Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies

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For gorgeous, frolicking and fabulous 40-somethings to share the joys of becoming a Mummy, just a little bit later than most!! . Park your zimmer-frame next to your baby buggy, put your feet up, and come and join us in the snug.

I forgot eagle!! how could i? Have been laughing at your holiday tales

Loving the Babybel nickname - very clever!! That's what we'll call her then!

Knicky: with you on the lack of sex!! We've also not DTD since conception - it's been more psychology can for me, after 2 m/c & DS's very premature arrival. Not sure how/when we'll start again. But only 4 weeks post-CS so not a big issue ATM.

Seaside: thanks for tips - am going to speak to specialist BF/scbu/hospital expert in infant feeding tomorrow & see what she suggests. Have had good support from unit but Babybel has never fed from me in a month. Need to discuss options & decide way ahead. Hate expressing. Fed up being stuck indoors &'DS playing up with lack of attention.

cheese wow you've done amazingly to get breast milk into babybel for a whole month in those circs! if you have to stop, you should be really proud. i expressed for less than 2 weeks and hated it so much could not face getting new expensive pump out of box once home from hospital. still bf, would rather never go out in evening and do all night feeds than have to pump ever again. my sympathy.

I can recommend cosleeping as excellent alternative to coil

Im so chatty today. think must have had accidental caffeine in coffee. baby s asleep since 9, I've been up watching tv. idiot.

that got me through a whole feed seaside: thank you! at co-sleeping advice. Right, back to sleep...

Seaside ! Did you enjoy tv ? I have not watched anything for ages... Too tired, always fall asleep in front of tv now.... Useless. Worse than an 85 year old grandma !
Xxx to all

Maybe you really needed the late night tv session seaside - always chastise myself for not using time wisely when baby E is asleep. Last night I should have done holiday washing/unpacking but stayed up til nearly 2am editing holiday photos.

Baby E feeding crazily at mo but have mastered the art of BF while asleep so am surviving the frequent feeds. I think that's why she's l

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Looking so porky now as often wake up after an hour or more and she's still chomping away.

So sad to see so many feeding problems on here - it can really cloud those early days/weeks with a new baby. I think you have to be really lucky to get away trouble-free and have a baby who gains weight perfectly. Am shocked sometimes at how my supply seems to be improving/increasing still after all those months - took its time!

Hey seaside as I wake up from a night of peaceful bed sharing I think it triangulates that bed sharers are soft touches.

Thanks for sympathy and advice scare and chair and midget and bbd.

As we are friends with key worker we know that nursery head is thought to be a 'bit of a nightmare'. I think she got emotional and blurted it out in a frenzy. I think it's true (not no boundaries but needs more) and actually it's a bit of a relief to start sending him to his room when he climbs on the table.

He's four and a half not two so you can see it is time.

bbd yy to 85 years

Old re telly! I never watch.

scare hope you are doing ok and things are getting better. We ARE all your friends here

Yy to where is Knicky?

Xx

Oups Somewhere, sorry I got confused, so our DS are the same age, I shall now remember ! My little golden nugget as I sometimes call him still tries to push boundaries further, but being firm and consistent with a bit of distraction and bribery - bad, I know - we eventually get him to do what needs to be done. Chairman, I love the singing idea, we too have a tidying up song, and also practice the "lets play together, basket ball for tidying up ...."
My second little golden nugget has runny nose, so she is now feeding, sleeping, snoring and coughing on me. We will have a whole day of cuddles in bed today. And time to read and post on MN !

A week to the minute after his birth, we were sitting in a and e with Nye. He's now in neonatal intensive care under the lamps with severe jaundice. If he doesn't improve he'll have to have a blood transfusion .

Oh gosh cycle so sorry - what a worry for you. No experience of jaundice but hope he picks up v soon. Sending you big hugs x

Cycle, poor you and Nye, bringing you tea and cake xxxxx

Hi cycle I have lots of experience with jaundice. Ds was under the lights for 36 hours. They know what to do and will sort it. Very common and solvable. It's awful though having to leave them under the lights with their little bodies and their eyes darting around and all you want to do is hold them. Never had the transfusion but praying baby cycle doesn't need it. My sisters first baby spent two weeks in nicu but was fine. my heart goes out to you xxx

Cycle - another one here for you and thinking of Nye. Also know a few babies hospitalised for this but all recovered well. At the moment though a horrible experience. Hugs to you both.

