How would you react if you (school age) child bit you when you tried to reprimand them??

[fannyannie]

I just wondered as at the after school service this afternoon a boy who I think is in Reception (but I could be wrong - he's between Reception and Yr2 anyhow) was told to behave by his mum. Each time he BIT her and she did absolutely nothing - I was stunned!!!

What would you have done???

wow - you must be supermums then if you've never learned anything about parenting from other parents.

I personally have learned a lot both on MN (and other parenting forums) and in RL by talking to and watching other parents............

How would you like if someone critised your parenting on Mumsnet? Imagine if the mum you are critising reads Mumsnet. Are you really the perfect parent? Would you be upset if someone posted a nasty thread about your parenting on mumsnet.

Prehaps that woman with the badly behaved seven year old's mother is a supermum. We have no idea of her circumstances. Some people are given easier kids to manage than others. Just because you might have angelic children, don't think that you are a better mum.

Jesus loves naughty children who bite. He also loves their mums. Jesus loves the bad children as much as the good children. He suffered death on the cross for children who bite as well as for everyone else who sins.

Churches are supposed to accept all the riff raff. A church service should not be a middle class club for nice children. How can this biting seven year old get to know about Jesus if he isn't taken to church.

My son has been welcomed at our local church. He is partically deaf and it used to be extremely hard to cope with him in church when he was a toddler. Our church has an amazing group of christians who encouraged us however bad my son's behaviour was. Our priest told me to bring my son and not worry about his behaviour upsetting people.

At the age of five, his behaviour is very good most of the time. It helps that he has hearing aids and can follow instructions. It has also helped having God to support us when things have been bad.

Frances - do you always get out of the bed the wrong side???

I wasn't criticising her at all - I was merely asking how other people would react as I was suprised by her response.

You still haven't said whether you learned ALL your parenting on your own - or whether you picked up tips and hints from other parents...........

Jesus suffered death on the cross for children who bite?

eh? Frances, Where on earth does class come into it? And how do you know the class of either party?

Anyway, I don't know - I'd be shocked and upset and very angry if my DS bit me at that age...no idea why the mother of this child reacted as she did, but it was her that was getting bitten so would be inclined to not dwell on it, unless he bites anyone else.

I had to LOL at Greeny's 'experimental infant violence'.

Ds bites and scratches me when he has a meltdown. Most of the parents of children in his class are aware he has SN but the rest of the school don't. I'm sure plenty of them wonder why I ignore a lot of that behaviour when it happens but TBH I'm far more concerned about calming him down enough to get him home or into the classroom than what other people are thinking about my parenting skills

fannyannie,

There are millions of books, websites and TV programmes on parenting. However sometimes you just have to work out parenting solutions for yourself. If life is really hard then it is possible to have a referal to a clinical pcychologist.

Our community paediatrian has been great, just for the fact that she told me I was doing a good job even when the rest of the world didn't think so.

You can read all the books, Mumsnet or watch TV, but ultimately you have to parent by instinct and love. It is important to find emotional support in the community and churches can be a good source of such support. Families with badly behaved children should not be critised for attending church services if they want to.

"Families with badly behaved children should not be critised for attending church services if they want to."

Once again I ask you where did I criticise???? And I'm afraid I don't believe that you've never been influenced AT ALL by other peoples parenting - that's how the sodding world works - even as child we see how our parents, and our friends parents "parent" their children and make concious (or even sub-concious) decisions on how we are going to do it.

Oh and Blu - thanks for pointing out the "Class" thing - I hadn't noticed that one - made me - I'm as working class as they come - and some of the children that come to our Afterschool service are very much more "working class" than this particular child is.

some parents dont discipline their children in front of others, just because it dont look like the child is being disciplined it doesnt mean that he wont be when he gets home, for all we know the child could have been sent to bed early that night, or had his tv/playstation/DS etc confiscated from him.

seems like if you smack your child because they are being naughty you are looked down upon and now doing ' aparently ' nothing is looked down upon aswell

ermm where did I say I was suprised she didn't smack him???

I asked how others would react - and before I was lept on for being a selfrighteous middle class mummy (hahahahaha) some people did actually say they would probably have removed the child from the activity/made them have time out etc etc.