Avalon, I had 2 very different pgs. 37 yo and First pg after 2 mc, I did not relax until I had the 1st scan, quite late at 16weeks. 2nd one, I was relaxed until 2nd scan at 22weeks when they found that baby had short long bones and referred me to other scans, at that point I went for Amniocentesis with knots in my stomach, fear of mc of a healthy baby and fear of having to make decision if baby was diagnosed... But apart from these worries that existed in my head only, pgs were straight forward, a bit of morning sickness, metallic taste in the mouth throughout the 9months but it didn't forbid me from eating and putting on approx. 16kgs at each pg ! Tried to remain serene and optimistic as much as possible, had great support on this thread, cried about everything. Loved the feeling of carrying life, scared, no, terrified about lifelong responsibility of another human being, loved feeling baby move inside, hated the birth itself... Eventually, both kids arrived at 39wk+3, healthy, beautiful. And now very happy with a 5yo and a 16mo, although some days, would like to have old life back for 30 min.
Have also discovered how much love I am capable of. Never thought this level of love existed. And it is growing by the day. I might end up giving too much, if that is possible !
Re viability, I guess it really depends on the hospital, I was better looked after with my 2nd pg at 41 than the 1st one, due to my age. I had a scan at 8 weeks but tbh, it is disappointing to have it too early, you can see heartbeat, nothing more than that. More frequent MW appointments after 12wk scan so even if I could not see baby everytime, I could hear heart beat and that was reassuring enough.
Someone told me on this thread to enjoy each day, today you are pg and that is the most important. Don't let the future and the worrying thoughts take away this moment. Pg won't last forever.