Grow old with me! The best is yet to be. Come and join the 40+ mums plus babies, toddlers etc in the snug where tea, cake and sympathy are being served.

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We are 40+ mummies sharing all the highs and lows of our autumn crocus babies. Also sharing tips and information (most crying is tiredness!) and jokes. Please join us!

None are so old as those who have outlived enthusiasm
You are only young once, but you can stay immature indefinitely
It's sad to grow old, but nice to ripen.

PS this thread title was created by eagleray, and she also found the quotes.

Will try to catch up when home
(Are my parents the only people who turn off their broadband at night? ??)
Hugs to all

Great job Rosie ! Hope it will sell quickly at the asking price. Fx.
After a Sat of singlemortherhood, well I actually saw more friends than when DH is around, a Mum came on her own to take DS out in the morning fr an hour while I was selling clothes and kids furniture to a Gumtree Mum, then an excolleague came with his wife in the afternoon for 2 hours and played with both kids to allow me to cook ! His wife is expecting a baby girl for March after 3 mc and ivf to eventually conceive naturally at 39. Yeah, a new baby soon ! She is incredible and although A saw her only once when she was 6mo, she lifted her arms to be picked up by her after 5 min and played on her own with her while I was in the kitchen busy cooking fish pie and ratatouille and beef balls. I am very happy A feels so much confidence.
Today, went with DS to his classmate birthday party, 10.15 to 12.30, it was nice for once to be able to talk without haste to other parents. A fell asleep on the way to the venue so DH went back home with her. This afternoon DH looked after the kids trying to watch tennis at the same time, I went for a 30 min nap and more kids clothes sorting, I have moved on shoes now. The study room is filled with piles and piles of clothes.... I should maybe advertise a nearly new sales !
Anyway, time to go to bed.
Good night everyone

Wow what a busy weekend BBD! And how lovely that A was comfortable with your friend. Re the baby stuff you're selling, in our area there's a company that organises markets for used baby stuff in different towns each week. You book in advance and pay for a stall and then turn up on the day and sell, sell, sell for two hours! I haven't done one yet but went to one recently and picked up a few bits and bobs for DD. Not sure if there's anything similar in London?

Rosie bloody well done on getting that house turned around for selling! Sounds like your family have really pulled together, although your DM sounds like the exception. I really hope your teeth are better soon - it sounds absolutely horrendous

KK so glad you had a nice eve out on Friday. We really should get around to do doing something, even if it means having to pay for a babysitter. I'm with you on the lottery win - for the most part I'm quite happy at home, although have been lucky to not find work that awful in recent years. Hope you manage to find something better soon.

Cyclecamper fab news re the interview! How long til you find out if you got the job? Hopefully, it will lead to other things and a bit more money eventually, if you get it (which I'm sure you will). Your washing machine strike sounds like hell - hopefully it'll be working again in a couple of days.

I've been feeling a lot better since Friday but still very tired. Huge rows with DP today over his sodding bicycle obsession. Said he would go out for a ride first thing , then we could do stuff together afterwards, but as per usual he didn't get out of bed (he refuses to set an alarm so not surprising really) and only at 11am does he start talking about finally getting out, and given that he likes to do 50km plus, it means that the rest of the day would be taken with his cycling. I got really cross and told him the weekend can't revolve around his stupid bike (he gets tons of opportunities to cycle during the week when he's working away). All calm now, but he's admitted his cycling hobby is linked to his ego and is one area of his life he feels he can maintain some control so think we may have some work to do there!

We went to the zoo this afternoon in the end, and DD half froze thanks to her desire to keep as much skin exposed as possible - she cries whenever I put her hat on (it's an age 2 one, so can't be too small) and kicks her socks off then sticks her legs in the air once she's wrestled them out of the cosytoes thingy. I think the winter proper is going to be a bit of a challenge...

Sleep well everyone!

eagle somehow blokes just don't have a sense of urgency. You're right he should definitely have set his alarm. I just don't think they,think about things sometimes. Glad you had words and hope it makes the difference Aaah, the undressing in cold weather - yes what is that about? Took both my kids to Wisley yesterday. It was blue sky but freezing cold, and I came back with hats, gloves and socks all stuffed into my,pockets after being discarded by my DC....
bbd yes, a bbusy weekend indeed. Sounds like a good,one though especially the lone parenting day!
Rosie lovely to hear how you're getting on. Amazing work with the house. Such hard work. Will keep my fingers crossed for a quick sale.

Following a fantastic night sleep 2 nights ago, had a dreadful one,last night. Up at 12, 2, 4 and then 5.30. Second cup of coffee is helping. On a completely different note loving BLW. Made a roast for me and DD yesterday and gave DS a bit of everything to try with a small splash of gravy. He wolfed it down. Have given up with pouches of puree, he doesn't like them at all which makes things interesting when we go out. Just ending up giving,him a,little of whatever I'm eating. This is all so different to DD who wouldn't,eat anything but pureed and pouches of food, so very excited this time round.

Right time for coffee number 3

As for lack of urgency, DP is off on a work trip abroad all week (leaving this morning) and doesn't know where his passport is. Guess how much time over the weekend he devoted to this?

