3 & half day old won't settle

[Stom91]

I'm a new first time mum. And dd has been brilliant since she was born but tonight she just won't settle. She's fed winded changed. Given hugs. Put her in her Moses basket and she got hiccups so took her out to sit her up
.
The she wanted more food so gave her abit more she was then sick so changed her and her nappy. Put her back down and she wouldn't settle started crying.
She's now asleep on my chest every time I try and put her back she cries.
I don't mind I just won't sleep and I'll get dp to wake up early and tAke her.
But I just wondered she's on her tummy on my chest is that ok? Is it dangerous? It's the only way I can seem to settle her

Sorry for long post and sorry if it's in the wrong place.

[Stom91]

Thanks :).
She sleeps between feeds in the day lol and night but then she is only 5 days old. She just has trouble getting her wind up takes ages.
Dp finds it harder than me. He's still trying to get the hang of it bless him. He's too gentle lol. Xx

[wigglesrock]

Stom91 glad it's a bit more comfortable for you. Again congratulations

[PortofinoRevisited]

Do you have a bouncy chair? Do these things even exist any more? Dd was more than happy sitting in there for a while between feeds and cuddles. I recall dh being on paternity leave, baby in bouncy chair mostly asleep, me on co-codamol, and watching the Wicker Man! I was totally hormonal and remain traumatised - dd is OK though Congratulations on your new baby. You will get there.

[birdbrain21]

Hi I read your labour thread so lovely to see the baby finally made an arrival congratulations!
My dd (now 8.5 months) refused to sleep anywhere but on my chest for the first few weeks I used to sleep in our double bed with her, the bed is against the wall and I wore warm p.js so no danger of pulling the cover over her and DH slept on a mattress so we wouldn't disturb him too much with all the night feeds (he was in the middle of important exams) so I used to go to bed every night with her on me and once she was asleep lie down so I was still holding her but she was next to me not on me.
It wasn't the most comfortable position to sleep in but it was easier to not have to get up every few hours to feed her as she was just next to me and now she sleeps in her cot in her own room and I actually miss sleeping with her!
Massive congratulations again it's an amazing time can't believe how quickly time has gone with my dd

[Stom91]

Had a better night with dd too
She's good as gold. Didn't even flinch when she had her heel prick test x

[Stom91]

Yeah they feel better today I've tried all sorts of bras as they're just so umcomfy so I just don't bother. Feels so muh better lol.
Yeah midwife told me to leave them. They aren't as painful as yesterday so hopefully each day they'll get better

[cupoftchai]

What about a cabbage leaf has anyone recommended that yet? For the sore boobs. It sounds odd I know but there's some chemical it gives off that helps relieve the engorgement a little. Savoy cabbage, in fridge or freezer, wash leaf, tuck into bra. Relief!
On the other hand u r not too late to start bfeeding if u change your mind at this point, but I am sure u have thought about it all quite enough. If u do want any advice or help with bfeeding there is lots of support out there and on here!
Congratulations on your little snugly one!
Dd was just same, needed contact from one of us, we co slept and in v early days dh would take her out for midnight walks in the sling when I just couldn't take any more! Hoping u have a better night tonight.

[wigglesrock]

I ffed mine from birth - I didn't touch my breasts at all. I wore a good support bra, took some cocodamol & within a few days of the milk coming in it was fine, pain & "pressure" had gone.

I'd like to offer advice re the sleeping but my 3 year old still likes to sleep on me

Congratulations, I hope you get some rest & take care of yourself. Try & sleep - mine would sleep much better in the day at that age, usually from 8am!

[Stom91]

Thanks for the asvice. I was told not to express or anything.
There so much different advice.
DD has started being fussy again neither me or do can settle her she's winded changed and fed and having cuddles.

[BotBotticelli]

If your boobs are sore and full, and you are not breast feeding your baby (ie you are only giving her formula), then you will want your milk to dry up as soon as possible. When i was going through this I was advised to express off a little bit of milk 3 times per day to start with (just with your hand, squeeze your boob a bit). Not much, otherwise your body will think it's a baby sucking and will make more milk. Just enough to take the edge off the pressure and pain. You can also take paracetamol and ibuprofen to help with the pain.