Glad the sun is out, this will also help mummy and baby x

hey cycle thinking of you too - baby s was jaundiced in nicu, and jumped pretty close to the line once so spent plenty of time with the lamps, I know how you feel, they look just so vulnerable in there. The lamps are really effective, and the breast milk will have been helping too - somewhere is right, they see this all the time, and will be able to help - its almost standard for prems, and common for all. Willing babycycle to beat this without transfusion ((()))

Thanks all for more kind and wise messages. We had a v g night with feeds etc; I even woke before the children at 6am and could make tea, then had 45 mins peacefully with DD before got T up, which was such a happy treat.

Yesterday I practiced a little mindfulness every time I did something with or for T, especially feeding, studying and just loving how he held his delicate hands or clasped my top, or how his jaw moved or eye lashes are starting to grow. It really centred me.

I have also decided to stop being passive aggressive and grumpy with DH as he is trying to get close again. I still feel a childish need for an apology and know we need to establish some better ground rules, but I think it will work best from a more reassured and cheerful home, plus it can't be good for DD with tension in the air. Chatting to you all really helped me find the grace to do this, so thank you all.

And now the sun is out too

Sorry a bit me-me: I thought you deserved a more cheerful post from Scarecrow-land.

Just moving T into his 0-3m clothes: I can't get over how much he has bulked out into them. I really want to slow down time so much on this maternity leave in a way I didn't feel so conscious of with DD.

Cycle - just to say I'm thinking of you & willing baby cycle better. My DD had a week-long scbu stay due to low body temperature/blood sugar & jaundice - she was under the lights too. The jaundice makes them very sleepy - DD had to be woken for feeds, then needed tube/bottle fed, so I expressed for her - but that's another story......

Fingers crossed the lights do the trick...

Ps was in Sainsbury's at 9am with Babybel & DS. It will never happen again!

To Anyone feeling not so good today, and those who feel v good with the sun out, made some blueberry muffins this morning, come and share with me ! Please ! Otherwise I will gain all the pg weight back in one day. I can't resist cakes or biscuits, a god reason for not having any at home. But the blueberries were going bad and I hate wasting food, could not think of any other way to use them... :)

Good reason, not god !

cycle nothing to add to the brilliant advice from those who have been there, but positive vibes for baby cycle and for you. We were in hospital with DS because of weight loss and it was awful seeing his tiny body connected to a drip and monitors, but these hard times pass and you will soon be home cuddling your healthy baby.

scarecrow great to see that things are looking more positive. It must be hard to fight the urge to stubbornly insist on an apology but so encouraging that DH wants to get closer. I hope this is the start of the rebuilding of your relationship and you can truly start to be a family unit. Re bonding, love the mindfulness. I've worked at stepping back to enjoy DD and I think she's amazing. I stole her and took her to bed with me for the evening last night. We lay there looking into each others eyes and she gave me some of her beautiful smiles. Today I wanted to hold her constantly. It's working!

Big wave everyone. Enjoy the sunshine.

Running in quickly before crashing into bed ridiculously early

cycle hugs and getting well thoughts for babycycle. BG had jaundice too, it's a bit freaky seeing them swathed in blue lightand with the little eye masks, but it works so well. Fingers crossed.

scarecrow read your thread. You are an amazing person. All that to deal with and you can still find it within you to respond positively to mil and DH. I hope his coming closer is the start of a new and lovely era for you all.

somewhere that was of your nursery. And hardly helpful, especially with all the newness in your DS's little life.

cheese BG is ff since 16 weeks, has thrived happy and healthy, a giant amongst prems! 73 cm long and counting. It's the love that goes in with the food that counts...

chairman so glad things are feeling lighter and better.

bbd how do you find time for muffin baking?! Two LOs and back at work... You are amazing. Oh, and pass those muffins along!

seaside lrm knicky lovely to see you again. eagle and midget welcome back from holidays. Hello to anyone I have forgotten!

I too am a granny when it comes to watching anything. Don't think I have seen the end of a film since the start of pregnancy. Can tell you how lots of them start, though!
Work is a bit of a nightmare at the moment, so much marking and other fun stuff like writing handbooks for next year. All to looming deadlines. But I absolutely refuse to give up my Wednesdays with BG. Even if I am completely knackered by his insistence that the day starts at 4 am. (My mother just laughs at me. Apparently I was the same. Oops.)
Bedtime. Sorry folks...

Hugs to cycle be home soon xxx