Stay at home mums with kids at school, why dont they get jobs??

[sleepinbeauty]

Just a bit hacked off with mums at school, they moan about having no life away from their kids/ not much money, yet they all seem to refuse to get jobs or careers!
why do some women just want to do sweet FA all day when their kids are at school? They seem content for their husbands to slog their guts out at work while they drink cups of tea and watch daytime tv! Dont get it! i think its called laziness??

My DH has a vg stressful job that most of the time he loves and although he clearly feels the strain sometimes we agreed before we had children that for as long as we could manage it he would be the sole breadwinner - this is what he and I want.

our kids are still far away from school age but dh is not overly concerned that I go straight back to work even when they are at school. We both see the benefits of one parent being 100% available for the children and though I don't consider myself a 50's housewife I do see the benefits for my family from me being SAHM for the time being. I am currently considering options for completing my MSc (left unfinished when I had ds) - but have not decided what I will do in the long run.

The way I see it families with two parents working are creating a new servant class of cleaners, au pairs and nanny's - the class system is still going strong just changed its perameters. I think sahm's should be considered to be contributing to the economy by caring for their families and nurturing the next generation - some may be better at this than others but the same can be said for people in the workforce - I encountered plenty of workshy groats in my decade in the workforce - but they were mainly men!

annie, ive seen both sides

dd1 for about a year went to a cm 2 days a week

she came home those days with new words, new skills, she had tried new food, new songs, and it tore me apart. it upset me that i had not taught her these things

so instead i work a few (5 tbh, not much i admit) hours a week when dh is at home to care for the dd's now, and i feel so much better about it.

now you all probably think im a possessive mother

maybe i am

Two working parents and two mediocre salaries. No financial support to the servant class you describe - only pay for the hospital creche he goes to three days a week (and I work full time but over four days). Get a grip.

OMG how did I miss this little gem

I actually thought it was cod taking the piss in a jokey way and then I clicked on it and realised the poster was serious and nearly fell on the floor.

This thread doesn't even apply to me as ds is on 10 months old but my God woman get a grip, if you don't like listening to them moaning about having no money then why don't you ask them why they don't work they may well have a very good reason.

I mean seriously if it does piss you off as much as it looks like why don't you grow a back bone and bloody ask the dossing, fat arsed, moaning mothers

I am totally with you anniemac!

I am at uni pt and I know who is raising my daughter, me. But I know also that her dad has a hand in it, even though we are not together, so he doesn't see her as much as me.

Nursery staff, etc, play with my dd, teach her things and no doubt play a small part in 'raising' her, but it is a small part.

But being as morningpaper does send her children to nursery (a little) I would guess that it isn't that big a deal anyway!

It is not to me, mainly because as much as I love dd I don't actually - shock horror - want to be with her 24/7! We have fun when we are together (which is most of the bloody time! ) but I like the time when I am learning/socialising, etc, without her.

Everyone gets judged on threads like these don't they?

would be delighted to get a grip - realise there are all sorts of situations requiring both parents to work and having no choice in the matter - but fact remains that a lot of the house/ child related work has to be farmed out to others while parents are working - no offence meant to anyone working or not I feel very priviliged (in between feeling like a drudge)

Yep they do. I like to think each to their own, but get hacked off when it is implied that I don't really have to work full time or that I could easily switch to a job that accommodates school runs.

This is great!! Where did sleepinbeauty go?

annie its the same thing! the fact that it upset me that someone else was raising my child (yes thats how it felt to me) was the reason i stopped taking her to the strangers (sorry cm's) house

dd1 was neither put up nor down (LOL)

just wanted to add that i DO work, 7am til 930 am saturday and sunday mornings, and i do NOT hurry home (dd's at home with dh)

the traffic is unbelievable, you see, and i do have to drive v slowly pass some v nice shops

sometimes i even have to park and go in the shops

when dd1 calls me grandma on a friday as she has been with MIL for 3 days when I work, I get mightily pissed off

But I have to work so hey ho, deal with it.

I too have collected her from playgroup annimac and she has said "awwwwwwwwwwwwwww, is it not a day I stay? but I want to!" Bless them, grrrrrrrr

Sorry sjb, I get prickly when generalisations are made. Tbh, the creche ds goes to is subsidised and costs £400 per month for 3 days a week. Private ones cost £43 a day and open an hour later. I'm having one of those days when I daydream about moving to the Caribbean and living a stress free life for a year. Just saw a programme on living in Dominica ................wistfully sighs......

{shameless hijack - I'll bugger off in a sec}
AnnieMac what do you specialise in & where are you based?

Carry on,gels.