Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies Part 2

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Our 2nd thread is full but it won't prevent us from laughing, moaning, keeping on supporting each other, sharing and chatting over our new life with 1 or 2, even 5 children !
Here you go, fantastic 40+ Mums, a brand new thread for all of us, old friends from the pregnancy thread or new joiners

Morning lovely ladies
Big big hugs for those with 'd'h issues. ( full moon again this week! !!) scarecrow we haven't met. You can pm me if you just need to get it out. Relationships are so tough and tiredness and feeling your doing everything unsupported sucks. the difference for me is i KNEW from pfp dh would do little QWith baby (why would he
Babies are woman's work! !!) don't expect it so don't get upset when it doesn't happen. He does however do other stuff ( it's very pink jobs blue jobs in our house) dh has changed 2 nappies never put dd to bed or got up in night with her. If she's crying she's mine.

He did do the weekly shop yesterday alone! I have 6 items to return. ... including girls tights age 3 years . A £6 bottle of mum to be bubble bath ( should have been baby wash) nasty blue toilet paper ( I only ever have nice white loo roll) lol.

Eagle hope nursery today is fun. Dgd had a lovely time on Thursday.
Bbd hope the closer nursery is what you want and has space.
On phone and can't back page with out loosing post will check back later. Rosebud looking for second breakfast

Still have a 3 legged sofa. Dh didn't think it's a problem qant to remove other 3 legs and go bedouin ( sit on floor)
We had a long talk about ' what next' over the weekend. Dh can apply for UK passport next may which opens the world up to him. We had always planned to go back to the beach. It's a lifestyle i love and feel so comfortable with. UK City life just doesn't work for me. Pregnancy and having baby has been a very lonely time. Selling my house will also mean one less tie ( I've had to come home so many times just to sort it out I'm sure it's cost more than I've made over the last 10 years) we can live and work in some of the most beautiful places in the world. .. why not. I'm very minimalist and can be very happy with a basic lifestyle as long as i have sea and sun.

Oh wow rosie Lols re Bedouin solution. And re getting away from uk. Hope U keep posting on here.

Re dp's enormous sympathy. Me and do share a lotta love but he just can't settle. We've moved house four times in our seven years all instigated by him, soon to be five as we cant affird our rent. He now wants to do property development and so do I but there is a mad look in his eye - do I really want us to put our equity into his hands? Cue major row about trust in which this ostensibly sensitive charming caring guy browbeats me into submission.

Hugs scarecrow

Fantastic rant. :)

sorry all. Can ask mnhq to delete if spoils thread karma.

No need imo scarecrow. If you can't say it here then where??
It ican be monotonous ground hog and stressful. Hang on in there.

Well I'm doing a first. . In the trendy nct/ breastfeeding friendly coffee shop feeding rosebud and having a coffee (and mn of course) glad it's loud in here so no one can hear her nyom nyom click click mmmmmm!!!

Hugs scarecrow - you're not alone. It is bloody hard sometimes, and the age gap between my 2 is much bigger. It can be wonderful and full of lovely unforgettable moments but also boring, monotonous & stressful.

You poor thing Scarecrow quick here have some more And stupid bloody patronising autocorrect trying to sanitise your profanities If I lived nearby I would come and collect the little darlings and wheel them around the park for an hour for you.

Are you enjoying your social outing Rosie - hope you are having some nice chats with fellow cafe goers, although we're always here to chat to you on your phone I don't blame you one little bit for longing for the beach life, and as you are set up for working in the most lovely spots around the world, it is certainly more than a pipe dream! I dream of taking Baby Eagleray back to where we had our lovely holiday last year on a tiny little island and teaching her to snorkel and look for Eaglerays!

Well done on the knitting projects BBD - lovely to be able to make the stuff you really want for your kids, although it's v frustrating when the raw materials are so expensive. I try to buy clothes in the best fabrics for DD, and got her a merino swaddle when she was born, although she acted very ungratefully and fought her way out of it in seconds!

