My Stepson and his wife are the most useless parents I have ever known.
Girl 11, Boy 8
Despite trying for years they(parents) have not changed at all.
Am I over reacting? This is a letter I was going to give them, it's about the same as the others we have sent or spoken to them about, but they ignore them.
The children say you Watch TV all the time when the kids are home, they hate it as you have an 18 rated Game of Thrones program on all the time they shouldn't be watching age 18 programs, so the kids then go upstairs because they hate the program
They say at weekends they do nothing and you just watch TV or go on play Station
It is NOT appropriate to leave small children downstairs alone with a dog in the house, in fact even without the animal as it is classed as child neglect
At weekends or in fact any day, it isn't OK to get up at 9,10,11,12,1pm, they are too young to organise themselves and it is very dangerous.
Children and their life.
Get up before the children and organise their day, uniform, food, things for school, also classed as neglect if you don't.
The school has a website and an App for everything going on at the school, yet you ignore it
X missed out on a Guides night in the woods when the FB page clearly stated where to go.
Ensure their time at school is made easier by making sure they turn up smart in ironed clothes and with all the things needed for the school day. Today and most days they look liked tramps and have food all over their clothes. There shoes are a disgrace.
Ensure they aren't late for school. Their late attendance is appalling, because you are still in bed and the school is 50 yards away
Ensure they get the most from school by allowing them to partake in all after school activities, It is NOT your job to constantly forget to send back forms or kids miss a meal because you forgot to pay
When we collect the kids and their spare clothes, 99% of the time it is wet or damp. There is no excuse as you have a huge garden with plenty of room to hang clothes out.
You refused to attend the last parents evening, which is appalling, so we got the school to ring you
Feed them correctly. A tin of soup is hardly a meal for a growing child, they are often hungry and custard isn't pudding. On the day of Xmas sales You was still in bed at 11, the kids hadn't had breakfast AGAIN,
Ensure a balanced diet, processed frozen food isn't a balanced diet, they tell us they have never had potato, carrots and gravy or a Sunday type dinner at your house.
Ensure the kids are taught about responsibility, for say their room, their things, their life
Ensure they go to bed at a reasonable time and that isn't 9.30pm for a 7-year-old or even later in some cases.
X is 7 and can't even tie his shoes, which shows how much help they aren't given as most 5 year olds can tie their shoes, So we taught him, He goes backwards in his learning during the week when at home then we teach him over the weekends to bring him back up to speed
Another example of lack of help is X spelling is the same level as 4 year old, Big List 1. So in a week we taught her and X and they went up 5 levels
Did you know your kids love to learn and often ask us to give them types of homework
You 100% cannot let your kids go to the park on their own.
Where are X's school shoes? She has gone the whole week wearing non school shoes, why haven't you even bothered to look for them, after all they were in the living room. The thing is you have no idea how they are dressed when they go to school as you are in bed, They say you wave out of the bedroom window to them, Just wtf are you doing in bed at 9am?
Name me one place you have taken the kids since you moved, In fact name me any place the both of you have taken them for fun, I bet that's on less than one hand
She screams like a lunatic at the slightest thing and you do nothing, she even screamed at a frog, it's a frog, yet this never happens at ours probably because you will “cuddle her” She clings on to everyone which could get her in big trouble, when she goes to big school she will be instantly bullied for being fat, dopey and clingy
Your Home:
It is your job to ensure a clean and tidy home for your kids to enjoy, instead of the tip it is.
Not their job to walk through dog and cat piss and shit in the mornings or be scared to wake you, which is outrageous. In fact, they are so scared of you they have never woken you up.
All children love their friends coming round to play, one of X & X's friends live next door to you yet has never visited and vice versa
It is your job to ensure the kids are kept entertained and pointed in the right direction in life, if that's homework, playing with others helping them with x//y/z then so be it. Not just sat in front of a play station
Children like bedrooms that are a great place to play, theirs did look like a drug addicts room, lifeless and no furniture with the floor covered in “crap”. In fact your room is no better,.
The back room downstairs is obviously a dumping ground. The rats will love that rubbish.
It looks like the house hasn't been hoovered for a month.
Even on X after we had kids for the weekend, you still hadn't been arsed to make their beds or hoover up, the place is still a tip
What the kids say
Does mummy tell you to stop sucking your thumb or picking your nose or teeth, NO
So what books does mummy read to you?
“she isn't that sort of mum”
What bedtime stories does she read to you
X “Grandma don't be silly”
I guess homework is easy because your mum and dad helps a lot
“ erm Grandad they never helps us”
Did you enjoy guides?
