Where does your baby (young) sleep in the evenings before you go to bed?

[Newtobecomingamum]

We have a chicco in our bedroom and Moses basket down stairs in the living room for our 4m DD. In the evenings once we have put our toddler to bed and I give baby a feed, we put her in the Moses basket in the living room. We play white noise to help her sleep (although she often gets disturbed) and drown out the noise of the TV (we can't really hear it so our evenings are spent sitting in the dark a bit frustrated). I have an angel care alarm in the bedroom and a video monitor but am so scared about SIDS and I don't think you are meant to leave them in a room in their own? What does everyone else do? Would baby get a better sleep in the bedroom and us have an evening to relax after hectic days be better? Please let me have your thoughts? Thank you

[Newtobecomingamum]

Thank you everyone for your responses and taking the time to write about what you currently do. Still undecided so going to wait until I feel more comfortable and maybe review in a few weeks. Thank you it's been so helpful hearing what others do x

[Brummiegirl15]

We do bath, feed, bed routine with our DD and put her to bed in her cot in our room. She's 17 weeks and we've been doing it since 12 wks as she was far too over stimulated downstairs with us.

I've read previously that the SIDS risk peaks at about 13 weeks then starts to decrease

I certainly will keep her in with us until 6 months though

[Primaryteach87]

In our bedroom from about 6 weeks.

[GeorgeTheThird]

Mine were in their own rooms with a monitor from three or four weeks. Mind you, I often ended up sleeping in their room with them after the late evening feed. So I guess they were only on their own for three hours or so. But it gave us an evening.

[KP86]

DS went into his own room at about 18 weeks, after we went to sleep school. Then was going to bed around 7 and by himself until morning (except for an overnight feed).

Before that he would sleep on our chest before cosleeping when we went to bed. We didn't have a special cot though, he was just swaddled and laid in next to us (above blankets).

[trilbydoll]

We kept dd1 downstairs with us and she's a bloody nightmare at bedtime, always has been and at 2.11 shows little sign of improving. We can at least threaten and bribe her now though.

DD2 has come up at 7pm since day one and is pretty good at just going to sleep. Admittedly she's generally a more placid baby but I think it helped. I just stayed upstairs with her when she was under 6m, DH might watch something on TV but usually he would sit on the bed with me and we would chat quietly.

[ANiceSliceOfCake]

I struggled with this, practically I wanted to put my baby upstairs but I just couldn't go against the SIDS advice no matter what. I personally just couldn't cope if god forbid we were the ones that it happened too, I'd always think what if I kept him downstairs with me. The SIDS advice is based on real statistics so for me that's what I wanted to stick to. Having a monitor makes no difference to the SIDS Risk as its about them being able to hear you too.

So he slept on us downstairs till we went up to bed. Then at 6 months we put him up in his own room. It's been fine.

Not judging anyone by the way, I know I'm in the minority, it's all personal choice.

[Writerwannabe83]

My DS would stay downstairs with me in his Moses Basket and then we'd all go up to bed at about 10pm.

As he got to about the 3 month stage I realised this was no longer appropriate so I would take him upstairs at about 8pm and I would just stay in the bedroom with him, reading or watching a film on the iPad with my headphones in.

When he turned 6 months old I would then put him to bed in his cot and then go back downstairs with a baby monitor.

He was in mine and DH's room until he was 9 months old.

[ODog]

I think we started putting DS upstairs around that age but if he was unsettled we would bring him downstairs and he would sleep on the sofa while we watched TV or on my chest. Luckily he was never really disturbed by TV/noise.

[ShoppingBasket]

Cot in own room, while I was downstairs, normal monitor. He never took to the Moses and I tried him in the cot one day and he just self soothed and went to sleep! Would sleep in same room as him when he required night feeds. After that he slept on his own with monitor.

[Dachshund]

My DD is 20 weeks and she sleeps in a Snuzpod next to our bed. We started putting her in there in the evenings once we started a bath/bed routine so about 14 weeks or so. She is very sensitive to noise so we couldn't watch tv or anything when she was still snoozing on my chest in the evenings - it was such a relief to put her in our room and she seems happier too!

