Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies Part 2

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Our 2nd thread is full but it won't prevent us from laughing, moaning, keeping on supporting each other, sharing and chatting over our new life with 1 or 2, even 5 children !
Here you go, fantastic 40+ Mums, a brand new thread for all of us, old friends from the pregnancy thread or new joiners

Sloping in again
Hi to all. Been reading but had baby monkey with a cold so lack of sleep. I then got it more lack of sleep. He then was vomiting now I have it. I will be speaking to a local farmer who I will ask to shot me. Feel like dog dirt will attempt to post soon. To those not well also hugs

Oh dear, sounds like we all had one of these weeks.

Scrarecrow, please post a pic of DD or email me one.
Goat, A screams as well sometimes in the middle of the night, a cuddle and she settles again, seems that she does not even wake up if I m quick enough, with DH, he goes shshsh and she stops. I m going to sleep in another room I think for a while...
BTW she did not sleep at all again today at nursery. And she woke up at 5.45am fell asleep in pushchair at 4.30pm when I picked her up for a good hour. I don't know how she does it as she is happy at nursery, taking part in activities, exploring her new environment... Wonder if/how this kind of sleep deprivation is harmful in the long run. We agreed with the carer team that next week she will do 3 full days again instead of 5 mornings and see if we can get her to nap.

Hugs to baby eagle and mum. I second lots of vit c. Hot honey and lemon a favourite here. I used to put a bit of obus ooil ona teddy in the cot too if i remember. ( dd is still addicted to smell) is dh home yet?
Scarecrow I would also love to see pic. Isn't it fun to dress our kids up:)

Bbd I'm sure she will be fine. Maybe she will do a sleep-a-thon over the weekend to catch up.
Hi littleredmonkey

Could I ask for an updated stats list if someone has a few spare moments. Who has what and how old? I tried to work it out a few times but forget! ! ( mine dd1 25. Dd2 23 dd3 8 weeks)

Eagle takeful is I can imagine it was a nightmare! !! Lol

The bloody leg has broken on our safa, not sure if i can get it fixed ( it was a cheap cheap sofa). So will HAVE togo sofa shopping this weekend. Another expense we could do without but a nice new sofa will be great as current one was not bought with breastfeeding in mind.

Have a lovely weekend everyone. X

Thanks for the advice everyone - managed to get her off to sleep at normal time this eve, although she was pretty miserable. I've got a snot sucker thing which I've used to clear her nose a bit (it's clear and watery snot at the mo, and constantly dripping) and then gave her some Calpol (first dose she's had for absolutely ages), then fed her to sleep. Let's see how long that lasts...

She was ever so funny earlier on - sat in her highchair going 'wah, sniff, cough, wah etc' then I got out the apple biscotti things I'd just bought from the supermarket and handed her one, which was duly snatched from me, inspected on both sides then stuffed in her mouth and all you could hear was 'mmm nom nom nom mmmm hmmm nom nom'

DP heading home from overseas trip this eve, and not expected til the early hours. Hope he's ok as still very fatigued from illness and today will have been at conference, then flown back to UK, then taxi from airport to his weekday digs, then unpack/pack again, into car and 2 hr drive to reach us.

I've finally, finally managed to finish the nursery registration, and (as long as she's feeling better) we're going in on Monday morning to set everything up and she'll start the following week (just a half day session to start with). Feel absolutely fine about it inasmuch as I'm glad I've found somewhere I like, they have spaces and can take her on initially for a short period each week. Puts me in a much better position to think about starting work again.

Goat sorry you're having to contend with sleepless nights - sounds horrid. How on earth do you manage to function at work? This aspect really scares me as DD usually doesn't sleep beyond 5am - I guess I would have to start going to bed very, very early if I was working too...

LRM you have all my sympathies too - it's absolutely rotten looking after a baby when you're ill. Hope you're feeling stronger soon.

BBD I'm sure the lack of nap won't harm her in the long run, and would be very surprised if she didn't start sleeping better when she's more settled in at nursery. DD is napping far less since she's been sleeping through the night - morning naps are nearly impossible!

Hurrah for expensive baby outfits Scarecrow! I will be doing the same soon for the naming celebration unless my car boot sales come up trumps (unlikely). I also want to see the dressing up pic!

Eagle you might already have but another excellent alternative to Olbas Oil is Boots own version. Do as Rosie suggests, or drops on a towel etc on the radiator (damp cloth), or in a dish of hot water. Lovely for you too if you are sleeping in the same room.

