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what is would you suggest getting dd's ears peirced?

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igotissues · 12/01/2007 23:48

my dd is almost 4 months and my dp's mum keeps going on at him to get dd's ears pierced. Im not sure if I want to pierce them so young, though ive seen loads of younger girls (and boys) with theirs pierced. My dp's mum keeps pressuring dp to get dd's ears pierced anyway - whether I agree or not! just asking for opinions on this. I have to admit that im diggin my heels in to show my dp's mum who's boss (or mum in this case). Im worried that if I give in to her, then that will pave the way for her to dictiate how we raise our daughter. Any advice or opinions?

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sandcastles · 12/01/2007 23:53

It's not up to her.

Too young IMO, looks horrible too.

bandstand · 12/01/2007 23:55

stil diggin my heels inwith dd 9 and 7 and a ds 12!

bananaloaf · 12/01/2007 23:58

i was not allowed until i was 18!

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suzycreamcheese · 13/01/2007 00:02

igotissues..i agree, way too young
..it seems to be the done thing where we are, with one mum telling me its 'cultural'(?) her dd's ears pierced before 2 years, and many much younger, and at our playgroups boys too.
i think ultimately its dangerous, they could easily catch and rip...

when i lived in japan they used clip on earrings as piercings (of any part of the body) were thought to upset balance of body

stick to your guns, though actually i think its up to your dd when MUCH older and not anyone else, its her body.

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igotissues · 13/01/2007 00:03

To be honest I dont have a real objection IN PRINCIPLE, but I do think she's too young and piercing her ears isnt a priority at the moment. DD has short hari and people do often ask whether she is a boy or girl - even though I only dress her in pink or lilac when we go out! If dp or his mum are there when this happens, they use it against me to support their argument. Dp really pisses me off about it, cos when I explain my resons he SAYS he understands, but when his mum brings it up again, he just says that I (meaning me, not him) dont want to. He never puts forward my resoning to his family.

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mrsnoah · 13/01/2007 00:11

Much older, they can go septic etc painful business.

Emskilou · 13/01/2007 00:11

So part of the reasoning is that some people ask if your dd is a boy or girl so stabbing little holes in her little perfect ears is a way to resolve that?? Surely saying this is my daughter or she is a little girl or if you are really peed off ffs sake cant you see she is a girl dressed in f**king pink/lilac you tosser.

Sorry if that sounds harsh but I think you should stick to your guns, you are her mother and you do what you feel is right for your dd.

Btw I have a dd with a mass of blonde curly hair aged 2 and a ds with short thick blonde hair aged 11 months and I get you are so lucky to have twin boys/girls or they look at dd and say isnt he handsome and look at ds and say isnt she a gorgeous little girl. I now just stare at these people in sheer astonishment have given up pointing out their mistake, there is a pic of them in member profiles somewhere if you wanted to take a look to see what I mean.

Oh god I have ramble on sorry

sandcastles · 13/01/2007 00:13

This give some arguements to leave it til 2 years old...at least

suzycreamcheese · 13/01/2007 00:14

hmmmm...i got a chameleon man too sometimes..it does make it difficult and puts you right on the spot!
if its worth anything the woman i knew whose dd has pierced ears says she regrets it and was very worried afterwards about infections etc...

would it be worth turning tables on then asking them -MIL and your DP - to explain to you why it is so important to them right now?

colditz · 13/01/2007 00:16

If anyone took my baby to get her ears pierced I would have them charged with assault and I AM NOT JOKING.

It is dangerous, unnecessary, looks repulsive, restrictive, and besides all that it IS NOT THEIR PLACE TO DECIDE!

Christ, most plces won't even do it until the baby is 6 months, a lot won't do it until the child is 6, Jeez, there are good reasons not to maim your child!

suzycreamcheese · 13/01/2007 00:16

sandcastles, thats enough reasons, good article, ouch!

yeahinaminute · 13/01/2007 00:17

Is this a cultural thing igotissues?

my friend is Spanish and had her dd's ears pierced at 4 months ditto my indian friend - i however would not dream of having my DD's ears pierced - she can beg and plead when she's a teenager and I'll probably relent when she's about .... ooooh - let me think ..... 50!!! nah probably 16ish but not before

notasheep · 13/01/2007 00:17

told dd she can have them pierced when she is 16yrs old

colditz · 13/01/2007 00:21

And can I say the Non PC thing?

Everyone will think you are really common.

oversted · 13/01/2007 00:21

When SHE wants her ears pierced (& then I'd give her some grief, myself, so she thinks she's winning one on the rebellion front!)

Why on earth would a 4 month old baby need her ears pierced? It'll hurt. & she won't have any idea why you are inflicting it on her. & if they do go septic, that'll be even more unpleasant.

I've got nothing against piercings - I have a few myself - but you CHOOSE to have someone stick something sharp & pointy through a sensitive bit of your body! You don't do that to a 4 month old baby!

I have a 9 month old dd myself, & the idea of holding her down to hqave her ears pierced makes me feel sick, frankly.

Tell your dp's mum she can treat dd to ear piercing for her 12th birthday!

nappyaddict · 13/01/2007 00:24

wait until she asks at least.

Tortington · 13/01/2007 00:25

tell your MIL to fuck off becuase shes an interfering old knobhead.

Goodasgold · 13/01/2007 00:25

Absolutely agree with Colditz.

bandstand · 13/01/2007 00:26

sandcastles · 13/01/2007 00:26

I thought so too!

I'll neer forget being in Claires shopping when I heard a little baby start screaming. I turned to see her poor red face, tears streaming, a very red ear with a new stud in it. The assistant said to 'mum' maybe we should leave it & take this one out, she replied no, just do the other as quick as you can. The baby was held in a vice like grip whle the assistant did the other ear. I have NEVER in my life heard a child scream so much, it was heartbreaking.

Then as she paid & left the shop the lady holding the baby said "lets go & show mummy what we have done...won't she be surprised"

yeahinaminute · 13/01/2007 00:28

SURPRISED ????? - Fucking livid more like !!

colditz · 13/01/2007 00:30

I honestly, honestly think there should be a law against doing that to a baby, whether you are the parent or not.

sandcastles · 13/01/2007 00:30

Exactly, yeahinaminute....I & as few others looked at each completely gobsmacked!

colditz · 13/01/2007 00:30

Sandcastles I have just felt my face go white reading that!

sandcastles · 13/01/2007 00:31

Couldn't agree more, colditz!

It looks nasty
It's painful

What more reasons do you need?

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