Kid is scared of breaking stuff in the house.

[rombomb]

At Lance’s house in the living room, he and his friend Ben are running and Ben bumps a lamp on accident and it breaks. He freaks out scared.

Ben: oh no! i’m gonna get in trouble.

Lance: it’s ok. it was an accident. and dad can get a new one.

Ben: but he’ll be mad.

Lance: no he won’t. i’ve done it before and he wasn’t mad. he just says ‘it’s ok we’ll get a new one.’ and then he says ‘try not to run in places where you can bump into stuff or places where you can get hurt.'

[ben calms down a little but is still worried. he’s not sure that lance’s claims about his dad are right.]

[rick, Lance’s dad, comes into the living room from his bedroom.]

Rick: hi ben.

Ben: hi.

[rick notices the broken lamp.]

Rick: oh.. what happened?

[ben says nothing]

Lance: we were running and ben knocked over the lamp on accident.

Rick: ok. well, try not to run where you can knock over stuff. how about you guys play outside instead of here?

Ben: ok!

Rick: are you guys hungry?

Lance: no but i think i’ll be hungry after playing outside.

Rick: k, what do you want to eat?

Lance: i want pizza. ben what do you want?

Ben: pizza sounds good. what kind?

Lance: i like plain cheese.

Ben: me too.

Rick: k, i’ll get it reading in the oven and then you can turn the dial to 15 minutes when you’re ready.

Lance: k. [and runs outside]

[rick opens the freezer to get pizza out.]

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Why do you think Ben get's scared that Lance's dad will be mad?

It's cute that you really think one talk could solve a child's behavior permanently. Do you even have kids?

This is ridiculous that you think that I think that one talk solves anything.

And you should have been able to figure out that in the OP, there wasn't just one talk. Rick and Lance have discussed things before, as Lance explained in the OP.

And why are you talking about a no running rule? Do you never run in your house? Or is that rule only for your children?

Well, whatever lessons Rick wants to tell Lance, it clearly isn't getting across. He can parrot out the words about not running where you can break stuff or hurt yourself, but he doesn't show the remotest inclination to follow this advice. Therefore, Rick's message is falling on deaf ears. And he's probably a wanker anyway.

It's perfectly reasonable to tell a child off for carelessness that leads to a breakage. That is how they learn to be more careful.

I don't want to live in a house full of broken shit and have a child who has no respect for the property of others.

Rick is teaching his child that real people don't have emotions about people breaking their precious belongings whether on accident or on purpose and teaching Lance that expressions of anger, sadness or disappointment are unacceptable. Lance will grow up an emotional cripple.

If Ben is afraid of being beaten for breaking the lamp then he might have some problems too, however assuming he is actually an empathic child who 'afraid' of his parents being upset, sad, disappointed or typically angry over losing something they love because of his actions (intentional or not) he will probably grow up a healthy person with good control over his own emotions and able to model this healthy way of living for his own children.

Rick, is a wanker that is, not Lance.

Although Lance will probably grow up to be a wanker if Rick doesn't start trying to teach him respect for other people and their possessions.

What does Rick look like? It would help if I could know what colour hair he has.

Well, whatever lessons Rick wants to tell Lance, it clearly isn't getting across. He can parrot out the words about not running where you can break stuff or hurt yourself, but he doesn't show the remotest inclination to follow this advice. Therefore, Rick's message is falling on deaf ears. And he's probably a wanker anyway.

You're not making sense. Lance didn't run anywhere where things can break. Ben did that.

No....Lance said he'd broken stuff before....

Rick looks like a wanker, obv. More specifically, he wears cut-off trousers and zany glasses. In fact, the more I think about him, the more I hate him.

rombomb, yes, I get that Ben broke the lamp, but you said in your OP that they were both running. Were they running in different rooms? If so, I hate Rick all the more because he has two rooms in the house with enough space to run in. The capri-panted wanker.

No, you don't seem to understand the point I am making, do you?
If you, as a parent, say oh never mind you broke xyz, be more careful next time. Don't worry I will just buy another one, then you are teaching your children that they can run around and break things without worrying about if. Because dad will just buy another one.