Fab to " see " you BadMiss Want update on how DD enjoying little bro and how he's getting on.

due to popular demand will try and post urchin pics soon

Morning everyone! What a chatty thread! I do try to read it every day but not much time to post.

Eagle, Rosa is the similar with separation anxiety, just wants me at the moment, although she will play on her own for a bit if it's just me & her, but if DP is with her and I'm also there, she cries and holds her arms out when she sees me . DP trying not to take it personally! Hope Baby Eagle's cold gets better and your DP is OK. Love your description of Baby Eagle eating!
Scarecrow, hope baby Scarecrow's cold gets better too.
Rosie, glad you had a better day. Your DD sounds lovely.
BBD, sounds like A is enjoying nursery, hope the napping improves.
Goat, hope your nights improve soon.
LRM, sounds rotten, hope you feel better soon.
Rosa has learned to clap and does so at every opportunity, including when I'm trying to feed her and the spoon often goes flying! Bless her, she's so pleased with herself! She really likes to stand up and can do it on her own for a couple of seconds. She's covering a fair bit of ground bum shuffling backwards, but no signs of crawling. Maybe she won't bother... Had a bit of a moment the other day when I went with my friend to drop her DD off in her Year 1 class, and all the other mums looked about 30, and I thought god, how will I feel when I'm the only 50 year old here! Stupid really, I know of at least 2 other women who've had babies at the end of last year and are over 40. Just had a wobble!

Thanks for all the lovely comments about DS, he is such a lovely boy. I've attempted to post a photo of my 2 gorgeous DCs, and one of Rosa with her favourite cupboard! Hope everyone has a good weekend, and all the colds improve xx

Oh god cannot keep up with you ladies! Hugs to all xxx

Dd hair looks like Mr fuasy's from the Mr Men! !! Bad hair day at 2 months. Bless her.

Ok have read through. So sorry to eagle and lrm dealing with sick babies. Sorry to goat eaglr and rosie dealing with screamy babies.

Lols at baby eagle eating the apple biscotti. Baby somewhere has been exploring food and there is a look of astonishment, nay revelation, when she tastes something she likes. Her eyes open so wide. It's an edenic moment, so pure - the First Taste.

scare Lols re Breton outfit ending up in poonami. Aww re urchin outfit!

mrsw glad you feeling better stick at it and hope to hear more from you (though I'm one to talk).

rosie loving your stories of Islam. Hope rose bud is chilling a bit.

eagle a while back you asked me what I'm buying in eBay. Baby girl sleep suits, pyjama bottom loungey pants and breastfeeding bras. Paints a picture if my life huh, all you need to know! Are you still ebaying?

I hope the worrying sleep regression is easing. I'm where you were - baby some sleeps ok but goes down too late - need to shift it earlier.

Xxx hugs to all

welcome "back" somewhere Has DS started school this term? If so, how is he getting on?

eagle hope it's nice to have dp back

lrm so sorry you've had such a ghastly time. Hope illnesses passed and dearly hope you can catch up on some sleep. Is sleeping fundamentally better??

Afternoon all - DD still full of the cold but struggling on bravely. I bought some baby Olbas Oil (was limited to what was at the local pharmacy) and she's actually been sleeping quite well with that (10 hours solid last night!!!!)

Knotty I love the pics of little Rosa and Luca. The kitchen cupboard one has made me realise though that I will soon be at this stage and my kitchen floor is pretty grim (limestone tiles that never seem particulary clean, esp with DP constantly dropping god knows what on them)

Somewhere yes still ebaying here, although have cut back a lot on baby clothes as the postage charges were crazy. Recent purchases have been NAS dresses for DD, All Saints dress for me, cloth nappies and bike gear for DD! Trying to make sure I sell enough things to cover buying costs as rather skint these days...

Rosie re DD's hair, if you scroll back through this thread you should find a discussion on baby wigs (at one point several of us wish we had some...)

What time does Baby Somewhere go to sleep? I had almost forgotten our previous late bedtimes! It's strange - although in some ways I've gained some of my life back as DD always in bed asleep by 8pm, it's a little bit limiting in that I can no longer be out and about in the evenings. Interestingly, earlier bedtime did more or less coincide with sleeping through the night!

Today has been really nice despite the wintry weather. Had a nice lie-in thanks to DP taking her when he got up at 7am. Then I took DD out for a walk in her new sling (a very late birthday present from DP - it's a special edition one, all the way from Germany with a hummingbird/dragonfly print on it). We walked for miles along the river and canal, looking at trains and boats (incluing a rather hungover hen party in a rowing boat), then through the park to a museum cafe where I had my usual latte and gave DD the spoon with some of the frothy milk on it, which generally keeps her quiet for a few mins.

