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Kid is scared of breaking stuff in the house.

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rombomb · 30/04/2014 19:52

At Lance’s house in the living room, he and his friend Ben are running and Ben bumps a lamp on accident and it breaks. He freaks out scared.

Ben: oh no! i’m gonna get in trouble.

Lance: it’s ok. it was an accident. and dad can get a new one.

Ben: but he’ll be mad.

Lance: no he won’t. i’ve done it before and he wasn’t mad. he just says ‘it’s ok we’ll get a new one.’ and then he says ‘try not to run in places where you can bump into stuff or places where you can get hurt.'

[ben calms down a little but is still worried. he’s not sure that lance’s claims about his dad are right.]

[rick, Lance’s dad, comes into the living room from his bedroom.]

Rick: hi ben.

Ben: hi.

[rick notices the broken lamp.]

Rick: oh.. what happened?

[ben says nothing]

Lance: we were running and ben knocked over the lamp on accident.

Rick: ok. well, try not to run where you can knock over stuff. how about you guys play outside instead of here?

Ben: ok!

Rick: are you guys hungry?

Lance: no but i think i’ll be hungry after playing outside.

Rick: k, what do you want to eat?

Lance: i want pizza. ben what do you want?

Ben: pizza sounds good. what kind?

Lance: i like plain cheese.

Ben: me too.

Rick: k, i’ll get it reading in the oven and then you can turn the dial to 15 minutes when you’re ready.

Lance: k. [and runs outside]

[rick opens the freezer to get pizza out.]

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Why do you think Ben get's scared that Lance's dad will be mad?

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Rommell · 30/04/2014 20:58

Ooh, AwfulMaureen, what is on the link? Is it something to do with Steiner?

AiryFairyHairyAndScary · 30/04/2014 20:59

I don't understand this thread.

Kid is scared of breaking stuff in the house.
AwfulMaureen · 30/04/2014 20:59

OP...your premise is weak, your arguments odd and nobody gives a shiny shite about your website.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about this subject:

rombomb · 30/04/2014 21:00

My DD, who is exceptionally well behaved will occasionally tell me that something happened at school, like for example she got told off by her teacher for talking and she will say 'you won't tell daddy will you?'. I was really worried that something was going on that I didn't know about, until dh told me that she does the same to him. We have rarely told her off for anything in her life, but somehow she feels that we will be cross with her. But we never have been, so she must be getting this from witnessing other people getting cross in similar situations.

It's not always down to a parents reaction that causes children to be worried or fearful. It could be a reaction by someone else's parent or by a teacher to another child. You can't make assumptions.

You're right that kids can be learned that stuff from school (and other parents) rather than from their own parents. But the point is that it's something bad happening, whoever is doing it to them.

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AwfulMaureen · 30/04/2014 21:00

Rommel Grin no worse! An amateur self-help site.

rombomb · 30/04/2014 21:01

OP has obviously read a few psychology books...which is why she/he has worded their post like a scenario from a bad self help book. They're only here to advertise their website.

Never read any psych book. And it's not my website.

Here's my blog: [LINK REDACTED by MNHQ on grounds that it's probably spamarama]

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TantrumsAndBalloons · 30/04/2014 21:01

Oh dear god almighty.

There is no discussion.

Look let me just be blunt here.

Rick is an ineffective parent, who doesn't want to discipline his child so throws money at the issues instead.

His son is a spoiled brat with no respect for his own home because he knows whatever he does, his dad will buy another one.

AwfulMaureen · 30/04/2014 21:02

Ok OP

Kid is scared of breaking stuff in the house.
Rommell · 30/04/2014 21:03

Thank you for the warning, AwfulMaureen. I bet it has shitty fonts as well.

rombomb · 30/04/2014 21:03

If I told my children not to do something enough times that they could easily parrot my lecture and still run in the house and break shit, I'd change my method of discipline.

Lecturing and discipline isn't how people learn. People (including children) learn by rational discussion.

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sandberry · 30/04/2014 21:03

So if Rick for example breaks Lance's Ipad assuming he would give him one in the first place. Lance should say "Don't worry Dad" even if he wants to burst into tears and if he did express emotion over this loss would Rick teach him how to 'accept' it and 'control' his 'fallible' emotions. Lets assume for arguments sake that there is now way Rick could afford to replace this Ipad.

Rommell · 30/04/2014 21:03

WHAT COLOUR ARE RICK'S CAPRI PANTS THNK-YOU PLS?

JimBobplusasprog · 30/04/2014 21:03

Thank you for your parenting advice. Perhaps you could file it next to Janet in future.

rombomb · 30/04/2014 21:04

OP...your premise is weak, your arguments odd

Because your feelings told you? Or because you have an argument?

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TantrumsAndBalloons · 30/04/2014 21:04

BUT HE HASN'T LEARNED ANYTHING.

APART FROM HE CAN BREAK WHST HE WANTS AND DAD WILL BUY A NEW ONE.

is Rick a single parent, just out of interest?
He sounds like a Disney dad

Tweasels · 30/04/2014 21:05

I bet Rick does buy his clothes from Jacamo. To go with his larger than life personality. I think he might wear a baseball cap...backwards.

I bet his wife is having an affair Sad

TantrumsAndBalloons · 30/04/2014 21:05

Green rommel

Page 213 of the Jacamo catalouge. Grin

rombomb · 30/04/2014 21:06

So if Rick for example breaks Lance's Ipad assuming he would give him one in the first place. Lance should say "Don't worry Dad" even if he wants to burst into tears and if he did express emotion over this loss would Rick teach him how to 'accept' it and 'control' his 'fallible' emotions. Lets assume for arguments sake that there is now way Rick could afford to replace this iPad.

If he can't afford an iPad, he shouldn't have had a kid. Kids are way more expensive than iPads.

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sandberry · 30/04/2014 21:06

Oh you're a TCS'er that makes sense now. Although I think even some of its proponents would disagree with your completely 'rational' approach

sandberry · 30/04/2014 21:07

But he had him anyway, can't send him back, what should he do now?

JimBobplusasprog · 30/04/2014 21:08

Oh this is too much fun now.

treaclesoda · 30/04/2014 21:09

I'm not clicking on that link. Is OP trying to get us all to buy some awful parenting manual?

But I'll still answer the OP's question. No, I do not run in the my house. Adults don't run in the house do they? Confused Well, in this case I suppose I might run to try to catch the lamp that the two inconsiderate children are in the process of breaking because apparently they don't know that knocking over a lamp breaks it

TantrumsAndBalloons · 30/04/2014 21:09

if he can't afford an iPad he shouldn't have a kid

Fuck me, there were times when me and DH were made redundant that we could barely afford food

And iPads didn't exist when dd was born. What criteria should I have applied instead?

TantrumsAndBalloons · 30/04/2014 21:11

You don't run in your house treacle?

Why in earth not? Me and DH run around the house all the time. If we break anything we just go to the money tree in the back garden and replace it Grin

treaclesoda · 30/04/2014 21:11

what's TCS?

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