I think i've made a big mistake.

[MrsSpecter]

DS is 7 and has never properly toilet trained wrt pooing. Peeing he got the hang of instantly but not so with the other. (He is in the process of being assessed for autism and ADHD and also awaiting a paediatrician assessment for the toilet issue.) Unless i make him sit on the toilet he wont go and he will have an accident. He doesnt always know if his pants are clean or dirty when i ask.

The mistake is that i have agreed to him going on a 2 night camp with his beaver group without even thinking of his toilet issues. I know how stupid i've been. It just didnt enter my head, he had missed a couple of nights at beavers and i was only reminded about the camp on Monday when i collected him so made an on the spot decision. The camp is tonight. He is all geared up to go and i've been trying really hard ever since monday to get him to go to the toilet when he feels he needs to but it just isnt happening and I know he will have accidents when he is away with beavers. He wont tell his leaders he has had an accident either so he will just stay in dirty pants. Its not fair to send him. I feel like crap and its going to break his heart but there isnt a way round this is there? I can't expect the leaders to constantly remind him/force him to sit on the toilet. They wont always be near toilets.

[AnyFucker]

Hope he has a lovely time. That leader sounds great. Glad to know there are people like that in the world.

[Scholtzy]

Haha! Good stuff! So he should be ok this evening then, fingers crossed X

[MrsSpecter]

Yes they are fantastic people! Volunteering to clean the shitty arses of children they dont own. Medals required for that alone!

Couldnt find any digital watches in B&M but i think i got the message through to him about going after every meal, when he wakes, before bed and every time the leader tells him to. Hopefully that covers it and he will manage ok. I carry a small change bag in my handbag that has wipes, nappy sacks, spare pants and hand sanitiser so i just transferred that to his rucksack and showed him where it was. I think that would seem like less of a faff to him than trying to hoke for his clean pants and have to carry them to the loo infront of his friends. Easier to carry a small bag with everything in and he knows just to bag up wipes and pants and tie a knot and bin it. Did also put far too many spare pants in a pocket on their own and showed him so he knows where to go for extras. Just incase. I need to stop worrying.

[AnyFucker]

Chill. Have a

This could be his turning point. And if it isn't, no biggie... he will have a great time and you can pick up where you left off on his return.

[MrsSpecter]

Thank you AF, i'll settle for tea just incase i have to go and collect him or change him but yes, chill. I will chill.

[AnyFucker]

Oh yeah, forgot you might need to head off. Have a

[Scholtzy]

How did he get on MrsSpecter? Did he have a good time?

[MrsSpecter]

He had a brilliant time. He did have two accidents but managed to clean himself up and just had to ask his leader what to do with his dirty pants. He doesnt seem too traumatised by it at least. But overall he had a blast and is exhausted

[Scholtzy]

Aww that's great news! Glad to hear he had a good time and big well done to him for cleaning himself up and asking the leaders for help when he needed it, you must be really chuffed with him

[MrsSpecter]

Yes very happy for him and a lot less worried about any future camps although none for a few months at least so hopefully we'll make progress with the toilet by then. Thanks scholtzy

[AnyFucker]

Brilliant