DD had her visit to nursery today - spent an hour doing paperwork and meeting her keyworker. They do seem v flexible regarding meeting all of her needs, and if a session is missed we can probably reschedule it for another day, which is good to know. While we were there, she mostly sat on the floor and bashed a few toys together, then at the end she had a go on a rocking snail, which looked a bit forlorn as his horns were half torn off. Reminded me of that bit in Toy Story 3 where the toys were scared of ending up in daycare due to the harsh treatment by toddlers.

Am speaking to DP again - he still maintains he had no idea that inviting his vast extended family would be an issue, although concedes that he has paid little attention to arrangements I've made so far, and also agrees that it would also make it harder for our immediate families to get to know each other (one of the reasons I wanted to have the naming day was so that our families could meet for the first time) if every single aunt/uncle/cousin came along too. I suggested I remove a few friends from the list to make space for a few extra family members and he said it probably wouldn't work as the ones who weren't invited would find out and be resentful. FFS!!!

Somewhere I dream of property development too as a means to make money, although I should really know better as my own house projects have rarely been entirely successful... Does he have enough in the way of practical skills to make a success of it?

Scarecrow, go ahead, don't worry, moan, yell, scream, get it out, yes somedays, with 2 kids, we are lucky if we can sit down just for a sec. Don't be ashame, this is true life and we do not pretend all is easy, rosy and straightforward. We have no control ! Once I understood that, it was easier, less frustrating with DS, A is still too young to play up, or isn't she doing it already ?
Rosie, Somewhere, Eagle, knotty, goat, LRM, Midget, BadMiss, FF and the rest of the gang, I hope you enjoy this evening, I m off to bed, was soaked with the afternoon gail and feel like something nasty is trying to take over my body, I can't let it win so I m fighting back with lots of sleep (lets hope A hear me)

I'm feeling v but re reading my post now also a bit in a sort of way. Thank you all for letting me vent. I was scared I'd shout at children (more than I did ) In the end I tested a neighbour who I've helped out a bit and invited myself around for a sanity check and tea and thwbhad a really happy few hours with DD and T. DD as usual rallied to my cause and was as good as gold. The icing on the cake was T and I were pushing DD on the swing and they were both laughing and I thought how could I be so grumpy, I am blessed.

(note to self that I can't afford to take meds late at the moment -

bbd so hope you get a good night's sleep.and ward off the lurgy. Have you got Echinacea?? Take it. And the vit C with zinc. x

Morning :)
So how was everyone's night hope you all got the 8hours unbroken that i ordered :)
Me I dreamt i waa still pg with rosebud
Woke up looking for my bump wedge and needing the loo. Very strange
Oh couple of questions oh wise baby gurus. I know i said no more stressing over feeding and it's been going really well) but. .. she has started being a lazy feeder, not latching on properly ( if i move or let go od breast ahe comes off) and she's taking a couple of glugs then loosing interest. . She feeds wonderfully during night feeds ( can really feel the difference) any ideas?

She will only settle in her basket or cot :( no more feeding to sleep or sleeping on my chest :( when she's tired she will fret till i put her in bed, Put thumb in mouth gurgle a bit then sleep. Wonderful i know but i miss her sleeping on me. Please tell me this is a phase and she will love her cuddles again soon :(

Somewhere. It must be very hard having a nomadic partner if you want to settle. I had a huge urge to settle when i got bfp ( I can't count the number of times I've moved in last 10 years)
If you do go into property development. .. sell don't rent !! LOL.

