Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies Part 2

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Our 2nd thread is full but it won't prevent us from laughing, moaning, keeping on supporting each other, sharing and chatting over our new life with 1 or 2, even 5 children !
Here you go, fantastic 40+ Mums, a brand new thread for all of us, old friends from the pregnancy thread or new joiners

Hello and thank you for all your birthday wishes. Today has been a mixed bag - 'D'P has done absolutely nothing for my birthday (unless you count the birthday card from DD). He went downstairs this morning and I thought he was making breakfast, but no, he had gone into the spare room and 'accidentally' fallen asleep.

The spa was good, although v rushed to get there. Massage lovely and DD had a nice time in the pool. Decided to downgrade nice lunch out to a picnic in the park as felt I was asking for too much and DP rolled his eyes at the thought of making effort for even that so I went nuts. It seems that he thought he was doing me a big favour by coming to the spa and couldn't understand what else I wanted. I said how about some nice things on my birthday and said I hadn't told him what to do and so he didn't do anything. (I did ask for one thing for my birthday but he's going to buy it secondhand off Ebay and that could take weeks)

We did manage a picnic in the end and it was quite enjoyable, although he still doesn't 'get' the birthday thing apparently and thinks I'm making a fuss over nothing.

Anyway, I thought I would take advantage of his lazy attitude and so he can sit on his arse tonight and babysit because I'M GOING OUT (truth is, I'm too tired to go anywhere but am going to do it anyway as a lovely friend has managed to get her DP to babysit too and it will be fun)

Well done on your c25k completion scarecrow what a great achievement. I'm going to start running again as soon as I've got childcare - it's very cathartic isn't it?

Have a great weekend everyone and looking forward to next week!

am I the only person so superficial I'm already planning what T might wear to meet you on Weds?!

LRM sorry sleep so bad. Wish I could offer some useful support. Happy to unroll some bedding and fresh 400 thread cotton sheets and cashmere pashminas for you in snug when you get a break. Have you tried co sleeping?

bbd and eagle hope you are still having better nights?

Scarecrow, well done on the 5k run and v v v glad your dad is getting better. No, you are not superficial, the 1st impression is important, isn't it ? But T is so lovely, whatever he wears !
LRM, I just found the baby sleep site, there might be some info that could help baby M ?
Eagleray, sorry DP has been a bit selfish on your bday. Men sometimes don't get it...
Knotty, A's first settling in session was not too bad, she cried a little bit but then was happy to play around by herself. We will have another session of 2 hours next week, then 3 hours and 5 hours. Hope she will manage to nap easily.
For the Past 3 nights, A has slept with DH only in the room and managed to self settle back to sleep. We will keep on doing that next week...
Looks like I won't make it for the meet up on Wed, what a shame really.
Final countdown to sort out DS' uniform, shoe shopping is a nightmare, could not find anything on the high street so went online, fingers crossed they arrive on time for his first day on Thursday... Can anyone advise on where to get grey cotton or flannel bermudas ? Could buy only one pair on Petit Bateau, those I found were in polyester and I hate polyester. Tried Vert baudet, found nice cotton and corduroy trousers but no bermuda.
Have also to label A's clothing for nursery. I'd better get going.
Enjoy this wonderful sunny Sunday !

Scarecrow nope, you are definitely not the only superficial one here, having just bought DD some tweedy shorts at a car boot sale that she can wear with leggings and her nice dotty polarn smock top - beat that for superficial

LRM so sorry you are going through this - really wish I could share my sleep with you

BBD such a shame you won't be able to make it - hopefully we can organise another day soon? I'm no expert on boys' clothes, but have just taken a quick look on ebay and there's some Paul Smith Junior ones age 5 upwards (brand new) - no idea at all if that's any use or not? So pleased that A was ok at nursery - will be interested to see how the naps go - we shall be doing the nursery thing ourselves in just a few weeks' time...

Feeling a little delicate today after my night out last night - am normally a v moderate drinker but managed to sink 3 large glasses of prosecco and a good deal of whisky too. It was worth it though!!

Hi all. Sorry for radio silence. I keep wanting to catch up on the thread and write a nice response to you all but then the thread moves too fast and I get stressed about missing stuff. So I've decided to just say hi and wave to everyone and try to pick back up.

