Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies Part 2

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Our 2nd thread is full but it won't prevent us from laughing, moaning, keeping on supporting each other, sharing and chatting over our new life with 1 or 2, even 5 children !
Here you go, fantastic 40+ Mums, a brand new thread for all of us, old friends from the pregnancy thread or new joiners

Rosie, I caved in on Sunday

btw, are you also Muslim? Feel ignorant but not sure if you would have had to convert to marry dh?

Lol scarecrow. A Muslim man can marry a non Muslim aa long as she believes in God. I have never ' converted'( sisigned a bit of paper) but I have studied Islam and try to live by the teachings of the holy Quran. More of a lifestyle choice than religion. I don't weart higab ( head scarf) here but do in Egypt when we are not at the beach. It was suggested after baby rose was born ( by mil with only good intentions) but No!!!!!
Dh does not go to mosque here, he finds British Muslims odd. He also drinks alcohol far to often but would never eat pork..

Dh is very westernised ( think gorgeous sexy rasta dive instructor) and is very torn between where rose bud should grow up. Here with access to good health care and education but with all the temptations ( boys) or in Muslim country where he would have less worries about her and she would grow up knowing her religion.
Time will tell.
Always very happy to answer questions about Islam, Muslim life, xx

Rose bud has an Islamic name spelt the English way and her last name is Muhammed. In Islam the wife keeps her own name in marriage and children take all fathers names (5) plus there given name. All baby's are born pure so no need for christening type ceremony. We did most of the birth rituals ( first words heard are reading from quran which was lovely as was done by dh and the dr who delivered her) but I refused to shave her head at 7 days or rub mushed up date on her pallet before first feed. )
Thankfully as she was a girl we avoided the whole circumcision thing. (For which i am truly great full as very good friend is still traumatised by what happened to her baby boy in an upstairs room in a mosque in her dh home city)

thank you Rosie. Fascinating. it's interesting to hear a mire nuanced/perhaps ordinary view of living by Islam as otherwise non Muslims tend to see it as all or nothing (ie those are the only versions they see, iyswim), though I don't include "radical" Islam in that as surely only the most obtuse person would think that was how ordinary faithful Muslims live?
I remember once reading an interview with a woman who said she feels sad that people tend to feel wearing her hijab distances her from them so they are less likely to make conversation or smile. Since then I've always smiled at women wearing them (if we are together on the bus or whatever). Most smile back - though some probably in pity that I look a bit crazy .
I love the idea of a meaningful reading when LO is born. Mine were both born to the sounds of me blithering "we have a baby, we have a baby" (dd) and "I gave you a son, a boy, a boy", followed by a low level.medical emergency (haemorrhage)...nit such a promising start for the poor kids

ps DH sounds lovely

running in... thanks Scarecrow I am getting there slowly re the meds and your thoughtful and kind words help me a lot. Come on, crap times, PASS!! DD muttering curses, better go.

Oh, waouh Rosie ! I love hearing about traditions, keep stories coming everyone. Just a quick hello as Anastasia was so poorly that I kept her home with me today, she woke up every hour from 3.30am, and did not nap this morning. MenC jab later.
The hill to DS school will help me tone my legs, for sure ! 4 times a day, I will never be fitter. Trying to keep my 3 course meal everyday to gain back some weight at the same time.

Rose bud haa scremed from 4 till 8 with only a few seconds of not screaming. She has finally been asleep for an hour on my chest. Successful completed transfer to cot. I have a headache like I've spent the night at a very loud gig. I need wine and food! !! Hope you've all had better evenings. ( she's fine )

MrsW, very glad you are getting over PND.
Rosie, I think Rose bud has been talking to A, as she cried on and off from 5.30 to 8. My poor babysitter must have a headache too.
I had to go to a parents meeting tonight for DS and left both at home, bathed and fed, with babysitter. But A needed a BF before nightsleep.
Scarecrow, DH comes back Sat morning. One more day. I m concerned for DS, he is exhausted by the walking, home to nursery, then nursery to school and vice versa after a school day. All in all, the poor 4.9 yo walks for 50' each way, uphill to get to school. We agreed that DH would drop A to nursery as it opens before school, we will save 20' then. I know, it is good work out, but by the end of the week, it gets harder and harder.

There is a new nursery opening next week on the way to school. We go pass it everyday, twice a day. I know the principal. I might get A in there as it is part of the same chain as the one DS went and where she goes now. I've made contact and waiting to visit the premises and talk to the staff. Brand new premises. Hope DH and inlaws won't have a problem with the Jewish ethos though. I'm Catholic and don't have a problem with it.

Rosie you poor thing. Hope it was a good vintage

BBD just one more sleep (assuming you are sensibly in bed!). Ask DH for some time off, even if its just two hours. Hope A recovers soon, too, poor little mite.