Then the 3 of us had a late lunch at a nearby pub - 3 course meal for £15 each and DD slept throughout in her car seat. The icing on the cake was a group of firemen coming in for a drink after their shift

oops someone wants feeding - better dash...

Het gang.
Feel a bit better. Yesterday was shocking both of us so ill. Woke up not so ill today. Dp and me me made a fab team yesterday. One slept for an hour one played. It was the only way we got through the day. Baby monkey was very clingy with me and when your ill lifting 23lbs of baby is hard. To answer your question scarecrow his sleep is still random. On average twice a night. Last night took an hour to settle then we both dived into bed at 7:30 fingers crossed. I sprinkled extra sleeping dust on him luckily he slept till 2 so glad for the 6 hours we got.

lrm so hope you and dp better soon. Great teamwork! Random sleep better than all bad sleep! Hope it keeps improving. I often fund some ad hic improvement is precursor to New norm. Fingers crossed it heads that way.

Hope baby eagle better soon too. She sounds v resilient!

kids both full of snit but mostly coping well. Had friends for lunch so dd had what might be her first day with no nap. She was in tears of tiredness by end but pretty good given exhaustion, and both are sound asleep

Struggling with dh again (still). Really not sure how much is me being unreasonable or over reacting. and how much is justified anger and irritation. I think some v justified but because we don't deal with it I then snap and niggle about the smaller stuff too. I sat this morning holding T tight and despairing this morning. He won't do marriage counselling, though think I'll have another go as some of this stiff so deep and sore. we don't seem to be able to resolve it between us and always end up with angry hurt and silence and impasse. Sort if want to lay it out, but feel I've met too many of you now, which is lovely, but it feels unfair on him as it is less anonymous, iyswim. Right better tidy up before he gets back or I'll be on the back foot.

on a more positive note I finally did my local 5k park run today after a break of almost 7 years! Two kids and much chocolate and wine later I'm 4m 26s slower, but really glad I did it and felt good pushing myself a bit.

(not today, yesterday)

Things have gone a bit wrong this evening... DD has just vomited all over me while I was rocking her to sleep in the dark, and then during a discussion with DP about the forthcoming naming ceremony, he says that when I said 'family', he thought I meant that we would invite every single relative as that's what happens in his family apparently. Explained that the venue only has a capacity of 40/50 people, and this would mean inviting immediate family (parents, siblings and their families), plus close friends.

So then I ask him exactly who he did want to invite from his family and he says he would need to ask his dad for a list! This would be the same extended family who mean so much to him that he didn't write a single thankyou letter to them for the presents/cards they sent when DD was born (yup, I wrote every single relative a substantial thankyou letter as it was clear he was never going to bother).

Now he says he doesn't think he can participate in the ceremony unless he's allowed to invite whoever he wants, regardless of numbers. Perhaps he should have thought about this while he was sitting around doing nothing while I was ringing around trying to book a venue, find an available celebrant etc. I really have tried to involve him in this, just like I've tried to involve him in every single aspect of our lives and it's always the same - zero interest from him so I get on and do things, and then he moans that it's not what he wants.

Rant over - sorry to whinge and moan.

Well done on the 5k today Scarecrow and sorry you're having struggles with the other half too

Glad you're feeling a bit better LRM - looking after a baby when you're ill is so, so hard. Hope tomorrow is better still for you

eagle depressingly the same here with thank you letters. And every present and card we ever give. And so on. Feeling a mug

What is it with them eh? I've stormed out the house after more words exchanged and insults traded - currently sat in my car parked up in town, and dinner was sandwiches from the petrol station.

Big hug to you Scarecrow

Eagleray, Scarecrow, so sorry OH are being difficult, I don't know what is wrong with them either, they often criticize when they don't take any initiative, I have the same type of partner here. So frustrating.
Feel free to moan. We are here. And zero judgment. Whether we have met or not.
Scarecrow, I'm feeling quite depressed too with DH, no communication, he is now back after a whole week away, we have hardly spent time alone without the kids, I took DS to his week end classes (swimming etc...) while he looked after A, he has talked more to his grandmas and parents than to me tbh. Not sure where we are heading...

Oh, forgot to say I have a visit scheduled for the new nursery. Fingers crossed they still have vacancies.
Bought wool and cotton yarn today to knit snood and poncho for kids, can't believe it is sooooooooo expensive ! I'd be better off buying the ready made ones but I don't like polyester nor acrylic, maybe I am too posh :(