Clearly this lesson is not getting through to ricks son.
Clearly he has run around and broken things on a pretty regular basis, given that he is able to repeat word for word what his dad will say about breaking things.

So the nice little chat about not running into things has not worked. All it has done is make his son think that it's ok to break stuff. No one will be annoyed and someone will buy another one. There are no consequences. So as I said, lets hope he doesn't carry this idea into adulthood.

But Lance has broken the lamp before and seemingly has still not learned that running in the house is dangerous - and isn't the danger of injury more of a concern than the broken stuff? Why does Lance's dad not get that? He sounds laid back to the point of irresponsible, tbh.

Just glancing round my house, if my kids run in here and trip they could crack their heads on the coffee table, the dining table, the glass TV unit, etc. Serious possibility of serious injury. Risk of breaking stuff is secondary. Maybe Ben's dad got a scare when Ben missed cracking his skull on the hearth by 5mm, last time he broke something.

Rick is teaching his child that real people don't have emotions about people breaking their precious belongings whether on accident or on purpose and teaching Lance that expressions of anger, sadness or disappointment are unacceptable. Lance will grow up an emotional cripple.

This is ridiculous.

If somebody scratches your car on accident, do you get angry? If you do, you should start changing that. You can start with this: [blog link REDACTED by MNHQ because... just because]

Ben was scared because he thought he might get told off. Perhaps he has parents that NEVER tell him off so he is scared of the prospect of any form of punishment.

This is what should have happened..
The kid should have apologised and offered to help clean up and replace the lamp. Rick should have prompted him to apologise and help clean up if need be but he should have declined any payment. Kids should know not to run in the house and should know to respect people's property.

There is a difference between scared and being remorseful.

Rick sounds like a new age dick.

Hope that helps with your assignment OP

And why are you talking about a no running rule? Do you never run in your house? Or is that rule only for your children?

No. I do not run in my house.

If I told my children not to do something enough times that they could easily parrot my lecture and still run in the house and break shit, I'd change my method of discipline.

And yes, Rick is a wanker who probably buys his clothes from Jacamo. And tries to be a "cool dad"

And has more m

No....Lance said he'd broken stuff before....

Yes, that's before. I'm talking about during the dialogue.

*more

Also, what is the significance of the pizza? Is this some kind of modern Aesop's Fable that warns against feeding one's child pizza in case they turn into a lamp-breaking hooligan?

OP is using this shitty thread to spam. Don't click the dodgy link!

Why are you doing this as a role play?!?!?!?

during the dialogue lance is thinking "blah blah dads said this a hundred times before

No lesson is being learned here.

I REPEAT>>>>DO NOT CLICK THAT LINK FROM OP!!

OP, it doesn't mean that Ben is scared of his parents reaction.

My DD, who is exceptionally well behaved will occasionally tell me that something happened at school, like for example she got told off by her teacher for talking and she will say 'you won't tell daddy will you?'. I was really worried that something was going on that I didn't know about, until dh told me that she does the same to him. We have rarely told her off for anything in her life, but somehow she feels that we will be cross with her. But we never have been, so she must be getting this from witnessing other people getting cross in similar situations.

It's not always down to a parents reaction that causes children to be worried or fearful. It could be a reaction by someone else's parent or by a teacher to another child. You can't make assumptions.

Dd is 4 by the way.

If you, as a parent, say oh never mind you broke xyz, be more careful next time. Don't worry I will just buy another one, then you are teaching your children that they can run around and break things without worrying about if. Because dad will just buy another one.

Well what else should be done if something breaks? Discuss it, find out if something can be done better next time, AND buy another one. Right?

Clearly this lesson is not getting through to ricks son.
Clearly he has run around and broken things on a pretty regular basis,

Nope.

given that he is able to repeat word for word what his dad will say about breaking things.

No. Lance and Rick have a good relationship, so Lance learns a lot from Rick.

OP has obviously read a few psychology books...which is why she/he has worded their post like a scenario from a bad self help book. They're only here to advertise their website.