Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies Part 2

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Our 2nd thread is full but it won't prevent us from laughing, moaning, keeping on supporting each other, sharing and chatting over our new life with 1 or 2, even 5 children !
Here you go, fantastic 40+ Mums, a brand new thread for all of us, old friends from the pregnancy thread or new joiners

midget pm'd my mobile no to you in case you can make it

On train with randomly asleep baby, headache and history's mist chaotic morning behind me already. More later when I see funny side!

Goat so sorry you poorly. Do take care and rest. Rest sorry won't see you - hope shoes, school terms and so in all sorted soon, and we can have a lazy baby day again soon.

Yeah ! Shoes have turned up !
Scarecrow, hope the headache leaves you soon, lots of water, my friend is what you need and maybe paracetamol.
Back to my cooking

Somewhere, I m relieved to know I am not the only one who cannot handle a toddler and a baby on my own outside. Thank you for your post. DH thinks I am overstressed. Maybe, I am but I am not the only one.

Oh god bbd - about a months go I took them to the princess di memorial playground and lost ds no less than 5 times and it was REALLY STRESSFUL. I realised I'd been somewhat blasé!

I think my sis can do it cause her older boy is not a bolter.

Oh Somewhere, 5 times, I would have had a heart attack. DS escaped oncein Regents Park, racing on his scooter with a friend, I promised myself never never again.
Atm waiting outside his school, left him at 10, picking up at 12.15, same tomorrow, have to drop A at nursery at 9am, hopefully I will have 1.30h to spare, a coffee at a terrasse and a newspaper and quiet time would be wonderful. So Parisian, isn't it?

Goat, how are you feeling today ?

Hello, I am feeling much better thank you bbd. It was a singularly unpleasant 48 hours, but the childminder very kindly took BG so DH didn't miss the beginning of term and I could hide under the bedclothes and silently pray for someone to hit me over the head with a sandbag and knock me out till it was all over... Haven't gone into work today as still a little unsure of a train ride, but am doing a little useful stuff.

Hope the meet up went well and you all found each other ok.

So glad you are feeling a lot better Goat - it sounded horrible, and it was a shame not to meet you, but pleased to hear you're recovering.

London trip was really good - it was just me and Scarecrow in the end (plus Baby T and Baby Eagleray). Baby T is utterly gorgeous and judging by Baby E's grabbing at him, I think she felt the same way . We went to the National Portrait Gallery then had some lunch - it was great fun and thank you Scarecrow for your company - it was fab to meet you!

I stayed in London overnight with a friend and finally got home late last night - bit knackered today as have done so much walking but it's been a great week.

Sorry the meetup date was so awkward for most people - it hadn't really crossed my mind that schools were going back this week. Anyway, we can do it again another time I hope!

I hope the return to/starting school has gone ok for everyone

Goat, also relieved you are on the mend. Poor you :(
Or :(---- ?!

BBD, Somewhere, Midget, Knotty etc hope all the back to school and new starters went well and they are settling in happily. It must be quite a wrench for mummies too.

Sorry not to see you all, though happily enjoyed a really lovely day with Eagle and Baby Eagle all to ourselves. T literally squealed with excitement at BabyE at at every opportunity for the whole four hours or more (I guess I can teach him about plating hard to get later :) ) He has exceptionally good taste though, I'll give him that. He also randomly slept for a full 12 hours that night, so I might just pay their train ticket next time!

At the other end of the spectrum I've had my five year old niece most of today and am actually slightly traumatised by the experience - not her, my dd was hyper excited, didn't eat enough lunch, didn't want to nap... She took scissors to a book, pinched Ts face badly, refused to share the iPad, books, dolls...., was terribly ride and un sharey with little girl who came to play later, whined.... To cap it all niece almost cried with distress when Tom cried so I fed him to sleep for morning nap and paid all day as he was out of synch, hungry at odd times and then got tummy ache. Spectacular parenting fail, except perhaps that we managed to go swimming and nobody drowned or was arrested.

Oh, and niece pointed out to DD that a frozen Frube is "just a frozen Froobe" so my vaguely healthy affordable "Froobe ice cream" treat is no longer an option... Sigh.

Sorry not to name check more, am mentally shattered! And packing to go camping early tomorrow...

