Stay at home mums with kids at school, why dont they get jobs??

[sleepinbeauty]

Just a bit hacked off with mums at school, they moan about having no life away from their kids/ not much money, yet they all seem to refuse to get jobs or careers!
why do some women just want to do sweet FA all day when their kids are at school? They seem content for their husbands to slog their guts out at work while they drink cups of tea and watch daytime tv! Dont get it! i think its called laziness??

I do not enjoy it

I feel my brain is turning to mush

I hate doing unrewarding physical work while DH is praised and rewarded for using his brain

It bores me rigid

Don't get me wrong, I love my blah blah blah and all that, but the nitty gritty day to day is so much mindless washing and folding. Yes, of course you can't quanify the input of a loving parent blah blah blah - I don't think there is a simple answer. And I think a parent is the best person to bring up young children. So here I am and here I will stay. But most of what I do all day is mindless crap.

And that's WITH children at home! I can't wait until they are at school and I get my teeth into something lovely and stimulating every day....

Only 4 more years

well MP I worked until ds1 went to school, so that I didn't have to be SAHM with pre-schoolers.

anniemac - i have read the posts and i totally agree with your comments, esp the bit about not making asumptions about what goes on in people's private lives. I didn't mean to be provocative, i am interested in is what the workers think SAHMs ought to be doing.

MP - agree, I also find the 'housework' part boring and the constant round of getting drinks adn food for small people. It's bloody boring.

Now they are at nursery and school more it's great to be able to get housework done while they aren't here plus I've got the flexibility to do other things that I enjoy and benefit others. Apart from when I'm working, I love going in to do classroom helping and reading and I do loads of PTA stuff - event organising etc. It's not for everyone but I really enjoy it and I'm fortunate to have the flexibility, with children at school/nursery to do those things.

I couldn't spend my day in the house doing nothing though.

where has sleepin beauty gone

thanks annimac, thought i'd put my foot in it there!

omg
what a thread

i liked your last post, MP,

"i think a parent is the best person to bring up young children. so here i am and here i will stay"

I work 4 days a week, 9.30 to 2.30 as a solicitor so I'm one of the v. lucky ones. Yesterday was my day off and I cleaned 14 rooms, painted a fence, got quotes from a decorator and a plumber, helped a friend with a crisis, saw my son off to school, cooked the dinner, helped with homework, went to a meet & greet at the school and for a drink with a friend and got paid a big fat zero.
Today, I will get paid £150 for sitting on MN, eating 7 biscuits so far, drinking tea, talking about clothes, oh, and seeing a client for 20 mins.
Mypoint? I did a lot more yesterday to contribute to the family and society at large than I did today, and didn't get paid a bean.

Oh yes and I did the ironing.

love it mumblechum!

you have a house with 14 rooms?

well, in my view it's lazy if they're not doing anything else other than running the home. But as others' have said if you're using the time to make a contribution to yr community - PTA work for example - then excellent. Ditto if you're studying/doing voluntary work etc. Personally don't understand how anyone cd do nothing but else but housework/childcare, wd drive me mad and yes, make me feel lazy!
Right now, juggling childcare with ill schoolchild/toddler & needs of demanding job, can't help feeling a little of those who are on standby at all times, I get exhausted sometimes just at the thought of the torturous arrangements we have to make just to get out the door to nursery/school/station/work and back again, leave alone actually doing it.

yep. also scary mortgage.

others even for any punctuation-watchers.
It's been one of those days, mainly due to that juggling - hate it, hate it, hate it - -feeling guilty as cdn't work yesterday, feeling guilty as ds probably sdn't have gone to school either but it was 50/50 and i had a ton of meetings...Now back where I belong at home

oh yes, we can join the scary list too! Live in fear of those dreaded words "interest rate rise"

I agree with you there MP in how boring it can be and that a parent is the best person to bring up their child. I still don't intend to rush back to my old career once they are both at school though. I will do something for me, me, me what form that will take, who knows. Perhaps will spend more time on MN blethering

14?!?! 14 rooms?! wow!

solicitors get paid too much

was she talking about her own house? thouhgt maybe she'd been helping out at sch or sth! God, if i were rich enough to afford such a home, i'd damn well outsource its cleaning & decorating!

ok you're embarrassing me now, wish I'd never specified! Let's get back to the subject!

to me, it all boils down to the fact i dont want a stranger raising my children

its my job to do that

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