Stay at home mums with kids at school, why dont they get jobs??

[sleepinbeauty]

Just a bit hacked off with mums at school, they moan about having no life away from their kids/ not much money, yet they all seem to refuse to get jobs or careers!
why do some women just want to do sweet FA all day when their kids are at school? They seem content for their husbands to slog their guts out at work while they drink cups of tea and watch daytime tv! Dont get it! i think its called laziness??

Do you think? I don't want to offend anyone. Just putting forth my humble point of view.

So Anoah, what'm I supposed to do? Wear a placard with my reasons (several of which fell into the list you gave BTW- child with SN, three kids and no childcare, plus DH on shifts etc etc)round my neck? Do you have an amazing sixth sense that enable you to just tell when someone is taking the piss, or indeed how much their tax burder (given that some will ahve aprents, or kids, or partners who put far more into the tax system than you ever will) affects you?

What is it about MN that makes people think know all about peoples unspoken histories and can criticize their histories?

How do ypu know the uber Mum at the school gates isn't floating on a cushion of prozac?
Or going straight round to change her Mum's colostomy bag?

How about you can understand a mum staying at home because she damn well wants to. How dare you imply I am a cost to society, as someone else has already said about their own family my family put more tax into the economy than may others. as for a burden to the NHS I think I've done quite enough for the NHS after 15 years of hard slog!

Right I'll jump down now and go back to cooking my meatballs

Anoah - Great Wind-up

love from Iota, the laziest of lazy-ar$e SAHMs

What is special about this generation of SAHMs compared with previous ones? Surely it is LESS common than it was in the past? Is it that the NHS is now vastly more expensive due to improved techniques and drugs? Or that more people are living longer and so the pensions bill is higher? Really, I'm trying to understand your point.

Is your beef with SAHMs who claim benefits, or all SAHMs because they don't pay tax?

Some are some aren't Peachyclair. There is no way to know who is doing what.

I did a 15 hour night shift last night in a HIGH stress job on my feet the whole time with no break. I saw a few people die in that hell hole too. I got off of work at 0800 this morning and took my Autistic DS age 6 to school and spent the rest of the day caring for my DD age 3 and DS age 1. I also cleaned the house and walked the dog. I will finally get to bed at 10Pm tonight and have to be up at 0500 to do another 12-15 hour day. Lucky for me I only do three 12-15 hour shifts a week. I also spend lots of time with my kids and they do activities.

I just think that being a working mum is very doable. I spend lots of quality time with my kids. Both DH and I work shifts where we switch from days into nights with very little notice. We have no family around to help AT ALL. None. In laws are dead and my parents are abroad. We are coping just fine with our 3 babies, one with special needs.

I just don't see what the big deal is?

Anoah - are you for real? 'Dragging your family down?' By looking after my 3 kids myself instead of paying out hundreds for someone else to do it?

Of course the NHS being on its last legs would have nothing to do with paying millions for pointless wars in Iraq would it?

Its all about choice. You made your choice, fine. I've made mine and I am certainly not 'dragging your family down'.

But why do you insist that everyone has to do the same? Really not understanding the point about some SAHMs taking the piss and others not.

Look you guys, some stay at home mums are tax burdens who never worked in their lives and don't take care of their kids. Other stay at home mums are decent people who take good care of their families. What is the big deal about my post?

You can say that some SAHM's are losers without saying that all of them are!

I don't shell out money on childcare. Dh and I work opposite.

Yeah the Iraq war was a total waste. Oh well.

"I just think that being a working mum is very doable"

I have no doubt it is (but you don't sound like you're having a great time after the description of your day/night.) but how come you are judging those of us who CHOOSE not to do this. Does being a working mum make you a more worthy member of society. You imply that us SAHM just can't be bothered to get a job.

Now I've burnt the pi**g meatballs!!!

Re-read your post Anoah. We are dragging your family down. Personally. Robbing you of your hard earned cash. That's the big deal!!

I implied that SOME stay at home mums can't be bothered to get a job. Others work hard at home.

That might have been what you WANTED to say. But it isn't what you ACTUALLY said.

Which exact stay at home mums then? Are we back to the ones with school age kids?

Why does it bother you anyway? How the hell are you linking this to taking money out of your purse?

I think you need to remember that you are lucky to have the flexibility to allow for you to not have to pay for childcare. You are obviously paying for this in other ways - you musn't see a lot of your partner. But the point is, as a SAHM, who probably could get a job, I would never, ever criticise your choice. Why would you do so for others?

Absolutely niceglasses, my choice is my choice and has nothing to do with anybody else or anyone elses finances - just ours!

I can't b bothered to get a job, and I don't work hard at home either - I spend far too long on MN

"I saw a few people die in that hell hole too."

Really?

and can you explain how 'hardworking' SAHMs do more for the economy than ones who like watching Trisha?

I do nothing for the economy. I have done, and I will do, but at the moment I'm just a drain. I use the NHS, and the school system. I don't get any benefits, but I use the library, museums, subsidised arts. So I guess I'm one of those taking the piss.

Actually, I've now found a new mission in life.

To drag Anoah and her family down. I'm going to give up my job and concentrate on doing that.

you know who's the worst though - don't you? SAHM who have expensive IVF on the NHS and then can't be bothered to go back to work and pay taxes again.

And what about people who get Working Tax credit - they should get a proper well-paid job and pay higher rate tax.

[where's that eye-rolling emoticon when you need it]

casual browsers please note that this NOT what I really think

how about we all stop having children so that we can work all our lives and pay the maximum amount of tax?

oh but then the human race would die out