And, guess who is fast asleep right now and we are supposed to be leaving for nursery? Wonder where she gets her lack of urgency from...

Good to see you back Rosie, and hope you get some recuperation after your marath

Sorry, I am completely hopeless on a phone!
...marathon efforts. Fingers crosse here too for a quick sale.

KK sorry to hear you are still having bad nights. Do you get a break? We had three fab ones and I thought we night have turned a corner. Well, it is better, but not great. Still not much sleep after about 3 in the morning. DH was away all weekend so I did the nights, he kindly did last night though, despite the day from hell looming for him at work, as I was so knackered I couldn't even nice once I lay down!

Yy to differing sense if urgency. Especially around getting up in the mornings!

BG has a new skill. He can now remove his nappy. fortunately he can't yet do the poppers on his vest, so we have a little time before his inner naturist really gets and outing!

Thanks for asking goat. DH has offered to take the kids off my hands this afternoon so I can get some rest in - that said he has just told me he assumed I'd be taking baby with me to DD's gym class - I thought he'd offer to keep DS at home whilst we went to her class to give me a,bit of a break......or take both kids himself,there. Oh dear, I'm not being very gracious am I?!

And 're BGs New skill.....! You're lucky it's still Autumn time as I think you're going to have a,streaker on your hands!

scarecrow how are you doing today?

Knicky, don't overthink it ! Just leave both and thank him for giving you a break. I did that yesterday and I could tell by the sparkle in his eyes he was less annoyed. Although I m not the one who should give advice :)
Stupid Amazon delivery people rang 3 times on my bell and woke A up, the deliveries were not even for me, arrrrgh
Goat, baby G is a funny character !

Morning all,

Rosie'welcome back. Hugely impressed by the DIY etc with a small baby. I take weeks to sort out a drawer! Was DH able to come and help, or did he have to stay behind? Did he miss dd terribly? Dd2 and friends sound fab. Hope too dd1 is getting on well with dggs.

cycle more fingers crossed here that you get the job if you want it. Hours sound excellent, though almost a shame not the other way around as I find mornings and later afternoon the hardest bit, especially evenings when best to have DC at home. Guess it will be a home from home. BabyCycle might love the company too.

Flip goat BG is an early developer in every sense! Dd didn't take her own nappy off til she was 2 ( thank goodness). Giggling at skinny white boy bottom streaking away.... Was giggling les (though was amusing) when DD came into my room this morning at 5.40 asking to see "little baby that is so sweet" - which is vid on FB of babySomewhere monster ing her cucumber. Hmmmm less FB for the pre-schooler. Serves me right for using it to distract her from some vociferous objecting at the weekend!

knicky so hope you do get that break this afternoon. I find dh often needs me to be clear about what time off or me time or rest constitutes. Then he will do it (sometimes). Am about to brew myself coffee no2 and will be thinking of you... All I need is a cherry scone ;)

Took T to the docs this morning as was so sick with worry on and off at the weekend, especially as he ends some coughing fits barking and is shallow breathing.... Of course he woke from his morning nap full of beans with hardly a cough and smiled and cooed at the doctor... But doctor was v understanding and said he could hear how breathing working...but fortunately thinks T will fight it off himself. Honestly I took dd to doctor once or twice in her first year or two but T seems to go most months.

Yesterday a bit better, especially after a v muddy run (semi fast wobble!) along the river. I eventually found the energy to talk to DH about his (lack of) discipline of dd, especially when she was being insolent with me. I was greatly cheered that she let me put her to bed for the first time in ages when DH was around and she has been a complete star today as had to cancel swimming to take T to doctor and she was a trooper when we had to wait 45 mins to be seen too.

Right must use rest of nap time more constructively.

Waves xx

scarecrow typical baby to be worryingly poorly at the weekend and smile and coo at the dr on Monday!

Rosie the decorating sounds exhausting!

We spent a lot of Saturday at the laundrette, so didn't get any cleaning up done for my parents-in-law visiting yesterday. Hey-ho! My husband decided that we are going to get lost under nappies before the machine is fixed so put baby c in a disposable- cue baby c doing his biggest ever poo, straight out of the side, over every item of clothing he was wearing . He let me put a washable one on after that!

I'm going to meet the children from the job on Thursday so I should know then if I've got it.

hello all, no chance to write much but am reading your news in night feeds. just had Disastrous, horrible weekend with visiting rels, i am a red-eyed wreck,.but baby seaside has been especially amazing and kept us going. And im also consoling myself by buying lovely books and toys for her (which i can't really afford)
Eagle are you ok now?

Hello Seaside! Your weekend sounds awful - I imagine that having any relatives to visit (regardless of their behaviour) must be utterly exhausting at the moment. Hope you are all recovering now. I'm a lot better now thanks, although took a while to get my energy back. Managed to walk 5 miles today with DD in a sling plus 2 bags so must be getting better!

I texted DM today to find out when would be a good time to visit as she's been saying for a while how much she misses DD (she lives about 1.5 hours away). She's replied with the option of two dates this month - seriously, how busy can a 72yo be?

