i invited a new mum friend to my home for her 4yr old to play with mine and i felt my home was nearly destroyed by her 2 and 4 yr old. She said hardly anything to her children.

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My walls had chocolate and drawing over them. Drinks openly spilled on my floor and left there for some time. Climbing walls and running into glass doors...also chocolate over them and heavy painting frames being moved by 2 yr old which if fallen on this child would have killed her. Parent said nothing and worse still had no intention of leaving until I prompted it. I feel so stupid for inviting over. I feel so drained and depressed by this experience. Never has happened before to me.

I have a friend like that - her 4 year old made a right mess of my house and garden - she did make a half hearted attempted to get him to behave but he wasn't listening. Now we meet at the park or soft play!

I used to judge her but based on how my toddler is turning out I expect I will soon be that parent who's child doesn't get invited to anyones house for fear that she wreck it!!

Orrrr, you could just tell the child not to draw on your walls and smear chocolate all over them. I'm failing to understand why this is such a difficult thing to do that it requires the making up of imaginary appointments.

You can't say that Xena people will say you're a troll

How did you react to that behavior?

Well then that's her own silly fault, isn't it. Zero sympathy.