How many of you do never shout at your kids? And what's your secret?

[emkana]

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bumping this for you emkana as am dying to know..........

me too.

I can honestly say I rarely shout at my children - or anyone for that matter. I just don't loose it, I don't have a temper, and it's not always a good thing.

I'll be amazed if this thread runs and runs with peopele saying the don't Em.
I'd find it hard to believe anybody who says the NEVER shout at their kids.

After all a raised voice would be shouting at them wouldn't it?...anything louder than you normal voice would be shouting.

For the record..I shout. proper shouting too, more than a rasied voice.

I'm afraid I bellow sometimes, which is quite scary even to me . Normal run of the mill shouting is par for the course.

I shout. Definately. Absolutely. Loudly.

At bedtime especially. Wake up in the morning with a sore throat.

I bellow on occaision too SG.

The neighbours must love me!!

I don't shout. DS is deaf and shouting would just distort my voice and he wouldn't be able to understand what I'm shouting about. Also, even with his hearing aids, the difference in voice level wouldn't be that huge, so the impact would be lost anyway. I sometimes forget and shout, only to be met by a bemused DS having no idea what it was about (if I'm to believe him).

A friend of mine who is much older than me with older kids once told me that to speak in a very low threatening quiet voice in their ear is much more effective.

I have to confess that I havent quite mastered it. I feel much better after a good bellow anyway

Can you shout in sign language? Now wouldnt that be cool?!!

So then, you DO shout Cristina?

i don't ever shout at my three, i sometimes have to leave the room when i feel cross thou, my three have autism and shouting would only confuse them, i do shout at hubby thou!

Before I had children I always heard an unseen neighbour of mine bellowing at her children. I was very snooty about it all and vowed I wouldn't do that if I had children.

Three kids later...ahem

I bellow once in a blue moon. Achieves little except to alleviate my own anger a tiny bit.

With the older ones they are told, if they don't do what I say or discuss reasonably why they souldn't, they get their pocket money docked.

With the younger ones they are removed from the room or actively ignored until tantrums or strops stop.

We don't do sign language. Aslo, he can just close his eyes.

Yes, I suppose then that i DO shout but show me someone who doesn't at all and I'll show you a liar.

Ooh, I'll watch this thread with interest. I hope to pick up some tips, as I have not yet mastered the art of 'mothering without bellowing'!

I definately have different tones depending on the situation. DD knows when I am cross by the change in my voice but I don't generally shout.

oh look, don't we all shout at our families sometimes?

I shout at DS if he ignores the first 15 times I ask him to do something.

And I shout at DH if I've had a totally crap week, and he comes home wanting to tell me what a crap week he's had

I find it comes and goes - I haven't shouted for ages in that i can't remember the last time, but then we I do it'll happen regularly. I guess they go through good and bad phases and so do I. I find that normally if I'm in a shouting phase it's often because I'm having a bad time not actually anything they've done

I have never shouted at my husband and I can let into to my secret there

I sulk

NEVER

I lie....of course.

I do know one completely and utterly gentle and kind mother who is so sensitive and softly spoken, I really can't imagine she has ever shouted in her life. I bet she doesn't shout at her dd. Her dd is probably the sweetest and most charming child I have ever met...

I will ask my friend if she has ever shouted at her but she is so thoughtful and kind that she would probably lie just to make us all feel better

great thread, btw!
Just pleased to find out that I am seemingly pretty normal then, with my shouting, etc....I try not to shout, and tbh, if I manage not to, it's far more effective and calming...but well...no body is perfect, lol!