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would you report this person and how could I go about doing it!?

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sammyjayneex · 11/05/2016 18:25

So we live in a culdesac and my children play out on the street. I check on them every 5-10 mins.
My 9 year old told me when I brought her in for tea that this van ( looks like it's some form of transport for dropping Off the elderly or disabled children to their homes) and he was dropping off this lady ( I think she's a member of staff he must work with as she wears a badge but I can't quite catch where she works) in one of the houses opposite to us. My daughter said she was stood with her friend and he started talking to them and they turned around and said something along the lines of 'your in trouble you, or are you in trouble or stay out of trouble you' something along those lines, my daughter didn't quite catch it because he said of and drove off. Now to me this is unacceptable, approaching young girls, making unpleasant remarks and driving off. She said she just ignored him. I've told her she should never talk to strangers and she should come straight to me as soon as it happens instead of ages after. I have seen this van plenty of times. One time a man made a Comment towards me whilst I was walking down the street, I ignored him and put him down to being a rude sad man, but now he's made comments towards my daughter I'm fuming and want to report him but there isn't any company name on the van. It's just a van with Windows. I was thinking of waiting tomorrow afternoon for the van to come up and taking is reg number or approaching myself and asking him who the hell he thinks he is!

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FattyNinjaOwl · 13/05/2016 08:58

Nothing, but saying "smile" or "cheer up" is just like saying "hello" or "good morning/afternoon/evening" or even just politely smiling at someone. It doesn't actually mean anything. It's just a way of being friendly...you know...like most people do.

FattyNinjaOwl · 13/05/2016 08:58

Obviously you kissed the memo on friendliness being a good thing..

FattyNinjaOwl · 13/05/2016 08:58

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heyhulahoop · 13/05/2016 09:01

So hang on, it's either a friendly thing or it's because you think the person is a miserable old git, you can't have both.

And yes I get that you like seeing people happy, thy doesn't change anything, I don't have to appear happy for a stranger just cos that's what you prefer.

Just say hello if you want to be friendly.

FattyNinjaOwl · 13/05/2016 09:05

Of course I can do both. I can be polite and friendly to anyone regardless of what I privately think about them. Just because I may not like someone doesn't mean I'm going to be nasty towards them and ignore them.

lottielou7 · 13/05/2016 09:07

I also think the OP is getting a hard time as someone who finds 'cheer up' comments from men bloody irritating. The OP's daughter was upset by his approach to her or she wouldn't have mentioned it. Why is it that people always like to believe that children make up stories?

lottielou7 · 13/05/2016 09:09

' saying "smile" or "cheer up" is just like saying "hello" or "good morning/afternoon/evening" or even just politely smiling at someone. It doesn't actually mean anything. It's just a way of being friendly...you know...like most people do.'

No it isn't. It's an attempt at flirting.

heyhulahoop · 13/05/2016 09:09

It just seems to be all about what you want, YOU don't like seeing people unhappy so you go round TELLING people to smile. Do you really think an unhappy person is going to become happy because you've told them to smile? Patronising much!

FattyNinjaOwl · 13/05/2016 09:09

No one is saying the child made it up. Just that she isn't entirely sure what was said and was happy enough to carry on playing for, and I quote the OP here, "ages after" before mentioning a thing to anyone. So obviously wasn't that bothered by it

FattyNinjaOwl · 13/05/2016 09:10

No its not. At all. I have never felt anyone is trying to flirt with me by saying that. And I certainly haven't been flirting when I've said it.

FattyNinjaOwl · 13/05/2016 09:11

heyhula you can only hope it brings a smile to their face and brightens their day just a little. If not fair enough, but maybe it will. You don't know unless you try.

lottielou7 · 13/05/2016 09:11

Well the OP must have got from her dd that she had a bad feeling about it otherwise she wouldn't have started the thread.

I personally would not approach children playing in the street who I don't know. It's not appropriate.

FattyNinjaOwl · 13/05/2016 09:14

I don't think the dd did have a bad feeling. I think OP just wanted something to complain about.
She would have been perfectly happy had a woman said it and this thread wouldn't be here. It's only here because it was a man, and we all.know they are filthy animals who shouldn't even look at another human let alone speak to one Hmm

bakeoffcake · 13/05/2016 09:16

God there's some rude people on this thread.

If someone in a van had shouted something at me, I'd think he was a sexist, immature twat. If I thought that same person then had shouted something at my 9 year DD, I'd be fucking fuming and concerned.because I'd already think he was a sexist twat.
So OP I do get where you're coming from. All of you woman who think men shouting at you in the street is "normal" or "banter", well it isn't normal behaviour for a grown adult!

TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 13/05/2016 09:18

Jeez people are weird. Don't you like seeing people happy because THEY are happy Hey? On what planet exactly is it about you?!

heyhulahoop · 13/05/2016 09:19

I don't really understand any of that post triptrap Confused

lottielou7 · 13/05/2016 09:19

Fatty - you're being ridiculous. How do you know what the OP or her dd thinks?

This thread is just another case of automatic oppositional syndrome on AIBU.

heyhulahoop · 13/05/2016 09:21

It's only here because it was a man, and we all.know they are filthy animals who shouldn't even look at another human let alone speak to one

Yeah that's definitely what people are saying, sure. Not that maybe children are told to be wary of strangers, and specifically men more than women (soz about that but men do most of the bad stuff so we're talking odds here).

lottielou7 · 13/05/2016 09:22

I've just noticed it's not even AIBU. Great so now the attitude has migrated onto other boards....

bakeoffcake · 13/05/2016 09:33

A man once said

bakeoffcake · 13/05/2016 09:37

Sorry

A man once said to me in a petrol station "cheer up, you look really miserable" I responded with "maybe that's because a 17 year old girl I know has just died". he didn't even apologise, just shrugged.

And why the fuck should I walk around with a cheerful look on my face?Angry

FattyNinjaOwl · 13/05/2016 09:54

No one is saying you have to be cheerful, just that seeing other people happy is nice.
And the man didn't shout at the DD. And lot I don't know what they were thinking, that's just how it comes across. And you can't say you know the man is a threat in any way shape or form. The man said something that a lot of people say in passing. That doesn't make him a bad person ffs

lottielou7 · 13/05/2016 09:56

Quite. It's interesting that women don't say this to each other. And men don't say it to other men. I wonder why that is? Perhaps because it's a subtle way to show someone disrespect.

lottielou7 · 13/05/2016 09:57

X posts - I disagree fatty because most adults know it's just not appropriate to approach children they don't know.

FattyNinjaOwl · 13/05/2016 09:58

lot have you read the thread? Men do say it to men and women do say it to men and women!

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