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Kid is scared of breaking stuff in the house.

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rombomb · 30/04/2014 19:52

At Lance’s house in the living room, he and his friend Ben are running and Ben bumps a lamp on accident and it breaks. He freaks out scared.

Ben: oh no! i’m gonna get in trouble.

Lance: it’s ok. it was an accident. and dad can get a new one.

Ben: but he’ll be mad.

Lance: no he won’t. i’ve done it before and he wasn’t mad. he just says ‘it’s ok we’ll get a new one.’ and then he says ‘try not to run in places where you can bump into stuff or places where you can get hurt.'

[ben calms down a little but is still worried. he’s not sure that lance’s claims about his dad are right.]

[rick, Lance’s dad, comes into the living room from his bedroom.]

Rick: hi ben.

Ben: hi.

[rick notices the broken lamp.]

Rick: oh.. what happened?

[ben says nothing]

Lance: we were running and ben knocked over the lamp on accident.

Rick: ok. well, try not to run where you can knock over stuff. how about you guys play outside instead of here?

Ben: ok!

Rick: are you guys hungry?

Lance: no but i think i’ll be hungry after playing outside.

Rick: k, what do you want to eat?

Lance: i want pizza. ben what do you want?

Ben: pizza sounds good. what kind?

Lance: i like plain cheese.

Ben: me too.

Rick: k, i’ll get it reading in the oven and then you can turn the dial to 15 minutes when you’re ready.

Lance: k. [and runs outside]

[rick opens the freezer to get pizza out.]

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Why do you think Ben get's scared that Lance's dad will be mad?

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PrincessBabyCat · 30/04/2014 21:11

LOL Lance isn't even real. My imaginary head children are perfect, respectful, and listen to me too. Sometimes they even make me breakfast in bed. Grin

rombomb · 30/04/2014 21:12

If you don't want your kid's friend to break stuff in your house, like, and you'd be mad if he did, then you shouldn't have his friend over to your house.

If you'd get mad at your kid for breaking something out of ignorance (not carelessness but ignorance), then you shouldn't have a kid.

If you don't know how to get your kid to care about avoiding breaking your stuff, then you should have learned how to be a good parent before having a kid.

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treaclesoda · 30/04/2014 21:12

tantrums I hope, rules being the same for adults and children, that your dc are allowed to help themselves from the money tree too?

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TantrumsAndBalloons · 30/04/2014 21:14

If you don't know how to get your kid to care about avoiding breaking your stuff, then you should have learned how to be a good parent before having a kid.

Rick had better send his kid back then. Because he clearly doesnt care about breaking stuff. Which is the whole point of this thread, isn't it?

treaclesoda · 30/04/2014 21:14

see, my children understand perfectly well that knocking stuff over can result in it breaking. Even the two year old. So how does that fit in with it being ignorance, not carelessness?

TantrumsAndBalloons · 30/04/2014 21:14

No treacle they are kept in a corner eating bread and water. Grin

JustSquirted · 30/04/2014 21:15
Confused
whattoWHO · 30/04/2014 21:16

Who broke the lamp?

Rommell · 30/04/2014 21:16

Grin Tantrums. Thanks. It was bugging me.

How has Lance demonstrated that he '[cares] about avoiding breaking [Rick's] stuff'? He doesn't even clean the damn lamp up.

JustSquirted · 30/04/2014 21:16

Where is the MNHQ comment?
Says at the top they've commented, but I can't see it.

treaclesoda · 30/04/2014 21:16

how do you learn to be a good parent before having a kid? That's like saying you should learn to be a good doctor before you apply to medical school.

sandberry · 30/04/2014 21:18

TCS=Taking Children Seriously. Non coercive parenting, if you were a strict proponent of this you would think coercion in any circumstance at all was wrong. There used to be an interesting forum where people would tie themselves in knots over real life queries to avoid coercion of any sort. It was quite interesting. The 'shouldn't have a kid if you can't afford an ipad' was the kind of argument you would end up with when there was nowhere else to go (to be fair it did have some good points)

It seems to me that in your scenario Ben's parents must be good parents then because Ben cares about breaking their stuff while Lance couldn't give a shit about Rick's lamp.

sleepyhead · 30/04/2014 21:18

Some of us can't afford an iPad because we have children.

Sometimes ds1 breaks something by accident but I can't afford to buy a new one. That's a lesson he's had to learn unfortunately. People like us just have to be more careful than people like Lance and Rick with the things we like.

JimBobplusasprog · 30/04/2014 21:18

OP let me horrify you with my parenting: when ds broke the front door lock after being told not to fiddle with it, he got a bollocking. When ds snapped his third violin bow after being told to be more careful with them and not play light sabre games, he got a bollocking (even though it was an accident that he hit the wall with the bow when he was actually trying to hit his brother. ) When my other ds broke a plate my grandmother had given me by twirling it round and round even though we'd asked him to stop, he got a bollocking.

When ds broke a different plate in the same set by tripping up he was upset as he knew how much I valued them but of course I didn't tell him off as it was a genuine accident. When ds broke the vacuum cleaner by attempting to vacuum up a puddle of water he didn't get a telling off as he had no idea he was doing anything wrong. He felt (a little) bad about breaking thevacuum ccleaner as he realised it would be expensive. I have taught him that it's important to take care of your possessions and other people's possessions.

Rick is a weird parent. Lance will no doubt spend much of his adult life in therapy. Ben realises it's not a good thing to break stuff and will no doubt grow up much more balanced.

AiryFairyHairyAndScary · 30/04/2014 21:18

OPs had her blog link zapped. Quick work by MNHQ Wink

ShoeWhore · 30/04/2014 21:18

Oh shoot, now I'm in a right dilemma.

I can't afford an ipad. Should I send the dcs back?

I sometimes shout at them if they are careless and break stuff too. Am I a terrible mother?

I might have to start my own AIBU. I'm so confused.

Canus · 30/04/2014 21:19

Well JustSquirted perhaps MNHQ do not meet OP's uber/fantasy parenting standards, so thier opinion has been automaticlly discounted.

Perfectlypurple · 30/04/2014 21:19

ODFOD

AndIFeedEmGunpowder · 30/04/2014 21:20

I'm still confused about the pizza.

Perfectlypurple · 30/04/2014 21:20

I echo what jimbob said. That is how it is in our house.

ShoeWhore · 30/04/2014 21:20

Where do I get a money tree as well? I could really do with one of those then I wouldn't have to get so "mad" with my dcs if they broke something, you know, really expensive.

Maybe I should click on that link to get some really top quality advice on what to do?

JimBobplusasprog · 30/04/2014 21:21

Wow, MNHQ are on form today... that was very fast.

angryangryyoungwoman · 30/04/2014 21:21

I love lamp

pictish · 30/04/2014 21:21

ahem

Kid is scared of breaking stuff in the house.
phalanges · 30/04/2014 21:21

I think Rick is a bit of a dick for calling his son Lance.

He'll surely be teased.

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