Cycle sounds like the disposable nappy was about as useful as a chocolate teapot. Funnily enough, we've done the reverse here as have started using disposables again after a few leaks with the cloth nappies. Need to try to get to the, er, bottom, of it all before I trust them again as am getting really fed up with random piss appearing on her clothes! Went to the zoo yesterday and just as we arrived, we realised her trousers were soaked. Of course we had no spare clothes (silly me) and so I ended up drying them under the hand dryer and putting them back on DD has also been getting horrific marks on her legs from the elastic and so I'm going to let them settle down a bit as am sure the nursery must think we're torturing her or something.

Oh, and I will keep my fingers crossed for you for Thurs

Scarecrow glad you got some reassurance from the docs today re poor baby T. Hope he's a lot better soon

Bed now, with only half my chores done, thanks to spending too much time doing virtual socialising. Must try harder tomorrow! Night night

The flat smells cake, just finished 3rd batch of madeleines, DS made me promise NOT to share "his" batch with sister and daddy.... So far away from the sibling love of your pic Scarecrow. We will have to sit down and understand what is behind, if anything.
I can't believe I have become the typical SAHM !
Good night everyone

hmmm madeleines... reminds me (haha) of midgetm who was i seem to remember always baking

glad you are better Eagle

nappy woes here too. have been using naty since almost the start, disposable as i knew i didn't have the stomach and grit for buckets of steeping nappies but turns out i don't have the stomach and grit for frequent poo escaped down trouser leg either.

dp and me could do with a bit of relate too. its tough, this having a baby business, then everything else piles on top of that. i think being a mother has made me feel even more different from.him. luckily we don't row about who's pulling their weight,.he's ill so can't do much but we often have such different perspectives on things and misunderstand eachother all the time.

playmobil noahs ark arrives in post tomorrow, now can i wait till xmas?

Hello all, here I am on my morning commute thread catchup.

Seaside, that sounds horrible over the weekend. Relatives... Sometimes I get a bit that we have inflicted parents etc on BG! Must have been extra tough on top of DP being ill.

Ah, the disposable/washable dilemma... We had to stop using washables quite early as they assume a certain leg diameter, which BG never had! Cue leakage galore. Though I hate how much we are contributing to landfill.

How is T, scarecrow?

I talked to BG on the phone for the first time yesterday, as I was late home from work. He got so excited and really chatted to me. Unfortunately it all went horribly wrong after that as he couldn't understand that I was not there. still, at least I managed to get home before he went to bed so I got my cuddle fix!

KK, how was the night? compares notes Ours was as usual, fine till 2, all over the place until 4:57 (yes, I know obsessively accurate, but I really object to starting the day when the first number is a 4) then AWAKE - as in mumumumumumum awake. Humph. He's lucky it wasn't rubbish collection this morning.
Still. Nappies vastly improved as is the sleep really, so holding fire on private paediatrician for a bit to see hat happens. Though would help if someone could track down the results of the intolerance tests!

I see shitloada has happened. On bus without dcs! On way to have tooth out ! - short window to post. Just to let u know I'm still here and I still care. Hugs to all xx

Yay sbr is here!
Boo to the tooth though... Hope it goes ok.

You sound cheerful goat. Sleep must be doing you good.

Am in some pain. Tooth extraction is a bit like having a baby - raw, not sanitisable. It felt like they were pulling a tree out of my mouth. Wrenching and groaning and tearing.

Eagle well done on your walk.

Scare hope t is ok. My ds went a lot more to doc than baby some.

Seaside great to see you. Lols re your Madeleine inspired trip down memory lane to ... Midgetm.

Ooh lost a post but it was nonly one sentence.

Rosie - hope your tooth ok. Giving you a virtual hand squeeze from one tooth sufferer to another x

Hope all the tooth sufferers feel better soon.

goat baby c definitely suffers from lack of leg diameter, but fortunately various people have given us nappies (including freecycle) so we have various different ones to try and some are better than others. I don't change him in the night so one (tots bots) goes from bath to breakfast, usually without too much leakage. He never needs cream and rarely leaks unless I know I've left him too long because we were out or something.

Goat. Last night wasn't too bad up at 1 and 4.30. He then snoozed in my arms till 6.15 - of course this.means I don't sleep, but it's better than the night before. I do feel weary though. thankfully DD was at preschool today so things were easier than it could have been.

Somewhere ouch! Sounds painful! You poor thing. How's it all feeling today?

Somewhere, Rosie, hope your tooth will give you a break for a good night sleep.
Seaside, yes you are right, Midget was baking all the time, macaroons, chocolate tart....
Nthing special to report on my side.
Still reading parenting books and trying to stick to some advices, DS is a bit challenging atm but I m sure we are making progress, slowly with lots of repetition.
A is a funny character, she seems to hold all her intestine content until she goes to nursery ! We play peek a boo a lot and she laughes outloud. She shakes her head to say no, calls her brother "la" "la".
Had a great morning with Scarecrow and T, I was privileged enough to hold him for a good 10 minutes and Kew was so peaceful.
Visiting a school tomorrow for A.
Good night, Ladies