[BertieBotts]

Also, by 4 months the risk level for SIDS goes right down. It's a really really low chance at this point and you don't have to follow every recommendation to the letter at this stage, they are ideas for best practice, not instructions to ignore at the expense of your baby's life. :) The most important by far, especially at this stage, are the ones which relate to suffocation risks and overheating. The link to having noise isn't even proven, it's only a theory.

[BertieBotts]

Without wanting to be critical, it does seem like you're worrying a lot about this.

I would try without the white noise and see what happens. If she sleeps next to you, she won't think she's alone as she'll see you, smell you and hear your breathing.

Can you talk to your health visitor or GP about your anxiety?

[uhoh2016]

White noise on all night does sound a bit excessive to me, personally it would never have occurred to me to do anything like that. Each baby and parent is different you've got to stick with what works for you, if that's white noise on all night and your baby sleeps well then there's no reason to change anything.

[HandbagFan]

Mine's 8 weeks old and falls asleep on the sleepyhead in the living room - lights on, tv on. This is usually around 8.30ish and when he stirs around 11 (when we want to got to bed), we given him a feed and a nappy change and take him up with us to our room. In there we turn the lights out once in bed but DH always puts the telly so DS and I both go to sleep with that in the background.

I know we have it really lucky, but I don't want to start with white noise, switching off the tv etc as it seems baby will get used to this and you'd be too scared to do anything else. We really want him to be able to sleep anywhere and so far (fingers crossed, touch wood) he sleeps well and self settles.

[CutYourHairAndGetAJob]

Mine sleeps on our bed. He feeds to sleep then I sneak off for a bit, eat dinner, do some housework then go back to bed with hm. I check on him regularly. I can't sit in the living room and relax knowing he is alone in bed which is annoying, so I usually end up going to bed early.

[Gazelda]

We used to (8years ago) do the feed, bath, story bed routine at around 7pm. DD slept in Moses basket in our room, with monitor so we could hear her from downstairs. She moved to a cot from around 3 months and into her own bedroom at 1 year.

[Marmalade85]

4 month old falls asleep during feed then is put in his cot in the bedroom around 7pm but I only live in a one bedroom flat.

[eurochick]

She slept in her carrycot in the living room and had a feed when we went to bed. Afterwards she was put in her side sleeper cot.

[poisonedbypen]

Goodness how things change. Mine were put to bed upstairs at 7/8 as soon as they would sleep in the evenings. Out of our room at about 10 days as I couldn't sleep! I'm sure it's good to have all the advice but it does seem to make everyone very anxious.

[Newtobecomingamum]

I read somewhere through the stupid amount of stuff I have read online doing research about SIDS that it's not good for babies to be in a silent room as they can feel lonely which can cause SIDS as body shuts down or heart rate drops and breathing. This is why I play white noise. When she was first born I had white noise and light radio talking going (god I do sound crazy!) so that she could hear talking too so she knew people were in the same room.

[Newtobecomingamum]

Wow MYA that's great your son sleeps through the night. Do you play white noise or have radio or anything on when he's up stairs by himself? I play white noise all throughout the night too next to me where she sleeps. I somehow have it in my head that she needs to hear a sound so that she doesn't think she's by herself if she wakes up etc. Hope that makes sense... Prob sounds a bit mad!

[ParsleyTheLion1]

I put DS to bed in my room (on his own) at around 7 pm and then went up later, whenever I was ready for bed (could be 8pm or 11pm or anything in between and sometimes later). Had monitor on.

[MYA2016]

My DS is 14 weeks old. We kept him downstairs with us initially till we went to bed, but we stopped this about 5 weeks ago. I now read him a book downstairs at 7.55 then take him up at 8, feed him to sleep then put him in the snuzpod (with sleepyhead). I'm always back downstairs within about 20 mins and he usually sleeps till around 6am, feeds then goes back to sleep till 9am