“I loved it, but mummy won't let me go I know she won’t” and she was right, you should be ashamed to tell her that ½ mile is too far to walk. So one Monday night she missed out on Skating.
So go on tell me the games you play with Mummy?
“She doesn't play with us, she's not that sort of mum”
X are you looking forward to the party? “Yes grandma as I have never been to a party before”, at age 8 & 11 we would have expected the kids to have been in many weekend team/games/sports and to many parties etc, yet they have been or done none at all.
How does mummy help you with reading and school work? They both just laughed.
X, how was Taikwando, “Grandad she never sent the form back again and I wanted to go, she never sends any forms back so we don't do anything all my friends do” he then cried.
Kids did you make mummy and daddy Xmas cards?, no didn't know we should. Did you get cards off mummy and daddy, they both cried.
X birthday, she wanted a bowling party, did she get one? Of course not
Your kids are bored out of their heads because you can't be bothered.
An amazing fact for kids age 8 & 11, they have never had a sleep over, they have NO friends outside of school, they have never taken part in a sport or activity, the only people they play with are each other.
Sometimes you even fall asleep on the settee (they told us) and haven't fed them at 7pm which is a disgrace being as you aren't at work
Your kids think it's their fault you had to go to the police station after social services intervention and you told them to lie if anyone asked, you actually said that they should say everything is OK. As far as we know it was X's mother that started it, maybe you should tell them whose fault it was.
You went to work on a Friday and missed the nativity play that both your children were in, The play started at 1.30 so there is no excuse as your train was a lot later, you just wanted to go to wherever instead of encouraging and seeing your children.
You have never ring up to see how they are, or if you do they can't be bothered to speak to you or X,which says something,
Hubby came home on a Thursday and both of you never even bothered to come and see the kids, which about sums up how little interest you both have in them.
You couldn't even be arsed to buy her first bra, so we did
Update
The house is an utter disgrace, with dog shit stinking the place out, get rid of the pets now
Your kids think the way they act is normal as you give them no guidance at all
Once again they stayed here and you just chucked some clothes into a plastic bag
Most of Xs's clothes don't fit him, not a single thing had been ironed
You need the carpets professionally cleaned as they are a disgrace.
Despite the previous warnings, almost nothing has happened regarding the kids welfare.
They are banned from taking their books home as they keep losing them at home!!!!! That is as bad as losing Xs school shoes when they were in your living room.
Once again nothing is ironed and half their clothes don't fit.
They still continually argue with each other and us, they have no idea this is wrong, as you never correct them.
I feel utterly sorry for the dog and the cats continue to piss over all the clothes, get rid of them.
We spend most of our time, trying to put right the things that you two have never taught your children.
Bedtime, WE take them to bed each night and they are read a story, you don't ever, even when they were 4 years old, so they never clean their teeth or get washed as you don't go upstairs, they then play games with each other often staying up late in the bedroom, you have no idea as you don't check, that’s why they are late for school.
They can play games with each other staying in their own bedrooms AT BEDTIME as they use signals and you never check on them, so they get away with it.
We have had the kids for a week and you or X never rang then once, what an utter disgrace.
back to normal at not caring, as X missed Beavers. Despite it only being 6pm, you should have taken him as it's a 5 minute walk.
house stinks of cat pee again. No wonder you don't want people to come round to your house. How can you be married for 10+ years yet not have any bedroom furniture or even a dining table?
It is almost 2 years since you came to X and you have never taken the kids anywhere except the shops and you shop at the most expensive shop there is, what's wrong with using online shopping? Where it is a lot cheaper?
X missed his end of the season Zorba party, despite you having the details and X paying for it. So we didn't remind you as that isn't our job, we did this on purpose to see if you would organise them, which we knew you wouldn't and have been proven correct.
They still have no interest in anything at all. They are the only kids we know that have no hobbies or interests.
Why is it they almost never have breakfast?
It was the kids science fair and just for a change you couldn't be arsed to go,
They both had a week to practice their experiments, of course you never helped during the whole week, so they were rubbish. It was obvious other parents had helped their kids.
They both argue continually and even did it at the science fair in front of their teachers and X. They never accept they are wrong because they have NO guidance.
It is your job to get them to bring home their PE kit each Friday, they almost never do.
You have no idea what they look like when they go to school as you are in bed, they don’t wash or clean their teeth ever
X has needed new trainers for 2 weeks, bet you never noticed.
X never brought his homework home for a whole year, you never said a thing
I believe it's time we took serious action as this cannot continue