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3 & half day old won't settle

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Stom91 · 06/01/2014 03:58

I'm a new first time mum. And dd has been brilliant since she was born but tonight she just won't settle. She's fed winded changed. Given hugs. Put her in her Moses basket and she got hiccups so took her out to sit her up
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The she wanted more food so gave her abit more she was then sick so changed her and her nappy. Put her back down and she wouldn't settle started crying.
She's now asleep on my chest every time I try and put her back she cries.
I don't mind I just won't sleep and I'll get dp to wake up early and tAke her.
But I just wondered she's on her tummy on my chest is that ok? Is it dangerous? It's the only way I can seem to settle her

Sorry for long post and sorry if it's in the wrong place.

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Shnickyshnackers · 06/01/2014 04:01

I used to do that a lot with my new born. I think it's ok as long as she doesn't fall off :)

MrsJamin · 06/01/2014 04:02

It's fine as you don't fall asleep really as she could slide off I you are in (argh posted too soon!) a position where she could slip off. Could she sleep next to you in bed?

MrsJamin · 06/01/2014 04:03

Sorry I thought I posted twice but I must have just pressed preview message. Should be asleep but I can't either!

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Stom91 · 06/01/2014 04:06

No she cant fall off I've got my hand on her.
I don't want her next to me as scared dp will roll on her and the other side she could fall out
So right now the safest place is on me or the Moses basket but she's decided she's having none of it tonight lol
She was being such a good baby aswell lol

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Stom91 · 06/01/2014 04:13

Just moved her into her Moses basket slowly....
She's stirring abit but hopefully she'll settle herself.
I need some sleep lol

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Stom91 · 06/01/2014 04:21

Just balled her eyes put so she's back on me lol

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GiraffesAndButterflies · 06/01/2014 04:28

Congratulations on your new baby Flowers

I found with mine, about 20 mins after she dropped off was the best time to put her down- she will be going into a deeper sleep then. Good luck!

PrincessPotsie · 06/01/2014 04:30

Congratulations! Annoyingly it's completely normal for newborns to be like this. She'll hopefully soon get the hang of sleeping in her Moses basket. I used to make a little'nest' I my baby's baskets by rolling blankets and laying them around the edge so they were really snuggly in there.

Have you tried swaddling? I also would keep feeding on demand as much as she wants.

Welcome to the world of sleepless nights!

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Stom91 · 06/01/2014 04:33

Yeah I swaddled her then put her in. She's been on me a total of over 2 hours. She just doesn't want to move.

And thanks xx

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Fantail · 06/01/2014 06:32

Do you have a hot water bottle you can pop into her basket to warm it a little? Take it out before you put her in of course.

This worked for DD.

KatAndKit · 06/01/2014 06:43

Buy a bed rail for your side of the bed so she can't fall out. I didn't want to co sleep all the time but the bed rail was a godsend at times when nothing else worked except cuddling up in bed together.

Only wanting to sleep on a person is irritatingly normal for newborns. If you have a partner at home with you break up the sleeping in shifts.

NickyEds · 06/01/2014 06:46

Ds is now 15 days and has just last night spent time in his moses, Everyone said that he just needed to be "on" us whilst he is tiny and I think that it must be true. After a week or so he would go in his rocker for20 mins but it really was just us holding him for the last 2 weeks!

NickyEds · 06/01/2014 06:50

Oh and these MN chats are saving me as I try not to fall asleep with him on me. No one can believe new parents trying to stay awake but i too am terrifed of falling asleep with him on me-it's really not safe unless properly planned co sleeiping which I don't seem to be able to get my head around

Lj8893 · 06/01/2014 06:54

My dd was exactly the same, although I had some feeding problems which didn't help.

She's now 10 weeks and is the complete opposite, once she's fed and winded she does not want to be held! I don't get cuddles anymore Sad

24me · 06/01/2014 06:55

Try wrapping and placing her on her back. My kids liked the snug feeling.

PrincessPotsie · 06/01/2014 07:24

Did you get any sleep OP??

gamerchick · 06/01/2014 07:29

Well you can't blame her.. she's been through quite an experience. You are the only familiar thing she has at the minute.

I used a cloth bean bag in bed so I could hold them propped up snuggled into it with their own blanket. You get a bit stiff as you don't move but it let you have enough dozes to keep you sane.

TheGreatHunt · 06/01/2014 07:32

This is normal! Absolutely normal! I ended up getting DH to sleep in the spare room and set up dd properly next to me (she was my second). She had almost all naps on me or in the sling until 3/4 months and was the much better self settler/napper by 6 months compared to my eldest. I slept with him on me too but kept fighting it etc and got too stressed.

workingtitle · 06/01/2014 07:49

I slept with DS on my chest on and off for the first ten weeks, it was the only place he'd settle (reflux and colic). I didn't want to but it truly was the only way to get any sleep. I reclined quite a lot and propped each arm up with a pillow so they never slipped and he stayed on me. But far from ideal. Some nights DH slept in the spare room and I just bed shared.
I think at that little many babies really just want to be as close and snuggled up to you as possible. If you can go with it then do. There is a theory called the fourth trimester that suggests an explanation
see here
Hope you all got some kip

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Stom91 · 06/01/2014 10:02

Managed to wake do up and he had her on his chest til she worked out it wasn't me lol then we put a blanket in the Moses basket and then put her on it (must've been cold)
She stayed there for 2 hours then dp got up at 7 and brought her down so I could sleep

I'm bottle feeding and my milk has coming my boobs are so big and sore I can't sleep in any positions does anyone know any tricks to help them abit. Midwife said a warm flannel so in going to try that in a bit.

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whereisthewitch · 06/01/2014 10:06

I second the hot water bottle in the basket and perhaps one of your pj tops that smells of you to lie on...some babies just dont like moses baskets im afraid. ..not firm enough (DD was one).

Congratulations on your new baby. ..just always remember this doesn't last someday she will sleep like a dream and you'll forget all about how tired you are.

BonaDea · 06/01/2014 10:06

Just let her sleep on you. She won't fall off (I used to wrap a stretchy cardi round both of us) and you'll both get some sleep. My DS slept like that until about 6-8 weeks then moved quite happily to his co sleeper cot.

GwenStacy · 06/01/2014 10:07

I've got a 7 week old and she slept on my chest for about the first 6.5 weeks - she would not go down at all. I just propped myself up, made sure I was supported and that worked for both of us. I found it meant we both got more sleep as I would wake a little before she did when she was getting hungry and could get her on the boob before she was screaming for food.

In the last few days she's wriggled herself down to sleep between us, and for the last couple of nights has slept between us fine with minimal contact from either of us, so we feel she just needed to be near us - we're going to try moving her to a basket shortly!

gamerchick · 06/01/2014 10:25

Just make sure she's got her own bank et rather than sharing a duvet with you for safety.

gamerchick · 06/01/2014 10:25

*blanket