Mums over 40

[follydog]

Hi there,

Any other mums over 40 out there? I am 42 and my ds is 8 months old. Would dearly love to hear others experiences.

Wow - lots of you out there! ds my second child, dd now 15, so a huge gap. dealing with abbies and teenagers a very interesting experience. babies definitely easier! Anyone else in same boat?

i'm 42 with a 4month old ds, also dd age 3, ds age 13, and dds age 19 and 21 (and grandson who is 14 weeks, which makes my baby an uncle
some days are great with the older ones helping and being lots of fun but some days are truly dreadful, with the worst you can get across the whole spectrum of ages - baby feeding all the time, dd having a tantrum and teenager telling me how awful i am, etc, etc
as an older mum i'm much more accepting of my children's differences then i used to be but i'm also much less energetic. i also appreciate how quickly the time goes by and try and enjoy my baby. no more 'though - it's the op for me soon

yes i am 42 this year and dd1 will be 11this year and dd2 will be 8this year, also have a lovely step daughter who will be 23this year. Im going to stop counting her birthdays soon as it makes me feell old!
Gone past broody so no babes.

I am 49(50 in April) - had ds when 39 and dd when 42. Have only once been mistaken for a Grandmother! Dd did inform me recently though that I was the oldest mum in her class. My only regret is not having more - I left it so late to start that i was lucky to get the 2 I have, but if a third had come along I would have been thrilled. Most of my friends have teenagers however, and I do sometimes feel I'm 'too old' to be still doing school runs and playing with Barbies!

Hi Folly, had ds1 at 34, dd at 36, just had ds2 and I'm 42 next month. Funny thing is it was the easiest pregnancy of all, I felt fantastic. He's 6months now and I'm not finding the lack of sleep so hard this time either, maybe it's cos I know how quickly time passes, or maybe it's just dementia setting in

fizzbuzz im an 88. and there did used to be a 92 i think although i could be wrong.

Another one signing on. I'm 41(42 in the summer). I have 2 ds's aged 5 and 3 1/2. Wish I could have more too, but hey, that's another story. Some days I do wonder if having two close together was a good thing. However, they can play so beautifully together that it all seems worthwhile.

I'm 43 and have an almost 7 year old DS. Feel knackered but probably due to ridiculous diet (chocolate, chocolate and more chocolate) rather than anything else. I'm by far the oldest Mum among my friends but not many of them know my age and are always shocked when they find out, probably due to my childish behaviour.

Hi
I am 41 - had my dd just after my 39th birthday. Would love to have another but no luck so far. Am far more tired than I used to be, but also a lot of fun! There are a lot of older mums in my area, so don't feel out of place.

Oh God.....88..I'd been left uni 2 years then and bought a house...seems like yesterday

Morning! I am 42. I had ds1 at 37 and ds2 at 41 (they are now 4 and 8 months old). Most of the time I don't feel my age but am aware that I am going to have to keep myself fit and young for teenage boys when I'm in my late fifties.
Stumpydog, I couldn't begin to imagine myself a grandmother even though its biologically realistic! But your grandchild is so lucky to have a young granny.
Anyway, it's nice to know there are so many of us 40 somethings out there. Thanks for starting this thread.

41 and a half, youngest nearly 3 now. Yes I'm the oldest among my set too but totally infantile in behaviour.

i'm getting my first house soon - can't wait. only renting though. don't think i earn enough for a house of my own. still exciting though!

Have just thought, a 92 would be 15!! (wouldn't they??)

What is more depressing is, the house that I bought cost £39,0000 in a very nice area. prob worth a bomb now!

I am 50 and my youngest is 8. I am the oldest mum at the school gates, but my dd "doesn't mind having an older mum, because she reckons I am wiser and more sensible than the other mums, and in any case, I was CHOSEN to be her mummy, therefore it isn't a problem"!!!! I do sometimes worry about being completely senile when she is still quite young. However, I make the most of her because I know that everything is a phase, and they grow up far too soon.

words in "" are hers, not mine BTW.

Discovered I was pg with DD just after my (very boozy!) 40th birthday party and had DS last year at 43. Am now 44, running round after a toddler and 'debating' with a highly articulate nearly 4 year old! I usually refuse to act my age and am glad to see I'm in good company

May be the infantile behaviour comes from the company we keep...eg babies, toddlers etc. I sometimes get pitying looks from my 5 year old daughter accompanied by withering comments like, "look I know reindeer can't fly so just tell me which of you pretends to be Father Christmas and which of you is the tooth fairy" or "this is not an appropriate path for a bicycle" ouch! I can see whe'll be feeding me in a big bib in about 20 years time.....

Hi everyone,

Really great to hear all your stories. OK, here's the deal - I think that there are a lot of amazing women out there giving birth in their 40's. Some by mistake (me!), some with IVF, some with older children, some first time mums. So many different experiences.

I would LOVE to collect some stories together for a book project and have compiled a list of questions as an outline interview. Would anyone like to be involved?

Let's share our stories and stop worrying about what we look like at the school gates (pretty wrecked at the moment!) and stand up and be counted........

one of my friends was 10 when I had DS1!!
I think its really funny. but I never really think about how old I am. I think you start to have friends who have children the same age as yours.
When Ds1 started school I was the youngest mum in the class, when bumb starts I will no doubt be the eldest!!! People will think I m Granny!!!!
I must admit I look at other women my age and think how much older and more 'grown'up they seem!!!

follydodg what do you want to know?

follydog, would be interested, as long as I don't have to give name. You can CAT me

Follydog - great idea, count me in

I'm just about to turn 42 and had recently acquired a pre-grown 1 yr old. If you want failed IVF stories I'm your woman!

I was also youngest mum when DD1 'now 17,started school. Will probably be oldest when DD3, 13 months,starts! Was 'normal' age with two inbetween,11 and 7.Aree re teenagers and toddlers.Give me toddlers anyday! Only consolation is DD3 won't steal my clothes when she is 17!!