Where does your baby (young) sleep in the evenings before you go to bed?

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We have a chicco in our bedroom and Moses basket down stairs in the living room for our 4m DD. In the evenings once we have put our toddler to bed and I give baby a feed, we put her in the Moses basket in the living room. We play white noise to help her sleep (although she often gets disturbed) and drown out the noise of the TV (we can't really hear it so our evenings are spent sitting in the dark a bit frustrated). I have an angel care alarm in the bedroom and a video monitor but am so scared about SIDS and I don't think you are meant to leave them in a room in their own? What does everyone else do? Would baby get a better sleep in the bedroom and us have an evening to relax after hectic days be better? Please let me have your thoughts? Thank you

DS was in his own room just after 3 months. He'd grown out of the crib & no space in our room for the cot. After about 6 weeks DS was up in the crib with the monitor on after his evening feed. We have an Angelcare monitor with the pad and the video is great, you don't have to go & check every time there is a noise.

I think by that time I'd started to put DC to bed on his own when he was ready usually around 8 ish. I'd have the monitor on and peek in on him regular usually during the soap ad breaks. I tend to go to bed myself between 10 and 11 anyway so it wasn't that long he was alone for. Those few hours between him going to bed and me going to bed gave me a chance to unwind and also catch up with properly with dh.

Place marking! I'm really interested to hear people's thoughts on this too. My baby hasn't arrived yet but I've been wondering about this.

My daughter would just sleep in my arms or in my chest until I went to bed with her.

With our first now 7 yrs we did the same but we were lucky she would sleep in the Moses basket whilst the to was on and we chatted. With my son he would go up to our room in his Moses basket about 8.00 and we used an Angelcare monitor and sensor may plus checked on him until we went up about 11.00!

Mine slept in their room with monitor from whenever they had a 7pm ish bedtime which IIRC was about 7/8 weeks.

I know this is against SIDS advice but there is no way mine would have slept in our living room with us in there.

Thanks everyone for your replies. It's really helpful to know what other people do. I'm still going to think what's best and decide. I suffer from anxiety and I think I would worry to much and probably spend the eve constantly running up and down the stairs checking, even with the angel care alarm and monitors. I'm constantly checking chest movements for breathing down stairs in Moses basket as it is. Wish I wasn't such a worrier :(

Don't worry OP I'm a HUGE worrier and my daughter has made it to 19 months without any problems! Just do what feels right for you. I had everyone telling me she was going to be a nightmare because I held her constant and she slept in my bed. But she is the least clingy child I know and goes into her own bed in her own room every night without any fuss. Happy mummy equals happy babe.

Oh gosh, if she needs the white noise then put her upstairs for sure!

I kept DS downstairs. But I didn't make it quiet for him or play white noise.

My DS is 14 weeks old. We kept him downstairs with us initially till we went to bed, but we stopped this about 5 weeks ago. I now read him a book downstairs at 7.55 then take him up at 8, feed him to sleep then put him in the snuzpod (with sleepyhead). I'm always back downstairs within about 20 mins and he usually sleeps till around 6am, feeds then goes back to sleep till 9am

I put DS to bed in my room (on his own) at around 7 pm and then went up later, whenever I was ready for bed (could be 8pm or 11pm or anything in between and sometimes later). Had monitor on.

Wow MYA that's great your son sleeps through the night. Do you play white noise or have radio or anything on when he's up stairs by himself? I play white noise all throughout the night too next to me where she sleeps. I somehow have it in my head that she needs to hear a sound so that she doesn't think she's by herself if she wakes up etc. Hope that makes sense... Prob sounds a bit mad!

I read somewhere through the stupid amount of stuff I have read online doing research about SIDS that it's not good for babies to be in a silent room as they can feel lonely which can cause SIDS as body shuts down or heart rate drops and breathing. This is why I play white noise. When she was first born I had white noise and light radio talking going (god I do sound crazy!) so that she could hear talking too so she knew people were in the same room.

Goodness how things change. Mine were put to bed upstairs at 7/8 as soon as they would sleep in the evenings. Out of our room at about 10 days as I couldn't sleep! I'm sure it's good to have all the advice but it does seem to make everyone very anxious.

She slept in her carrycot in the living room and had a feed when we went to bed. Afterwards she was put in her side sleeper cot.

4 month old falls asleep during feed then is put in his cot in the bedroom around 7pm but I only live in a one bedroom flat.

We used to (8years ago) do the feed, bath, story bed routine at around 7pm. DD slept in Moses basket in our room, with monitor so we could hear her from downstairs. She moved to a cot from around 3 months and into her own bedroom at 1 year.

Mine sleeps on our bed. He feeds to sleep then I sneak off for a bit, eat dinner, do some housework then go back to bed with hm. I check on him regularly. I can't sit in the living room and relax knowing he is alone in bed which is annoying, so I usually end up going to bed early.

Mine's 8 weeks old and falls asleep on the sleepyhead in the living room - lights on, tv on. This is usually around 8.30ish and when he stirs around 11 (when we want to got to bed), we given him a feed and a nappy change and take him up with us to our room. In there we turn the lights out once in bed but DH always puts the telly so DS and I both go to sleep with that in the background.

I know we have it really lucky, but I don't want to start with white noise, switching off the tv etc as it seems baby will get used to this and you'd be too scared to do anything else. We really want him to be able to sleep anywhere and so far (fingers crossed, touch wood) he sleeps well and self settles.

White noise on all night does sound a bit excessive to me, personally it would never have occurred to me to do anything like that. Each baby and parent is different you've got to stick with what works for you, if that's white noise on all night and your baby sleeps well then there's no reason to change anything.

Without wanting to be critical, it does seem like you're worrying a lot about this.

I would try without the white noise and see what happens. If she sleeps next to you, she won't think she's alone as she'll see you, smell you and hear your breathing.

Can you talk to your health visitor or GP about your anxiety?

Also, by 4 months the risk level for SIDS goes right down. It's a really really low chance at this point and you don't have to follow every recommendation to the letter at this stage, they are ideas for best practice, not instructions to ignore at the expense of your baby's life. :) The most important by far, especially at this stage, are the ones which relate to suffocation risks and overheating. The link to having noise isn't even proven, it's only a theory.

My DD is 20 weeks and she sleeps in a Snuzpod next to our bed. We started putting her in there in the evenings once we started a bath/bed routine so about 14 weeks or so. She is very sensitive to noise so we couldn't watch tv or anything when she was still snoozing on my chest in the evenings - it was such a relief to put her in our room and she seems happier too!

Cot in own room, while I was downstairs, normal monitor. He never took to the Moses and I tried him in the cot one day and he just self soothed and went to sleep! Would sleep in same room as him when he required night feeds. After that he slept on his own with monitor.