would you report this person and how could I go about doing it!?

[sammyjayneex]

So we live in a culdesac and my children play out on the street. I check on them every 5-10 mins.
My 9 year old told me when I brought her in for tea that this van ( looks like it's some form of transport for dropping Off the elderly or disabled children to their homes) and he was dropping off this lady ( I think she's a member of staff he must work with as she wears a badge but I can't quite catch where she works) in one of the houses opposite to us. My daughter said she was stood with her friend and he started talking to them and they turned around and said something along the lines of 'your in trouble you, or are you in trouble or stay out of trouble you' something along those lines, my daughter didn't quite catch it because he said of and drove off. Now to me this is unacceptable, approaching young girls, making unpleasant remarks and driving off. She said she just ignored him. I've told her she should never talk to strangers and she should come straight to me as soon as it happens instead of ages after. I have seen this van plenty of times. One time a man made a Comment towards me whilst I was walking down the street, I ignored him and put him down to being a rude sad man, but now he's made comments towards my daughter I'm fuming and want to report him but there isn't any company name on the van. It's just a van with Windows. I was thinking of waiting tomorrow afternoon for the van to come up and taking is reg number or approaching myself and asking him who the hell he thinks he is!

Yabu. I have had strangers say to me to smile before. I have also been told to stay out of trouble. I didn't ring anyone to complain! I think he's just trying to be friendly. You are overreacting massively.

sorry we're not all men-i hate this feminism crap when its completely uncalled for

saying cheer up love or stay outta trouble are off the cuff comments and like i said shold be explained to the child if she doesnt understand

Well I won't be complaining. I will just be keeping an eye out for this van in future. I'll keep an eye on his next comments as I'm sure this won't be the last. I'll just put it down to him having a weird sense of humour and that he doesn't actually understand children.

here we go with hysterical again. Can't even come up with new insults to police women. And the dd shd be taught to respond correctly to random men telling her whatever ? Oh and the feminism crap? Well what do expect on mn! We like to support women and encourage them to trust how they feel! Hey even the police do that nowadays!

This is also sexist as it is typically used by men to put down women.

Bollocks it is. It's routinely said by women, and it's not an attempt to put down either sex.

women and cc have a right to be in public without having to smile at random men who order them to.

You have to be seriously paranoid to interpret "cheer up" as an order.

The police tell women to trust their instincts.

No they don't. They don't want mad random reports about harmless men saying "cheer up", they've got far better things to do with their time.

another oldie-paranoid? i'm a woman .I never say that and no woman has ever said that to me. You'll have to bone up on real life research, if you want me to think you are a woman.

I'm not saying it to be insulting or to "police women" I am a woman shock horror not every female thinks a man breathing is a sign hes a potential rapist/paedophile. Who woulda thunk it eh?

Probably best to put it down to an encounter with a man who feels entitled to tell women to smile on demand so his view is better...not a very deep thinker, lacking a filter and wanting to feel a bit superior to women/children. Says stuff you can't really respond to/ understand what he's on about. A bored man in a van, rather than dangerous. Wonder what the lady he drops off has to put up with?!

Should I report the man (who I have never met before and will never see again) who walked past me in Boots whilst I was looking at hair shit and said "decisions, decisions!" ?

It was most probably him just being a normal friendly human being, not someone who wants to rape and butcher your daughter and her friend.

Jesus Christ.

OP have you had a tough week at work regarding the fridge storage of your groceries per chance?

Does it for kicks?!

The way you're seeing this is so baffling. I'm all for teaching kids not to go into stranger's cars, passwords, etc but what if there was an accident or emergency when they were playing ( or in future adolescence ) and they cannot get help because you have drummed into your daughter that every man / person she has never met is definitely a paedo and 10000000% will abduct her etc.

You are full of bollocks, and sound batshit crazy.

personal attacks, exaggeration and insults =the fall back reponses of those who have no real ammunition? Op and no-one else was talking about rape or paedophilia. You have set up a straw dog to knock down as you cannot argue on the facts.

amarmal, why would I care what sex you think I am? The name is a bit of a clue and, talking of research, you could check it out extremely easily with a few clicks on this site.

The facts are OP over reacted to what sounds like a perfectly innocent and friendly comment, made in passing to her dd. She later mentioned she thinks this is the same man that made a passing comment to her too. All that can be taken from that is that he spoke to two people. Doing absolutely nothing wrong. And OP wanted to report him (for what I don't bloody know) or confront him, seemingly in quite an aggressive manner from what she wrote (again, I don't know what for as he had done nothing wrong)

People who can't accept those facts are saying this man is sexist and just wants to upset and undermine women.

Hear hear to FattyNinja.

Good grief where has common sense gone ......

No I think you should complain OP, just so that in a couple of days someone can post on that 'oddest customer complaints' thread that "I work for a company which provides escort services for children to school. Recently I had a call from someone who wasn't in fact a customer but just some random woman off the street, complaining that one of our drivers had spoken to her daughter. She doesn't know exactly what he said, but feels it's inappropriate for men to talk to children."

Go on, give them all a good laugh. .

OP, it sounds to me like you are potentially passing on your hysteria to your daughter,if she truly was confused. Not good.

Anyway, he has not harassed anyone, he's just been friendly. What's the problem?

The only concerning thing you've said is that you would've been ok if he had said to your daughter 'hello...see you later'. I'd be rather more concerned about a complete stranger saying that to my child than saying 'keep out of trouble'

hysteria again? The facts are what the op says not what anyone else decides as you did not receive the comments and feel the feelings.I have accepted the op's posting as she and her dd know how they feel. But you are saying no ,op,you are hysterical, paranoid, etc. I will tell you what to feel - =kind of like the 'SMILE' man really ?

You really are desperate for us all to be men aren't you.

At the end of the day, the OP states a man talked to her child. And he maybe spoke to her.
Fucking hell. It's ridiculous. People are allowed to speak...unless.you just think no one should speak to strangers ever, you know, just in case it's taken the wrong way by some precious bloody snowflake.

Just because the op feels like the man is bang out of order and sinister it doesn't mean he actually is. It's actually because the op is incredibly sensitive and perhaps a bit socially, umm need a word here.

Socially awkward?

Yeah, that'll do!

Ps Smile ;)

you winked at me! That's sexist! Tut Tut.