Yeah scarecrow well done for turning the day round. See ranting does help. [ grin]

eagle nursery sounds positive. I love your discretions of baby eagle I have a little picture of her in my head :) social outing was ok but felt like hard work! Didn't talk to anyone other than rosebud ( was not busy) coffee was didn't feel comfortable feeding and don't think I'll bother again for a while. Might go to singing group later ( if i can be bothered getting in shower)

Eagle. . Discriptions not what auto correct put :)

Grr posted early.
One of my favourite dives ever was with eagle rays 3 of them. I was private guiding a lovely English lady, we had been diving all week, seen loads and had really good dives. She was lovely and a good diver. We were chatting about where to do the last dive off her holiday and she said seeing a big ray would be her dream dive
There was a dive site where we offer saw eagle's but it was a pro's only ( to good for customers [ blush] ) very difficult entry and exit and often rough! I explained this to her and we decided to give it a go. Long story short. . Out in the blue I caught site of something at the same moment as she did and we swam into the Blue spent 10 wonderful minutes playing with 3 beautiful eagle's before they swam off. Magic.
You name always makes me think of that dive.

scarecrow sorry to reply late to your rant. What rosie said - amazing rant fuckety fuckety fuck fuck fuck! - and how great it all turned round.

I have some of those mood issues. You dealt with it brilliantly.

Xx

And this is a good place to unload.

Your eagleray dive trip sounds amazing Rosie - they are such stunning fish (and fish actually doesn't seem like the right description for them). I've done a few dives over the years (including some at some amazing sites around the world) but have to admit to struggling a bit with the whole fear/panic thing. Last dive I did was at Coiba in the Pacifica a couple of years ago with DP. It was his first post-PADI dive and so I really wanted to do it with him but at the same time I had to steel myself. Just before we entered the water, I saw a ray in the distance (not sure if manta or eagle) and it was leaping out of the water as it if was dancing. That was it - fears forgotten and I was straight in the water! Annoyingly, there were whale sharks in the area and they were seen the day before and the day after our dive - how rude of them!

Do you plan to go back to diving job-wise? It sounds like somewhere you're really happy and comfortable I totally understand the struggle with the social outing thing - it took me a long time to feel completely happy taking DD to places. Strangely though, I've been most comfortable in the less baby-friendly places. One place is a tiny cafe located above a shop - not easy to get into with a baby but they've always made an enormous fuss of DD and even held her while I ate my lunch! I also love the nearby museum cafe - opens onto lovely gardens and is frequented by lots of posh elderly people who live in the nearby apartments - DD always gets lots of attention in there. When I haven't felt comfortable BF in there (in the early days I found it hard) I would just scoot outside after coffee and sit on a quiet park bench and do it.

Baby Rosebud sounds like an independent little soul - I miss DD at night (a little bit) now that she's in her own room, but am finding I'm using the sling more during the day (DP bought me a v posh one for my birthday - a late present!!) It's nice having that time with her - we go out and about and I chat to her as we walk along and point out things of interest. It was raining this morning when we were out so she helped me hold the brolly and when she gets tired I put the attached hood up and she falls asleep very happily. So I definitely think the sling has been a good way for us to reconnect now that we're apart for most of the night.

By the way ladies, if you do anything tonight then watch this

One of the ladies on the programme lives locally and I was very surprised it took this long for her to become a tv star!

Hi! Rememberingmypfes here - I've NC'ed

I feel sheepish creeping back in after neglecting you and the thread - I've had a tough few weeks teetering on the brink of PND but am emerging into brighter days now. I will try to catch up on all of your news... Waves to Eagle, Rosie and the rest of the gang. Missed you all

on a more practical note, what size bottle teat would a 5mo baby have? And approx how much do you think he could drink at a sitting? After a lazy summer of no pumping T rejected bottle of formula at weekend so need to do express bottles and then will retry with formula, iyswim. Know it varies, but a rough guide would help! Thanks

Yey remembering / pudding. Was thinking about you when i wrote last post. When is your trip? :)
Also cycle if you're lurking. X

eagle i think I'd rather stay dry these days. Just dive for fun. I love teaching but have done a lot and had my share of idiots. Couple of close calls due to other people stupidity. . Ideal would be dive centre with very nice guests accommodation and own boat. I only want to dive with nice people. Lol.

Dh can the wet stuff
Sorry no idea scarecrow. Surly fresh new bm is better than old frozen stuff. Happy pumping! I've only tried it once when very engorged. Filled bottle in minutes. Don't think I could do that now. .. it's