Then over the next few days reduce the amount you express off gradually until the swollen feeling goes away. ie go down to doing it just twice a day, then once a day. Eventually the milk will dry up.

If you want, whilst you're doing this bit of hand expressing, you could squeeze the little bit off into a sterile bottle and give it to your LO along with the formula. So then she is getting a little bit of boob milk as well for a few days until it's all gone.

If you start feeling shaky/feverish/ill it might mean that the excess milk has caused mastitis, a kind of infection, in which case go see your GP ASAP for some antiobiotics.

Good luck with it all and congratulations on your new baby :)

[Stom91]

She's fine in we Moses basket all day and for the last 3 days. Good as gold just last night she was like nope not havin it. She's currently Asleep in it now lol

[gamerchick]

*blanket

[gamerchick]

*blanket

[gamerchick]

Just make sure she's got her own bank et rather than sharing a duvet with you for safety.

[GwenStacy]

I've got a 7 week old and she slept on my chest for about the first 6.5 weeks - she would not go down at all. I just propped myself up, made sure I was supported and that worked for both of us. I found it meant we both got more sleep as I would wake a little before she did when she was getting hungry and could get her on the boob before she was screaming for food.

In the last few days she's wriggled herself down to sleep between us, and for the last couple of nights has slept between us fine with minimal contact from either of us, so we feel she just needed to be near us - we're going to try moving her to a basket shortly!

[BonaDea]

Just let her sleep on you. She won't fall off (I used to wrap a stretchy cardi round both of us) and you'll both get some sleep. My DS slept like that until about 6-8 weeks then moved quite happily to his co sleeper cot.

[whereisthewitch]

I second the hot water bottle in the basket and perhaps one of your pj tops that smells of you to lie on...some babies just dont like moses baskets im afraid. ..not firm enough (DD was one).

Congratulations on your new baby. ..just always remember this doesn't last someday she will sleep like a dream and you'll forget all about how tired you are.

[Stom91]

Managed to wake do up and he had her on his chest til she worked out it wasn't me lol then we put a blanket in the Moses basket and then put her on it (must've been cold)
She stayed there for 2 hours then dp got up at 7 and brought her down so I could sleep

I'm bottle feeding and my milk has coming my boobs are so big and sore I can't sleep in any positions does anyone know any tricks to help them abit. Midwife said a warm flannel so in going to try that in a bit.

[workingtitle]

I slept with DS on my chest on and off for the first ten weeks, it was the only place he'd settle (reflux and colic). I didn't want to but it truly was the only way to get any sleep. I reclined quite a lot and propped each arm up with a pillow so they never slipped and he stayed on me. But far from ideal. Some nights DH slept in the spare room and I just bed shared.
I think at that little many babies really just want to be as close and snuggled up to you as possible. If you can go with it then do. There is a theory called the fourth trimester that suggests an explanation
see here
Hope you all got some kip

[TheGreatHunt]

This is normal! Absolutely normal! I ended up getting DH to sleep in the spare room and set up dd properly next to me (she was my second). She had almost all naps on me or in the sling until 3/4 months and was the much better self settler/napper by 6 months compared to my eldest. I slept with him on me too but kept fighting it etc and got too stressed.

[gamerchick]

Well you can't blame her.. she's been through quite an experience. You are the only familiar thing she has at the minute.

I used a cloth bean bag in bed so I could hold them propped up snuggled into it with their own blanket. You get a bit stiff as you don't move but it let you have enough dozes to keep you sane.

[PrincessPotsie]

Did you get any sleep OP??

[24me]

Try wrapping and placing her on her back. My kids liked the snug feeling.

[Lj8893]

My dd was exactly the same, although I had some feeding problems which didn't help.

She's now 10 weeks and is the complete opposite, once she's fed and winded she does not want to be held! I don't get cuddles anymore

[NickyEds]

Oh and these MN chats are saving me as I try not to fall asleep with him on me. No one can believe new parents trying to stay awake but i too am terrifed of falling asleep with him on me-it's really not safe unless properly planned co sleeiping which I don't seem to be able to get my head around