MrsW, wonderful to hear from you. Sorry PND still there. Keep reminding yourself it will go, even when you cannot believe it: just say it to yourself again and again. Keep taking care, and seek us out whenever you need or want. (())

God i hope that was a one off. She looks so beautiful again now she's sleeping
Hi Mrs W. Glad things are changing. Every thing passes eventually and you're doing all the right thing. Hugs
Bbd that is at long walk for a little one! Winter is coming too! ! Good luck with the other nursery
I'd tell dh and mil to do the walk themselves for a week if they have a problem.
Oh i hope she sleeps for a few hours.

Hello Ladies! Back from my hols in France Belgium and Holland (a little bit). Caspian getting enormous. Tired, he has cold, has all been crazy! How are you all doing?

Hi badmiss welcome home. Looking forward to hearing about your adventures
Wow last night was baby's are bloody hard work something. I had walked into town, rose bud got hungry on the way home, I stopped in the park and gave her a quick feed but it wasn't enoug. By the time we got home she was howling. . The washing had to come in as it was just starting to rain. ( no tumble dryer here! !!)
The frozen shopping needed put away
Once she starts her evening feed it's 2 hours constant feeding.
By the time I'd got the washing in she was [anger] it was down hill from there

When she had her jabs the nurse put a mile of micropore on each leg so I really wanted to get her in the bath to get it off! !!! Another nightmare. I took her in th bath ( we co bath lol) amd dh tried to get tape off
Reminder to self. ... take little dot plasters to next jabs.
After bath while getting dried. .... poo explosion. And the crying was continues.

Rosie, wishing you a better day with Rose bud. It will get easier, you already know that but yes somedays, these babies are hard work ! Timing is a nightmare, isn't it. I find myself getting everything ready hours before I need to, just in case !
AFM, I hope A will sleep a bit at nursery today.
BadmissM, very happy to have you back.

Great to hear from you Badmiss - been wondering where you were and hoping you are ok!

Rosie poor you - am familiar with those epic fail days where the baby seems to be conspiring against you (and there will always be poo involved at some point). Find your postings about Muslim life v interesting. My only encounter with Islam has been working for an insurance company that suddenly decided (rather naiively) to sell takaful insurance policies (without thinking things through properly, or really understanding how it would work). It backfired spectacularly and provided endless moments of hilarity in the office

MrsW good to hear you are getting there - these crap times will pass (and lovely to see your sense of humour shining through in your posts!)

We've had a bit of a blip with the sleeping as DD seems to have developed separation anxiety. She started crying yesterday every time I walked out of sight - never done this before! Then usual bedtime last night, falling asleep at 8pm and not expecting to hear a thing til 5am, but then she's awake crying at 9.15pm, then again at 11pm. Had to spend ages getting her back to sleep and didn't get to bed myself til 1am. Then she cried at 4am but went back to sleep, then finally awake at 5am! Please, please let this be a one-off...

DP abroad this week and so I've been on my own all week - no idea where the days have gone to. I will get that nursery enrolment done today though...

Sounds like I wasn't the only "single" mum this week ! Welldone to all of us, single and not single !

Having a lovely day today. My smiley chatty happy baby ia back. Lesson learnt. Rose bud ri
Rules in our house ( for now! !!) silly me for thinking a demand fed baby would wait! !! Lol.
Timing is everything you're so right bbd!

I think DD has a cold! Thin trail of snot pouring fr

Oops

...Pouring from her nose. This is new territory for me - maybe that's what the crying/night waking was about? Do I just carry on as normal? Sorry am a bit clueless about ailments as don't think she's had any!

Sorry to hear baby E has a cold. Yes, carry on as normal, offer her plenty of fluids, check her temp as well if you find her warm or rosy cheeks. Big hugs to her.

eagle poor babyE ....and even more poor you. She may want to feed more often than usual as colds are dehydrating and she might be drinking less at each feed too. Waking might be caused by flem etc dripping and making her cough, and or feeling gritty. Poor lamb. Also drink lots yourself and dose on Vit C and zinc (for absorption). If you get the cold the upside is she will get your immunity. You can give 2.5ml of Calpol if she seems unhappy.
we are doing all these chez Scarecrow as T also coldy. Mostly though reassure yourself that babies don't feel anything like as ghastly as adults do, and they can also just indulgence milk, cuddles and sleep, which is what we would LIKE to do

DD gone with daddy to Goodwood Revival today dressed in sort of wartime evacuee/urchin boy look with a trilby. Random mix but v v cite with her mop of Holden hair and cheeky face .
I've also spent stupid amount on outfit for T for family get together week tomorrow. My sisters and I and all our 7 children getting together for first time since T born

Rosie no hungry baby waits quietly....demand fed or not And this only gets worse as they get to be toddlers....as you will remember at every stage!!

Running or more accurately lurching in after three stupidly busy days and work and three sleepless nights. I empathise with everyone's nighttime dramas. BG is yelling in his sleep don't know what the problem is. Apparently did it in his nap at the childminder's today too.

Thank you for meet up on Tuesday bbd, so lovely to see you.

And thank you for all your lovely posts everyone - good to see you mrsw and badmissm - you help keep me sane.

I shall return when I can be lucid!