Goat, so glad you are on the mend, hope the week end will see you in better shape to enjoy family time.
Scarecrow, how do you do it ? Camping now ? Waouh, you are so full of energy ! Very jealous of your day out with Eagle, next time, I will join.
Midget, how was DD's first few days back at school ?

So I did not have my 1.30 hour to myself. DS has a stomach bug, started Thu afternoon, threw up 3 times, 1st on the black merino sheepskin, 2nd at the dining table, 3rd in bed, he could not keep anything down, even water but he was fine this morning so I sent him to school and ran back home to wash sheepskin, table cloth and bedsheets ! Fever is back though this evening.
A slept and ate at nursery today. But I m paying theprice of letting her with other people, she is much more demanding, clingy when I have her afterwards. Hmmm the guilt is creeping its way back slowly in my head...
DH leaves on Sun for a whole week. I don't know what goes through his brain sometimes, if he actually has one tbh, it is going to be the real first week of DS at school with normal hours and A's first week at nursery too, he expects me and the children to adjust in the blink of an eye, I know, he thinks really highly of me and my organisation skills but a 4.9 yo and a 13 mo don't always play by the rules. I have no back up here. Arrrggghhhhhh
Midget, I will need this coffee with you at some point :) !

Wishing you all a peaceful week end.

Goat, glad you're feeling better, sounds horrible!
Eagle & Scarecrow, sounds like the meet-up went well. Really hope to make the next one. And Scarecrow, have a good time camping, hope the weather is kind to you! BBD, your poor DS, hope he's on the mend, and that your week passes peacefully. For what it's worth Rosa is also very clingy at the moment and I'm with her all the time, so it might not necessarily be about nursery. Even if it is, she will adjust, but I know it must be very hard. But I think we feel guilty as mums over something or other most of the time and there isn't really a way round it!
Yup, Rosa is a proper velcro baby at the moment! And although she's usually a real daddy's girl when DP is home, she just wants me at the moment which is in turn lovely (lots of cuddles and when she puts her little arms out for me, it's amazing ) but hard to get anything done! She's better for DP if she can't see me, so last night I was hiding in the kitchen when he took her up for her bath (which he does every night and she's always been fine). He always takes her up to bed after her bedtime milk as well but last night, she started crying and reaching for me so I took her up instead. Obviously I didn't mind but poor DP felt a bit , plus I had to stop reading with DS for a few minutes. It's just a phase I know, so I'm trying to make the most of all the cuddles! Off into town with DS whilst Rosa is asleep at lunchtime (DP at home today), then I'm teaching him how to make a shepherd's pie! The plan is to get him cooking one meal a week by his 10th birthday (end of Feb) - watch this space! Hope you all have a good weekend.

Hiya sorry for absence. Mid move of mil and of us into her space within our flat.

Knotty love the cooking plan re ds - am gonna adopt!

Bbd I know the guilt its awful but handholding - it's got to be and she will be fine

Sorry no time to read back!

Hope for another meet up too xxxx

Just a quick one, DH has left to LA with Imodium :( A has stomach bug too DS is better today... I m holding on because I can't afford to be sick but my tummy is not great either.....
Hope you all have better week end and nicer week than mine :)

Oh no BBD! Hope they all recover soon and you managed to fight it off.

oh BBD you poor thing. Do hope you avoid worst and perhaps A will wake up much improved. As MrsW would say, "this, too, will pass".

talking if which, MrsW have waited to write a nicely worded typo free post (not on mobile with one thumb), but such moments elude me, so mobile rather than nothing. So sorry you are struggling. Like too many of us I have experience of anxiety and depression, so for all our different circumstances the empathy is very real. You are kind and courageous to talk about it. I hope the support you are getting in RL is helping. From personal experience u would say take the recommendation for medication very seriously. I resisted GP and three different psychiatrists urging me to have meds for nine years. My mum, my husband and one if my beat friends were very against it, as - it felt - was "society". It took a lot of cajoling in the end but taking meds was the best decision I ever made. I have my life back in every sense; it probably saved my career and marriage; and I would not have had my DC if I had not. I was terrified I'd loose myself or become zombified - actually I was not myself without meds and was trapped: now I feel happy or sad, even "depressed" in the casual sense, but all in a normal range of emotions. it took three different ones to find the right one (one made things worse, one not strong enough) and even with meds re overt us uneven and takes time, and you might (or might not) benefit from another sort if therapy. But do please consider taking them. When you do give yourself time, too, don't expect a miracle overnight, take care in other ways too (exercise, sleep, friends), and make sure you have first class help with dc and any other responsibilities when you are first taking them as you will feel strange. Be kind to yourself. And PM me if you ever want support of any kind. Scarecrow x

among othe let typos "even with meds RECOVERY IS uneven".