Sorry I'm so out of date but:
Eagle hope your DH is behaving now!
Rosie have you rescheduled your trip or still avoiding crazy in-law behaviour?

Hi to anyone new I've not 'met' yet xx

Remembering, you have summed it up perfectly - I want to keep up with responding to everything, but life and this thread seem to hurtle by so fast!
We are recovering from jet lag slowly, and whatever afflicted BG on the flight home,making the second leg the longest 13 hours of my life... He is currently drawing all over a Christmas card,so obviously feeling better!
Soooo... Where and how are we meeting tomorrow? So excited! (And yes, the wardrobe is being thoroughly perused.) sorry you can't make it bbd, hope to see you soon.

Ps having just learned to walk,this is all BG wants to do - so I will be the blur running past you at speed after the enthusiastically galloping toddler... Might get to join a conversation every so often!

ooh yes, what is plan eagle?
Goat, where approx are you coming in from? Can you get to Kew Gardens or central London more easily??

Off to an interview for a ceramics course in central London today. Spent two nights on panic portfolio (much less grand ot impressive than sounds) so shattered and wondering where I'll find time to actually do a course! Now to find a top that is not full if baby sick.....

Am end of Met line, NW. Central London is easier if that suits people, but I can get anywhere!

Good luck with interview, scarecrow!

Morning, or rather afternoon! Had a bit of a nightmare morning and supposed to be headed off on journey towards London by now but it's all gone a bit wrong. DD screaming all morning (constipation I think) and bit me really hard during 3 attempts to feed her, then managed to grab a glass beaker and chuck it on the kitchen floor, scattering shards of glass everywhere. Finally asleep now so I can bloody well type for 2 minutes!

Oh, and she slept from 8pm til 7.30am this morning - first few nights of sleep through she cried as soon as she woke up in the morning but now she doesn't bother. I can only assume she's more orientated and therefore reasonably happy when she wakes up. I woke up this morning and realised it was relatively late and was worried because was quiet, then was relieved to see her lying looking happy in her cot. It's like the last few months of cosleeping mean nothing to her

Scarecrow very best of luck for your ceramics interview - how exciting!

Remembering lovely to hear from you - please just drop in and let us know how you're getting on if that's all you have time for - it's really hard in those early days to find time to read/type! How are you getting on with slings, feeding etc? Hope all is well.

Goat I will pm you in a sec...

Eagle, let me know in case I can make it. It wuld be really great to meet the babies and of course you and Goat and Scarecrow again. Anyone else joining ?
Goat, DS was walking for the pleasure of it, no destination really, just walking ! A started a few weeks ago but still not stable enough and her frehead has constant bruises and bumps....
Scarecrow, good luck for interview !

Hello all. I've slipped behind the thread so general good wishes rather than details, I'm afraid... BabyWooster is much better, thanks heavens - no more dairy intolerance so JUST the lactose and reflux left, but that's relatively manageable so she's happy - near to crawling and quite often sleeping through. I have fallen down the rabbithole, I'm afraid tho and PND has struck. Horrible anxiety and panic which I have never had before along with 'normal' low feelings. Debating whether to take pills for it - doc is very pro but I am very anti-pill. Dunno - any advice, oh wise fellow zimmermums?

Hey what's the plan eagle?

Mrs w i say take the pills - life's too short not to. Pnd is horrible.

Sorry super busy here but want to make tomoz if I can xx

MrsW, I second Somewhere, if there have a cure, why not use it ? What are the side effects ? Sorry, I am totally unfamiliar with PND although I am aware/heard of it.
Somewhere, I hope to be able to join too tomorrow but with 2 kids, I fear the worse. But if you and I make it, at least, our DS will have a playmate !

A's second settling in session went well today, she moaned a bit when I left, then played and fell asleep on her own. She was absolutely fine when I picked her up. Fingers crossed. Friday she will have to stay for half a day.
Her sleep is much better, 2 short naps, less than an hour each during the day whenever she starts rubbing her nose or eyes, sleeping with DH only while I cosleep with DS, she has managed to sleep from 8ish to 7ish. Keeping everything crossed here too.

