Mums over 40

[follydog]

Hi there,

Any other mums over 40 out there? I am 42 and my ds is 8 months old. Would dearly love to hear others experiences.

sazzybee, fwiw, people are surprised with me too but mostly because they think I'm younger (nice people). And then they're surprised in an admiring and/or supportive way. I've not had any negative reactions, so far...

I'm 42 and have DTS age 2years and 11 months. I look younger than my age (guys at work think I'm in my early 30s - I have not let on yet and have no intention of doing so). Despite working part-time, I usually feel full of energy. My boys keep me on my toes!

I know someone who had IVF triplets at 40. Luckily she and her dh both have very laid back personalities!

May I join in? I had DS when I'd just turned 39, and am now 41 and 28 weeks pregnant with another boy. It would be fine, if it weren't for my hands: they are just soooo damn old, especially when held against such new skin

I've got arthritis in mine How old is that?

Me too - had DS when I was 5 months shy of 40. Better late than never, I say.

Me too - had DS when I was 5 months shy of 40. Better late than never, I say.

Hi everyone,

I'm loving this thread, so thanks to everyone who has contributed! Apologies for not getting on too often, but I have four teenagers and the baby, so the house and my days are very full.....

I would really like to pick up on the fizzbizz question of guilt. I too had an older mum (although she was younger than me when I had ds) and felt terribly self conscious about it. I was delighted to have first daughter at 26 and revelled in the young mum thing.....HOWEVER, I was absolutely all over the place at that time.

I was a single parent, we moved six times by the time my daughter was four, I also had chronic pms which meant I was very moody a lot of the time. I may not have youth to offer ds, but we do have a lovely house, stable relationship, a bit more money etc. Plus, a lot of wisdom that can only come from being a little bit older.

By the way to all of you who are keen to contribute your stories....I am in the process of setting up a hotmail account so you can email me for the sample questionaire, although it would be very interesting to talk to some of you (perhaps with more complicated stories) over the phone. Phew...I'll shut up now.

Hi, i'm 41, almost, and had dd at 39. I do find it tiring sometimes but dd makes me laugh every day which is great. She's my only child so I don't really know any different as to whether I would have had more energy and patience when I was younger.

follydog - don't you think it's different having an older mum nowadays. Older mums don't stand out so much because it's not so unusual. Also people exercise and go to the gym nowadays and dress much younger. My best friend had an older mum but she was really trendy do we all thought she was great!

Hi, I am 42 and have 2 ds age 13 and 11. I think its great that you are having babies in your 40s. I totally unexpectedly suddenly started to go through the menopause at 37 and even though I didn't want any more children its strange to have the choice taken away from you.

I had DD when I was 39, still TTC baby No.2. I had a really healthy pregnancy, very fast straight forward delivery, just can't seem to conceive again....

I do feel old though, standing at the school gates with all the 20 something mums and I am old enough to be their mum! I have also found it hard to make friends with other, younger mothers, they look at me sometimes as if I am from the planet Zog!

Well, I shall join the club too.

I had ds when I was 39. He's now 3 and I'm 42 (43 this year).

I felt no need for another. He's got four half-brothers and sisters who are much older than him, but with time the age gap will socially diminish.

I had the easiest pregnancy on the planet, but the most awful birth. Nothing bad, and nothing to do with age, he was just back to back and that hurts like hell.

I have aged a little since he was born, but that's due to lack of a substantial lie-in Give me another year or so, and I'll start turning back the clock.