Ahhhh help ! I almost burnt the house down, put some rice in rice cooker and switch it on, without adding water..... And I lost the raincover for the pushchair, hope it won't rain too much at 8am when I drop A tomorrow. Looks like I m going shopping tomorrow. As if I had time :) !

Bedtime, BBD.

Yes Scarecrow, will do in 5 min

So day 1 of school and nursery run, we managed to be on time for both ! Yeah ! Now off to pick up A from nursery. Hope thisrain will stop between 2.30 and 4 so that I can walk home with DS and A.
Scarecrow, has L started the montessori nursery ?
Goat, are you too back at work now ?
Eagleray, what do you think of the raincover from Baby Jogger for City Mini GT if you have one ? I don't know if I should buy one or not. I have an old McLaren whose raincover I lost. But have not bought one for BJCM GT. so I don't know which one to buy !
Will be back later xxxxx

BBD glad to hear you're having a better day after the rice incident - is everyone recovering from their stomach bug now? I have to confess that I never got round to buying a rain cover for the BGCM GT yet - it's got a wet a couple of times, but other than that we seem to have managed, although should really get one for the coming winter... I recall trying to fit the cover from my Chicco Liteway onto it with partial success though!

I hope A has had a good time at nursery - I'm devoting time this week to viewing and hopefully booking one for Baby E. Along with job hunting and naming ceremony organising

Hello everyone, thank you for the get well wishes. I am now well on the road to recovery, and the silver lining is that I lost half a stone...
BBD, I too hope that A is enjoying nursery. As I have been told so often, it is harder for the parents than the babies! I know that BG has a great time when he is at the childminder's, especially now he is walking running madly and can get into absolutely everything. glad you caught your rice cooker in time - this shows that you need some rest and relaxation... If you (and anyone else ) ever want a coffee or some such on a Wednesday, I am up for it.
scarecrow, thank you for your honesty about the depression. I too have suffered from this and in NZ I had a particularly bad time. Poor DH. It's extra hard when you're not supposed to talk about it though - the pull-yourself-together mentality. Extra strong in NZ with all that pioneering spirit sloshing about. And you deserve a medal for having three children at once! Don't forget the MN parenting motto - it's a successful parenting day if at the end of it you can say 'everyone fed, no one dead' This has already been trotted out several times in the Goat household, and we only have one!
So good to hear that the slimline in numbers meetup went well. Really hope we can make the next one. And Eagle, good to hear that the travel went ok.
Knotty, good luck with the cooking lessons. I bet your DS enjoys it immensely. Being let loose in the kitchen!!
I am back at work and openmouthed in horror at my timetable for the term. So many late classes which mean I won't get to see BG before bed on those days . I take comfort from the fact that Iwill still have Wednesdays with him though.

Hi all just popping in. ... lovely long posts to read :)
Scarecrow loved your post. .. we've all had days like that and the 'every one fed no one dead' love it. There is an Arabic saying I love 'yom assel yom bassel' it means ' some days are honey, some days are onions' ithink you hhad an onion day!
Hope those with dcs going to school/nursery are coping with your separation anxiety. Xx
Dd has taken to snacking and napping rather than sleeping and eating so nothing getting done. :)
Had lovely day with my cousin and his wife and dd on Friday she did cangaroo parenting with her dd who is now an adorable 3.5 year old. She has a great parenting style. ... ( more on that later)
Re pnd..... I'm finding my confidence is in my boot. Got court date for eviction of Tennant through and had panic attack about going to court. A year ago I would have been honesty looking forward to it. Have dipped out of dd1s stupid baby shower as I don't want to be in a room with all the people going. Worried this could escalate. Can't motivat myself to go to baby groups and don't know anyone in the city we now live in.

Hi all

Hope to be on here more now mil gone.she was a huge help and is lovely but nice she's gone.

Sorry to hear about people being ill. Hope all are better.

BBd well done on the school run! My DS's school is not starting till Thursday week!!!

Xxx

Ps everyone fed no one dead - I love it.

Also yom assel yom bassel - fab.
Today a bit bassel as I'm
Fasting x