Hope you are all well xxxxx

Sorry - we organised offthread as seemed easiest way to do it and share detailed info, plus am en route to London today so typing on phone.

Venue is Southbank, 11ish - pls pm me, goat or scarecrow for more info - really hope you can all come

Mrsw sending you big hugs and warm wishes. No exp of PND but am familiar with panic attacks/anxiety. Yes to drugs - as a way of getting you to a safe place (like a life raft) then ongoing support, counselling etc - hope that makes sense. Please keep in touch - we are all holding your hands x

Somewhere, I will pm you plans for tomorrow!
If older children come, then BG will not be the only one whizzing round... today he cracked walking and there is no stopping him.
Hello mrsw lovely to see you again. I also think take the pills. If there is a way of feeling better, why not use it? Being a mum is hard enough! And if we are in physical pain, we think nothing if taking something to relieve it. Hope you feel better soon.

Oh meh, I have somehow got a tummy bug overnight of the most delightful kind. So I won't be able to come today. The childminder has kindly agreed to take BG for the day and I will be crawling back to bed.
I was so looking forward to today, and BG's apparel had been laid out ready. I really hope we can meet again another time. Have fun, everyone!

Hi all. ...grrrr keep losing posts. Hi remembering i struggle to keep up to! ( and have forgotten what i wanted to say by the time I've read all)
Mrs W hi and hugs. Take the pills. Pnd is due to an imbalance of your system, things have just not got back in order after birth. The pills help the body get sorted. Please don't struggle unnecessarily. Xx

Goat sorry to hear your not well x
Hope you all enjoy your meet up today and hope i can get to meet you all sometime.
Oh also Mrs w ask for thyroid check often has same symptoms as pnd and easy treated
Afm... House is costing a fortune ( which I don't have) have decided to sell once this is sorted. Very sad as it was a great achievement for me to buy a house as a single mum and the older girls and I have great memories there but life moves on and the money will let me take a year off with baby rose. (And clear all debts)
Baby rose is great love her more every day. She has become the noisiest eater ever. Along with the clicking there is now a whole orchestra of other sounds. Yumuumyum , mmmmmm, with a fanarly of lip smacking. Not great for discreet public feeding!

Am reading baby whisper. She has some good (common sense) ideas but I can't get on with routine side. ... It just doesn't fit with our lifestyle. Baby rose is providing to be an okay sleeper ( for now) and co sleeping is great.
Dh is taking a few days of so will be home at lunchtime and not back until Monday. Will be lovely to spend some quality time as a family. Xx

Flying in slightly ashamed at lack of posting. Is today still happening. May pop down but not too sure who I will look for when I get there. Is BBD there as We have met before? Boo hiss to tummy bugs. And mrs W - for what it's worth - I would take the pulls. It's a chemical thing and needs a kick start to recovery perhaps? I don't agree with happy pills all the time but sometimes it seems right and this is one of those times.

Hello everyone. What a lovely day for a meet up in Southbank. I won't be with you this time though. Scarecrow and Eagleray, Somewhere, enjoy ! Poor Goat, hope you feel better soon. Midget, I would have loved to see you again, it has been a long time. Rosie, sorry to hear about project of selling house, you must be so proud, you made this money on your own and it will buy you some time with baby Rose, what a great achievement indeed !
On a very superficial note, I m a bit stressed because DS school shoes have not been delivered yet, he starts tomorrow... had to buy them online as his size was not available in the UK, bet all other Mums dealt with that a while ago, stupid me for having left things to last minute, lesson learnt.

Hi really wanted to come but think I won't make it after all. Just too much going on and if I'm the only one with a mobile child it will be nigh on imposs.

Hope there will be another one once my ds is in school! Will suggest as much once dust has settled. (Mil moving out this weekend)

Have a great time xxx

I'm en route - nearly there!

Morning all! Just popping on to say have a lovely time at your meet-up today - I really wanted to come but it's DS's last day of school holidays and he's been at a sleepover last night and has gone swimming straight from his friend's house this morning - I need to collect him mid-afternoon. Hope those of you who make it have a great time. I'd love to do another one, I'm only an hour from Central London by train so should be able to sort it. Goat, really hope you feel better soon. BBD, hope the shoes turn up!