right, I will just have to wait and see. Im just so scared about failing my child, I just want everything to be perfect for him

Im scared, for Daniel. Maybe Titty was right, we dont deserve him

Exactly how are you going to make a child stay on the naughty step? Is that the same way as you're going to make them stay in bed.

When they throw toys( luckily mine only did it to their twin rather than other people's children) you can try the talking in a quiet and calm voice and explain the error of their ways but more likely you'll yell at them to behave and threaten both of them that you'll take all their toys off them!

Parker

Yes, the same way. Take them back until they stay. Do their minutes. Come back, give them a snuggle and ask them to apologize to the other person. Them forget about it and have fun. Discipline doesnt have to drag on. Keep it short and sweet and help the child learn what is ok. Children are not born with morals, they need to be taught.

Seamton

So you are saying there should be no structure or routine to things like eating and sleeping? Obviously not as a newborn, but I was always told that children need routines to feel safe and grounded

OP, why are you still here? Two days this thread has gone on, with you resurrecting it today. You are all over the place, one minute saying you don't have a clue, why should you (fair enough), the next informing us all of your very inflexible approach to all things parenting.

Just step away and take a breath. Go for a walk, switch off the internet, delete the MN app. But stop this now, please. You must be very stressed and that isn't going to do you or the baby any good.

OP, the baby will tell you. it's great to have a theory, that's fine, but it's just a theory. although everything about jo cox is bullshit, look further afield. you are his mother and if you are willing to listen to him, as well as graciously receive advice and anecdotes from real people who have been there, you have nothing to worry about.

RiverTam

Thanks x I am a bit all over the place and you are right, stress is doing neither me or Daniel any good.

anchor9

Thanks

OP take Jo Frost and Gina Ford type advice with a pinch of salt. I read a Gina Ford book before my eldest was born and it brainwashed me for a while. I realised eventually that those books don't fit every child. It had stressed me out that my child didn't do what the book said! So book went in the bin.

I know you want everything to be perfect but nothing ever is. No parent is perfect and neither is any child. You will love your child but you won't always like them. So don't set yourself up for a fall and a whole load of stress. Take your child and his behaviour as it comes! And cut yourself and him some slack!!

I'm out now - obviously I've brought up my DT's totally wrong and they are spoilt and unpunished brats!

I can't remember the last time I read such stupid comments from an OP!

Parker

I never said that you have actually been onw of the nice people on here

Igottastartthinkingbee

Thanks x They are experts and their techniques do work but every child IS different and needs different things. They are not cookie cutters.

mummy middleton I am roaring at some of your comments, I promise you, no matter how much you have read, how prepared you think you are, your not. This is why there are many different studies and books saying different things about rasing a child, because one size does not fit all. you sound judgmental and "know it all" and the type of parent most run a mile from in the playground. trust me, it will do you no favours.
badk to your original post . Both sound a little twee in my opinion, but if I had to pick one, clouds and rainbows.

user

Thanks x I have been incredibly judgemental. One size does not fit all.

Also, if my mood keeps changing, blame pregnancy. Its an emotional rollercoaster. My friend likened being pregnant to having bipolar.

Seamton

Thanks so much. I loved your ideas in the examples you gave x Also, if you want to know the answer to the minecraft question, I would build half in cobble, half in wood x Loved the minecraft analogy x

Also, if anyone still cares. We are doing an under the sea room

I love your optimism and I wish you the best of luck OP but I do think you will look back at this thread and laugh once your little boy is here. My little girl is 10 weeks old today and I had loads of ideas about what I would and wouldn't do, some examples include:

I would never co-sleep with my LO. That went out the window when I fell asleep several times whilst feeding her in the night as she needed to feed a minimum of every two hours day and night as she wasn't putting on weight quickly enough. I decided it was better to safely co-sleep in a planned way than risk falling asleep with her again. Once she settled down to every four hours I no longer needed to do this but it was the only way I could function at the time.

I would never give my LO a dummy. That went out of the window when I'd had hours of her comfort sucking on my nipples, so much they were bleeding Now we have shed loads of dummies around the place.

I would be out every day taking my LO for a lovely walk in the fresh air. That went out the window when I had to have my lady bits stitched up and I couldn't sit down for a week, let alone walk anywhere ha ha. And now I'm lucky if I get out twice a week for a walk - no one tells you how bloody long it takes to do anything with a baby (actually everyone tells you, but you have no idea until that baby actually arrives.)

It's lovely to have all these ideals but realistically when they arrived you consider it a good day if you've managed to brush your hair and your teeth before midday

On the subject of self soothing my LO does this, but completely by accident. I just left her in her cot whilst I got ready for bed and she went off to sleep by herself, and has done since then. But it was total luck - not any good parenting on my part.

The best piece of advice I had was babies haven't read any of the books, or advice or google and at the end of the day they are all completely different. What works for one won't work for another.

Oh and I would go for he under the sea theme

daffo

Thanks x lovely piece x